Saturday, October 21, 2017

October 21, 2017


RE  WORDS

R is back there - near the back
of our  dictionary - but at some
point these R words need to be
considered and then reconsidered.

Regrets: take regrets - name 5.
Resentments:  scratch any anger....
Revolution:  start at least one.
Resurrection:  come back when dead.

Want  a few more RE’s for re-evaluation?
How about: reconciliation, re-open, renew,
reconnect, re-read, realize, recall, rearrange,
recommit, respect, reverence, and rejoice.



© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


Friday, October 20, 2017

October 20, 2017

BROKEN

“Uh oh!”
A mom hears her 3 year old
blurt out from the other room.

“Uh oh!”
she says as she heads from the
kitchen to the living room.

Her darling daughter is standing there
about to cry  - with a doll’s leg in one hand
and the rest of the doll in her other hand.

How old are we when we finally learn
how to handle the broken: toy, dish,
parent, relationship, marriage, child?

When do we learn what’s the right word,
glue, trick, attitude, skill  - to know how to
fix a broken expectation or broken heart?



© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


Thursday, October 19, 2017

October 19, 2017




NOT  SHAME,  LOVE  


She blamed me for trying to shame her -
into loving her parents - whom sorry
to say - she dumped a while back there.
Okay,  there are reasons for everything.

Blaming me quieted me. It shut me up.
I didn’t want to make things worse.
This most basic human connection -
father and daughter - can earthquake.

It’s as basic as saliva in the mouth,
no matter how you try to spit someone
out of your life. I just wanted to say, “Please
recover. We all have only so much time.”

I love you enough right now to say all this.
I just don’t want to see you bent over at
their graves - feeling ugly that we died
without forgiving and loving one another.

Get under a cross and pray, “Father forgive
us because we don’t know what we’re doing.”
Who’s right? Who’s wrong? Who cares?
There’s always 7 stories in every story.

I hope each of you hears this and says,
“At least 7 stories! Please forgive me!”
Every parent-child story needs to be
resolved with love - not shame - not blame. Amen.


© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


Wednesday, October 18, 2017

October 18, 2017


THERE’S  ALWAYS  MORE 


There’s always a lot more.
Go ahead take that last piece
of apple pie. There’s another one
in the kitchen - and if there isn’t,
we have some chunky chocolate
chip cookies in the bottom drawer.

There’s always a lot more.
You’re never getting my all.
There’s another story in the
kitchen - and if I forget that one,
there is always the story I never
told you. It’s in my bottom drawer.



© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017



Tuesday, October 17, 2017


PAUL’S  LETTER TO THE ROMANS


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Paul’s Letter to the Romans.”

We began hearing the opening words of Romans yesterday - but I didn’t say anything about it - because it was the feast of St. Gerard. Today however, I simply want to give a few opening comments about Paul’s Letter to Romans in general because we’ll have it more or less for 4 weeks - October 15 till November 11th - as our first reading.

It is not used when we have the feasts of St. Luke and the apostles Simon and Jude - as well as All Saints Day - but we can use a segment for All Soul’s Day.

ROMANS' GREAT THEME

The great theme of Romans is that Jesus Christ saves us. We don’t do it by  keeping the Law - or by what we do - by our works -  even though they are important - but we are saved by Jesus Christ.

Jesus is the one who knocked Paul on his face on the road to Damascus.

Jesus is the one who Paul was persecuting - in going after the Christians.

Jesus is the one who challenges Paul to conversion and to change.

Human beings try to save themselves by getting circumcised, keeping the Law and the calendar feasts of Judaism, but Paul found out in a dramactic way - we can be saved - not by ourselves - but by faith in Jesus Christ.

By hearing Romans we’ll hear various other nuances of that theme - but we better hear, understand and accept this theme loud and clear.

Like this is one big room - and the most important person in this room - is Jesus Christ.

ROMANS

Different folks date the Letter to the Romans at different times. I like Joseph Fitzmyer, S.J.’s date of 57-58.

He has just about finished his work in eastern part of the Mediterranean - and now he’s heading West - for Rome and Spain.

Part of the Appian Way to Rome

He has not been to Rome yet - where he will die.

Fitzmyer didn’t think Peter was there yet - but he too will die there.

He doesn’t know any of the people in Rome - but we’ll hear about 30 names in the last chapter of Romans - 16.

Paul is thought to be the author of Romans  - with some questions about the last chapter.

COMMENTARIES AND USED BY

The Letter to the Romans is a must read for Christians.

Joseph Fitzmyer in his comments about Romans in the New Jerusalem Biblical Commentary says, “Romans has affected later Christian theology, more than any other New Testament book.” [page 832]

Early Christian writers like Clement, Ignatius of Antioch [whose feast we celebrate today], Polycarp and Justin all use him. We can keep on adding names to that list.

Then there are the commentaries by  Calvin,  Luther, Barth, Rahner and various others,

CONCLUSION


So don’t just sit back and listen to Romans at Daily Mass in the next 4 weeks. Pray with key thoughts about life in and with Jesus. Hear Paul tell about the struggles we all go through - with Jesus there to help and save us. Amen. 
October 17, 2017




NOT EVERY YEAR IS THE SAME

“Sometimes you have a year
when everything changes.”

She told me that a lady she works
with said that - and it got her thinking.

It got me thinking, so I wrote it down:
“Sometimes you have a year
when everything changes.”

For her it was this year: two marriages,
a graduation, and a 60th Birthday.

For me, well now I have to do my
homework - and figure out my years.
Now I have to do some deep thinking.



© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


Monday, October 16, 2017


LOOKING AT ONE’S 
WAY OF SEEING;
LOOKING AT ONE’S SPIRITUALITY

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Looking At One’s Way of Seeing.  Looking at One’s Spirituality.”

Today, for us Redemptorists, we celebrate the feast of St. Gerard Majella.

Dates: April 6, 1726 to October 16, 1755. He died at the age of 29 - having been a Redemptorist for only 5 years.

Re-reading his life again this morning, he got me in touch with the question of his way of seeing life.

HOW ONE SEES LIFE

Sometimes when I stand up here and preach I find myself getting a bit nervous.

Why?

Well sometimes I see life and spirituality different than the Saint of the day. To say and to think that, well that’s feels like a no-no at times.

Next, I know people see life differently than I see life - and I don’t want coming to church to be like coming to a wrestling match.  Remember the old joke: “I went to a hockey game and a boxing match broke out.”

It’s then I have to tell myself, “Don’t be so self-centered, Andrew. Everyone sees life differently.”

The key issue would be that we understand how others see life and how we see life and we reflect upon the differences.

Comparisons is one of the best ways of learning.

HOW ST. GERARD SAW LIFE

We are told by biographers of St. Gerard how he saw life.

Before I describe where I differ, I have a question. When I read Saint Gerard’s life or any person’s life or any saint’s life, am I seeing the saint’s way of seeing - or the way the writer of that person’s life sees life.

I hope people hearing me or any priest preaching or any writer writing, that they say, “Well this is one person’s way of seeing.”

I hope people also get in touch with their way of seeing - and that from time to time compare it with others.

For example, it’s obvious to me that Luke sees differently than Matthew. I think Luke would be easier to talk to than to talk to Matthew.  But that’s my opinion. My way of seeing the gospel of Matthew and the gospel of Luke.

St. Gerard sees God sending bullies and screamers into his life as God’s will. I disagree with that. But who am I? As a young man Gerard worked in a tailor shop and the foreman was a bully and Gerard took that as God’s will.  He did that for about 3 years.  He went to work for a bishop who was a bully and a grouch.  Nobody lasted working for this bishop. Gerard lasted because he already knew how to deal with screamers.

Next example, Gerard  was accused by a young lady of abusing a young girl.  Gerard kept quiet and just accepted the accusations as a penance.  He welcomed hardships and hard times.

In various Redemptorist houses there was a painting of St. Gerard facing our founder Alphonsus. Gerard doesn’t defend himself when St. Alphonsus reads him a letter from this young lady with the accusation.  He remained silent, because our rule said not to defend oneself when accused.

When this gal, Neria got sick and was almost dying, she wrote a letter to Alphonsus. In this letter she said she made it all up. She admitted her lies.  

She said that with Gerard’s help, she had made a decision to enter a convent. She soon realized she had made a mistake, so she accused the nuns in the convent of stuff as well as Gerard. She left after 3 weeks there and blamed the nuns there as well as Gerard of nasty behaviors.

I learned from a similar case that took place in North Carolina. A former golfer started a day care center for kids called, The Little Rascals Day Care Center. His name was Bob Kelly.

Well some little kid came home from the day care center and said to his mother, “Mr. Kelly did something wrong.”  But he wouldn’t tell his mother what the wrong was.  The mother took the kid to a  therapist - and then the whole thing got out of hand. It ended up that 7 people got accused of public sexual acts at the day care center. He ended up going to trial and was convicted of some 270 counts of sexual acting out  and got 12 life sentences.

I heard about it and because I knew about a few of these kinds of FMS syndrome cases - I began writing to Mr. Kelly in support as well as to the governor of North Carolina.

The solution is: if you know you’re innocent get a lawyer fast and sue the accusers.

In time he was exonerated and won the biggest law suit of this kind in the history of North Carolina.

In St. Gerard’s story we read that he had a different spirituality that all this is the will of God - to give us suffering from which we can grow.

I heard that kind of spiritual attitude as I was growing up and being formed as a Redemptorist. When I had my chance to be someone who formed others in becoming Redemptorists I took a different point of view. I felt I   was teaching a better spirituality and humanism.

I thought that I had grown.

CONCLUSION

Those are a few points about an agenda I have.

Don’t we all have agendas. I am saying today to get in touch with knowing your agenda as well as others - and try to find out what’s best.

To me the great laugh about St. Gerard is that he was an uneducated tailor who ended up a great saint. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard from Redemptorists who went to Italy and attend the Redemptorist shrines, that their big surprise was that  St. Gerard is much more popular than Saint Alphonsus - author of 101 books, etc. etc. etc.


Saint Alphonsus was a Bishop and doctor of the church and Gerard the tailor becomes patron saint of Mothers. This non-married male tailor becomes the Patron Saint of women who want to get pregnant or for women who are having tough pregnancies. 
October 16, 2017


A LIGHT IN THE WINDOW

Isn’t that what we all want?
A light in the window. You’re
awake. You’re staying up
for me late in the dark night.

A cup of tea…. some cold
butter and peanut butter
and sweet raspberry jam on
a piece of rye bread toast.

We talk about the day, how it went,
how we’re doing, where we are,
where we’re headed. All is okay.
There is a  light in the window.


 © Andy Costello, Reflections  2017
Painting on top: Night Windows [1928]
by Edward Hopper.













Sunday, October 15, 2017


Some more stuff on Teresa of Avila...















 








INSIDE  INVITATION 


INTRODUCTION

The title of my reflection for this 29 Sunday in Ordinary Time [A]  is, “Inside Invitation.”

Today’s readings invite us to a mountain and to a wedding banquet.

We’ve all been invited to weddings.  Have you ever been invited to go backpacking - to go to and climb a mountain?

So a homily on invitation. “You’re invited.” 

RSVP - Please respond. Please accept the invitation.

From time to time we hear the words, “Start climbing!”

From time to time we hear the words, “Go Inside.”

But we rarely take  the time to figure out who it is who is saying that to us and what it means.

“Come to the mountain.” “Start climbing.” “Go Inside!”

It’s an invitation to start climbing - start moving upwards and inwards towards God.

It’s an invitation - to go inside ourselves - to go inside God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

Two years ago I went to Gibraltar.  That was an invitation to both go up and go down and to go inside. Gibraltar is both a mountain as well as an inside. It has enormous caves. There are at least two big caves inside. One has lots of chairs and a stage for a symphony orchestra - as well as beautiful stalagmites within.




OTHER PEOPLE’S HOMES

Most weekends the Capital - our local newspaper - brings us inside somebody’s home.

I look at that section of the paper maybe 20 weekends a year.

Is there inside all of us a sneaky  interest about what the inside of another’s home looks like?

We go by a lot of houses in a lifetime - and sometimes we get inside that front door. The psychologist  and the detective inside us wonders about the inside of the other person’s home and heart and mind. What’s going on in there?  What’s it like behind those closed doors?

The first time we’re in someone’s home we try not to be nosy. Yet sometimes we look at the pictures - the light fixtures - the color of the fabric on the drapes and the chairs - the interaction between husband and wife - and kids - aging parents at times. Interesting.

Sometimes we see a painting of someone on the wall  and we ask, “Who’s that?”

Who’s who? Who are the people in our lives? Who are the people in other people’s lives?

TODAY’S READINGS

Today’s readings are all about invitation.

The first reading from  Isaiah is an invitation to go to a mountain - where everything is just right. There are all kinds of tables set up - filled with rich food and choice wines, juicy, rich food and pure, choice wines.

It can be the mountain inside our psyche that we all long for - a place of peace - security - massiveness - the rock. 

It’s the place where everyone is at peace with each other. There are no veils - no cloth walls people are hiding behind and from each other. 

It’s the place that has no webs that trap or ensnare us. Death and violence and name calling and prejudice against each other have been removed. 

It’s the mountain Martin Luther King Jr. talked about when he said, “I’ve been to the mountain.” This is the mountain where God is.

As Isaiah puts it, “This is the Lord for whom we looked; let us rejoice and be glad that he has saved us. For the hand of the Lord will rest on this mountain.”



I remember the two times we drove across the United States. Our plan was to stop and camp out as soon as we saw the Rocky Mountains. We would rest and then head for them that day.

Four of us started out in a light blue car from the Bronx - went over the George Washington Bridge - and headed west on Route 80.  

It was to be 32 hours of straight driving.

Finally, we finally saw the mountains in the distance - in the west. 

It was almost dark. We pulled off the road and parked for the night. We went through a barbed wire fence. We set up two tents, talked  and fell asleep pretty fast. 

We woke up the next morning with the sound of cows all around us. We were in pasture. We looked to the west. No mountains. What we thought were mountains the night before were clouds in the distance.

We got moving and finally saw the Rockies.

Then we had a dream two week vacation. 

We were  back packing - 10,000 feet up there.

We came home 10 pounds lighter. Freeze dry food can do that. We came home in much better shape than we started. All day hiking can do that.  We came home alive and filled with new life. We went to the mountain.

We experienced today’s first reading in person.

That was the mountain image. Next comes the banquet image.

Today’s gospel is an invitation to go inside a palace - the kingdom of heaven - for a banquet - a wedding feast for the king’s son.

But at times we put that invitation aside. Or we toss it into the plastic bag garbage - even though we’re told, “Behold I have prepared my banquet, my calves and fattened cattle are killed, and everything is ready; come to the feast.”

Still we refuse the call, the invitation, and self-destruct our lives.

We stay stupid. We go through the motions and we end up outside the kingdom where we wail and whine and grind our teeth.

That’s what today’s readings are telling us.

We don’t listen to Isaiah or Paul or Matthew.

The second reading from Paul is telling us: whether things are fine or things around us are poor - God still wants to fill us and feed us and bless us.

ST. TERESA OF AVILA

The title of my homily is, “Inside Invitation.”

The two words to hear inside our skulls is, “Go Inside.”

We go inside a church to hear those words - to hear that invitation once again.

Take a look at that statue of St. Teresa of Avila - here on our old high altar - left center.


It’s up there - because our founder of the Redemptorists - St. Alphonsus Liguori - went inside her stuff and found some of God like she did.

St. Teresa of Avila 1515-1582.


She’s holding a book? I wonder if there is writing on it - to tell us what the book is. I know the book outside on the Seelos statue has the name of the book he’s holding. How about this book?  Is it her book El Castillo Interior or Camino de Perfeccione.

Go inside her books. She said, “I love to open, I need to open, a new book.”

Go inside. Start turning the pages.

It took her a while but she finally really went inside God - inside the Trinity.




She said approaching God is like going to the waters.

The first approach is like going to a well.

Then it’s like going to a big water wheel - that moves water - like the back of those big boats on the Mississippi.

Next it’s like irrigating the whole garden by sluices - letting water - water everywhere. 

Then - last - it’s like going outside and standing in the rain. When you get to Rome make sure you go to Bernini's statue of Teresa of Avila - in Ecstasy.  It's in the Cornaro Chapel, in Santa Maria Della Vittoria.



In the meanwhile, if you spot a course being given by someone on The Written Works of St. Teresa of Avila, "go inside" her writings.



She said going deeper and deeper into God is like going into a castle - going from room to room - till we finally get to THE ROOM - the 7th room - the main room - where God is.

And the whole interior castle is like going into a diamond - with more and more light - bouncing and glancing off the walls into us.

Go inside.

CONCLUSION

The theme I’m pushing today is the theme in today’s readings.

We’re invited.

Come to the mountain.

Come to the banquet.

Come to God - feel our hunger for God and let God fill us.



October 15, 2017



DISTURB

Saint Teresa of Avila 
famously  said,
“Let nothing disturb you!” 

Well, I’m no saint, 
but I hope a lot of things 
disturb you. 

I hope you yell when 
someone dumps their 
junk  on our  sidewalks. 

Liars…. Liars …. Liars…. 
May your pants go on fire 
every time you  tell a lie. 

I hope you scream, 
“Wait a minute!” when bullies
start to take over the room.

More people need to stop abuse 
and cover-ups and allowing the 
uppity ups to get away with murder. 

So, Saint Teresa, sorry to disturb you, but 
if I read your story correctly, you surely weren't
scared to disturb the hell out of people.



©  Andy Costello, Reflections  2017