July 16, 2022
Reflection
THE OCEAN OF MARRIAGE
Marriage is a mighty ocean.
Having stood at its shore for years a couple move into its waters on their wedding day - if not earlier.
Some stay near its edge - the shore - the sure - for years - enjoying the waves - the crashing - the splashing - the surfing and the sailing.
But as time goes on some couples move out into the depths of its waters.
Marrriage can be mighty deep - hopefully.
To sail smoothly, a couple needs to be willing to dive into the emotional isssues of life together. This takes time - lots of time. People need to learn to swim - so they won't sink or drown. Some are scared to death of the waters.
A couple needs to allow for moods and mistakes - waves of emotions - drifting - as long as they stay together - communicating, listening, talking with each other - being open to what's happenng within each other - and their marrriage.
Figuring takes time - figuring needs time. They need to put everrything on the table - everything of each other. Figurings are the gifts of marrriage - the self- discoveries - the other-discoverings - the life discoveries.
Communion - communications - call for basic postures.
Wanting to make a marriage work is good - but it's not enough. Wanting can be too passive.
Willingness too is good - but it too is not enough. Willingness is the choiice, but it needs more. It needs actions.
Working is the key - working to make the marriage work - now that's closer to the key.
Better: it's working on specifics - particulars - behavioros - the big things - the little things like not slamming doors - putting dishes in the dishwasher - and emptying the dishwasher - handing the TV clicker to the other - asking - seeking - knocking on the other's door - and being invited within over and over again.
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