Saturday, October 12, 2019

October 12, 2019



THERE  ARE  THINGS  
I  CAN’T  EXPLAIN  

There are things I can’t explain.
Sorry. I would like to. I’ll try but
there are things I can’t explain.

Like a couple who date, get engaged,
live together, get married and then
they realize they have landed in hell.

Like I know I am a procrastinator.
I really bother people being late,
but then I do it over and over again.

You tell me I don’t listen. You tell me
you are going to do this or go there
and I don’t hear a word you said.

It’s one more lie - from elected or
appointed officials in our church or our
government and folks refuse to see it.

Jesus said it: “The truth will set us free,”
but we won’t ask questions and name
what’s going on - but why, why why?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


October  12, 2019 



Thought for today: 


“God knows why he gives a dog sores on his head.”  

“Bon Die konnin pouki sa Li bay chin deye tal.”

Someone

Friday, October 11, 2019

October 11,  2019


WOOD

When did God come with the idea of wood?
Wow!  The possibilities of wood. Wow! Wow!

A pop stick - holding cold, delicious  ice cream....
A violin ….
A piano ….
A table ….
A bureau ….
A floor ….
A door ….
A ping pong paddle ….
A ruler ….
A pencil ….
Paper ….
Chopsticks ….
Clogs in Holland ..,,
A house ….
A cross … oops! Didn’t think of that one at first ….

When did God come with the idea of wood?
Wow!  The possibilities of wood. Wow! Wow!

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019




October  11, 2019

Thought for today: 

“When you sweep out the temple courtyard, don’t stop to read the old newspapers.”  

Someone


Why not? 
I do that all the time!
Sometimes they have
more interesting stuff
than today's newspaper.
Sometimes it's the SOSO.

Thursday, October 10, 2019


DOORS

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 26 Thursday in Ordinary Time  is “Doors”.

Picture yourself  on a black leather couch - or in a soft chair - in a psychologist’s or psychiatrist’s or counselor’s office - behind closed doors - and the counselor - in a moment of quiet - said to you, “Doors?”



What would be your reaction? What would that image trigger?

Would your face go,  “Huh” with a question mark attached to it?

Translation: what are you talking about?  What are you asking?

The psychiatrist had been at Daily Mass that Thursday morning and the word “doors” - appeared 3 times in the gospel - which got her  thinking about doors.

However,  the preacher said nothing about doors - but got off on something about God as a great listener - as the first reading from Malachi put it.

But the psychiatrist - for the rest of the Mass - and during her session with her  first client of the day - had begun thinking about doors.

THE DOORS OF A LIFETIME

In fact, that evening while driving home - before she got to her garage door - before this psychiatrist  opened the door of her car to get out - before she got to the side door to go into her house - she felt thankful - as well as intrigued about all she heard about doors from people that she sat with that day in therapy - in helping people move towards healing.

In fact, she asked all 5 clients that she had that day - what does the word “door” trigger for you?

She  heard about feelings of being locked out by one’s spouse . She heard about how difficult it was for one person to go thought the doorway of an Al Anon meeting - because he was worried about word going around town that one’s wife was an alcoholic. The psychiatrist heard from client # 3 - how he was  shown the door by a boss. He was fired from a law firm. The psychiatrist heard how hard it was for someone to knock on a psychiatrist’s door. “What? Will people think I’m crazy?”

She was a just a psychiatrist. In fact,  based on what folks said about Catholics and religion, two of her patients would be totally surprised that their therapist was a church goer - more - a daily Mass goer - except for Saturday morning.  She had an open door attitude towards God - who was open to everyone.  She had on open door attitude towards people - their habits and peculiarities - their disorders and their disarray at times.

She also heard one of her 5 clients from that day saying that she often goes to God and pounds on God’s door as Jesus had said, till God unlocks the door and gives me my daily bread. This client - # 4 - said that her favorite Bible text was Jesus’ words, “I tell you, ask and you will receive; seek and you shall find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”

So even though the priest said nothing about doors in the morning Mass homily, she had a profitable day asking people  to give their thoughts about what the image of a door does to their psyche.

CONCLUSION

And that night after eating and being with her husband and her kids - after a game of cards and watching their favorite TV show - she headed for her favorite chair - before going to bed.  The chair was on their  back porch. She opened up the porch door and sat down for her 15 minutes of quite reflection on her day.  She had been doing this for years now - before heading for bed.

She breathed a few good deep cool night air breaths. She looked out into the night sky and thanked God for a wonderful - but very  long day.  Then she closed her eyes and opened the door in her soul to her inner room - and spent the  next 10 minutes of quiet listening to our God.

Ooops. She fell asleep and her husband opened up the porch door and said, “Are you coming to bed sleepy head?”


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Painting of lady on couch: Meridienne by Edouard Manet
October 10, 2019

MARTHA  HAD  IT

After months - better - years
of conversations -  she finally
said it: “I am tired of being tired.”

She laughed and
said it again: “I am sick
and tired of being tired.”

She had finally said it to herself -
what she knew all along - but
she couldn’t say or admit it.

She was sick and tired
of always being there, more:
having to be there: present.

She was  the box of bandaids,
the Vaseline, the one who had
to run to the drugstore every time.

Well, the box was empty.
No more bandaids. The jar
was empty. No more Vaseline.

She simply packed a suitcase -
and left a note: “I’ll be back in a few
weeks. I’m tired and need a  vacation.”

Well, everyone was furious!
But not everyone. One person  said,
“It’s about time. Good move honey.”

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


October  10, 2019 

Thought for today: 

“Love it the way it is.”  


Thaddeus Golas, in 
The Lazy Man’s Guide 
to Enlightenment

Wednesday, October 9, 2019




FIVE  JONAH  4:  10-11 EXAMPLES

INTRODUCTION

The title of my reflection for this morning is: “Five Jonah 4: 10 - 11 Examples.”

Most people when they hear about Jonah, they only think of the story about him being in the belly of the whale for 3 days.  They miss the whale of an antsy character he can be.

When I read today’s first reading - from the 4th chapter of the book of Jonah -  I was hit in the brain with the story near the ending of the reading.

Jonah gets really upset.  A gourd plant - or another translation makes it a castor oil plant -  that was giving him shade -  rots because of a worm. That really ticks him off.  He no longer has shade or protection from the sun.

Well, God challenges Jonah  for his mixed up and selfish sense of  life and emotional balance. He gets upset losing his plant - and his shade, but he  doesn’t get upset when he wants God to kill 120,000 people.

We the hearers of the story,  are supposed to hear and to notice the enormous contrast between 1 plant destroyed and 120,000 people possibly killed. Thinking about that,  I asked myself, “Could I  come up with 5 examples of similar  mixed up and out of balance values and ways of seeing life?”

FIRST EXAMPLE: SCRATCHED CAR

A father gets a brand new car. Someone scratches it.  It might even be his son. The father  gets furious. However, the father has no reaction when he hears at supper that his son got beaten up and cut and scratched by a bully  in school that day.

SECOND EXAMPLE: THE MISPRONOUNCED WORD

A reader at Mass - while reading - mispronounces one word in the reading. 

As a result -  that’s all he or she hears. It’s the mistake….

He or she   doesn’t hear the reading. He or she  never really ponders the meanings in the reading.  All they think of is that one word - that was mispronounced and they miss all the 120 other words they pronounce perfectly.

THIRD EXAMPLE: CHEWY, CHEWY BEEF

At supper, for supper, someone takes a piece of meat off the serving platter. They find  the piece they pick to be quite chewy.

During the meal, that person  keeps complaining about the tough chew. They don’t like the gristle of the meat. They make the cook feel dumb about it.

But - but - but -  in 7  years at that dining room table, that person in that community, the complainer - never once said to the cook:  “Thank you for delicious supper. I love the way you did the string beans.”

FOURTH EXAMPLE: THE LETTER WRITER

A letter writer writes a letter to the bishop of the diocese every time they see the visiting priest or any priest changing  one word in the prayers or readings. If it’s not the exact word in the sacramentary book - on the altar,  it’s ink to the bishop. It’s a letter to the bishop about that priest.

However,  the letter writer - at about only one Mass a year  - do they connect with God - praise God for another day of life - or  apologizes for their  sins - only about  once a year.

FIFTH EXAMPLE: WRINKLED RED CAPE

A bishop comes into the sacristy of a church for confirmation. He opens up his small leather vestment suitcase. His red cape is wrinkled.  He gets furious. He might look wrinkled. Tch. Tch. Tch.  Terrible. Terrible. Terrible. What will the people think when they see my wrinkles?

But, but, but, for 12 years as a bishop he never gave one thought about kids who were abused by priests and other bishops.  Tch. Tch.  Tch.  Terrible. Terrible. Terrible.

CONCLUSION

We all heard today’s readings. For homework, let’s find a few examples when we are out of balance and need a value or moral realignment. Let’s ask God to forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others when we pray the Our Father. Amen.

October 9, 2019

“PRESENT!” ____  “ABSENT!” ____
“IT ALL DEPENDS” _____
CHECK  ONE

At meetings  - for groups we belong to -
they call out our name and we answer,
“Present” - if we’re there.  There is no
“It All Depends” - but the older we get,
sometimes we disappear to our hidden
places deep within - and we hide out
till the end of the meeting. Don’t we all?

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

October 9, 2019


Thought for today: 

“What disturbs people’s  minds is not events,  but their judgements on events.” 


Epicteus, First Century, A.D

Tuesday, October 8, 2019

October 8, 2019


FIRST CHILD

She was the first child.

They knew they had no
clue about,  “Okay!” -
“What now?” - “What next?”

But life forced them
to focus on this child
and not get caught up
in hoping for the next
kid. Every kid needs
a brother or a sister.

But she ended up being
the only child and looking
back now, they realize
they did a good job.

These things take time
to figure out. Amen.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


October  8, 2019 



Thought for today: 


“He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.”  

Lao Tze
 


Monday, October 7, 2019

October 7, 2019


THE PRIEST
         
Too many times - I’m that  priest, 
not wanting to stop, 
not wanting to find out 
who this hurting other is. 

Too many times I’m not a Good Samaritan.
I hurry down this winding road,
heavy with the glue of my own busyness,
and the importance of my schedule.

Too many times I say,
“Finally he’s no longer in my
side or rear view mirrors. Phew”
as I’m heading for my next.

Too many times I realize I have
walked by my better self. I keep
moving - but I keep seeing
my brother hurting on the road.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019
The gospel for today Luke 10: 25-37
is the storyof the Good Samaritan -
but manychurches will use the
readings for the feast
of Our Lady of the Rosary.

October 7, 2019



Thought for the day:

"When I was young, my mother said, 'I want you to be something.'"

Cher

Sunday, October 6, 2019

October 6, 2019



THERE   ARE   MOMENTS

There are moments when we have a choice.
Sometimes we forget that - but we can choose
to become  more  aware of the moments we have.

Some people make such a moment a morning prayer.
Some people make that moment a night prayer.
Some people make their only prayer - a mid-day prayer.

A song … A journal … A walk around the block …
A stop … A prayer chair … A kneeling at their bed ….
A dropping into a church in person or with closed eyes …

There are moments when we have a choice.
This can be such a moment.. Make it now.
Escape into your 3  minute moment. “Time out!”

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

October  6, 2019



Thought for today: 


“Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. Inside of a dog, it’s too dark to read.” 


Groucho Marx


OCTOBER 5: THE FEAST OF BLESSED 
FRANCIS XAVIER SEELOS, REDEMPTORIS


Today - October 5th -  is the feast of a not well known Redemptorist priest, Francis Xavier Seelos.  He was beatified by Saint Pope John Paul II in April of 2000.

I’d like to say a few words about him today - for my sermon - a sermon being  different than a homily - a homily centers on the scripture readings.

Father Francis Xavier Seelos died October 4, 1867 in New Orleans - of yellow fever - at the age of 48. Since October 4th is the feast of St. Francis of Assisi - Seelos’  feast was put on this next day, October  5th.

I know of him because like Father John McGowan and Father Bill Gaffney - who often said Mass here in Rumson - we are Redemptorists like Father Seelos.

I know of him because for the past 17 years I was in a Redemptorist parish in Annapolis,  Maryland - and Father Seelos worked in our parish down there in the mid 1800’s.

Father Seelos was born in Fussen, Germany and before being ordained a priest he joined the Redemptorists in order to come to the United States in 1843 as a missionary - for the Germans - who had a shortage of priests hrtr in the USA. He was ordained in our parish of St. James in Baltimore.

He preached  and did some work in  Connecticut, Illinois, Michigan, Missouri, Wisconsin, Rhode Island, New York, New Jersey, Pittsburgh, Maryland, and New Orleans.

He worked for 9 years in Pittsburgh and was proposed as a possible bishop for Pittsburgh. He didn’t want that.

He worked with and was trained by St. John Neumann another Redemptorist.

He was known for the priest to go to for confession.

He was known for his smile and his sense of humor and his telling of jokes.

He had problems with another priest, a Redemptorist, Father Michael Mueller who was ultra-strict and ultra-tough and ultra-serious. Mueller  was known  around the United States as the Catholic Priest who said there was no salvation for anyone who was not a Catholic. “How to win friends ….”

Mueller didn’t like the way Seelos was with our seminarians - complaining that he wasn’t strict enough, etc. et. etc.

Mueller and Seelos were stationed in the same parish I just came from: St. Mary’s Annapolis. In the tiny vestibule that leads out of the church,  there is a marble plaque recognizing the first pastor of our parish there: Father Michael Miller.  You wouldn’t notice it - unless it was pointed out.


In our prayer garden at St. Mary’s - there is a nice metal park bench which has a statue on it - Father Seelos just sitting there on the bench. With the statue, it seats three.  Looking back on my 17 years in Annapolis, every day that had decent weather there would be someone sitting snug next into Father Seelos - maybe because we told  people to sit there and talk to him and surprise he’ll hear your confession.

After a year as an associate in our parish in Detroit, he was made pastor in our church in New Orleans and lasted 14 months - dying from Yellow Fever - taking care of the sick.

Blessed Francis Xavier Seelos - pray for us. Amen.