Do we ever know the real reason why
we do what we do? Motive? Can it -
[it being the reason, the motive, the why] -
can it be surgically located in our brain?
Let’s be honest. Sometimes we don’t know
why we said what we said, did what we did,
avoided what we avoided, till long afterwards.
Some marriages crumble, some marriages
get better, years after the falling in love -
long after the moment we gave the ring,
long after the moment we vowed the vows.
This is scary stuff for the moralists and
for the other we committed ourselves to.
I guess the only solution is daily communication
with our spouse, with our others, daily renewals
of our motives to each other. But wait a minute!
What about homes, family, money, security,
contracts, others? Wouldn’t society fall apart with
such relativity talk when it comes to reasons?
Yes, yes, yes…. But no, no, no, know, know, know, know, isn’t this one reason why we have the problems and the issues we have: dumping and disappearing from each other, taking drugs and drink to drown our sorrows and felt failures,
people unable to stick to their commitments and
not looking deep into the possible consequences
of our un-thought out - un-prayed on - un-talked out - un-understood - un-reasoned out decisions.
© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016