Saturday, April 6, 2019

April 6, 2019

EVOLUTION

Will the human thumb be different
in another 50 years - because of
all these cell phones in hand?

Will the human mind be different
in another 50 years - because of
all these cell phones in our ear?

Up till now we walked down the street
alone - talking to others in our mind -
or with others walking next to them.

Now this new thing has happened:
walking down the street talking
to others on our cell phones.

How will this change the shape of the
human hand? How will all this change
the shape of the human mind?

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


April    6, 2019 

Thought for today: 


“All cruel people describe themselves as paragons  of  frankness.”   


Tennessee Williams, 
in The Milk Train 
Doesn’t Stop Here 
Anymore, New Directions, 1964

Friday, April 5, 2019


DID YOU EVER WANT 
TO KILL SOMEONE? 

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Did You Ever Want  to  Kill  Someone?”

A homily is a  reflection on the readings.

Both readings for today - this 4th Friday in Lent - talk about people wanting to kill people.  So that’s where I got the title of this homily: “Did You Ever Want to Kill Someone?”

I asked myself the question and thought about it and I have to say, “I have never wanted to kill anyone.”

Thank God, obviously.

Don’t call 911 on me.

Then I asked, “Did I ever want someone dead?”

“No.”

Next question: “Did I ever wish someone would disappear - be on the other side of the street from me - or they are taking the down staircase and I’m on the up staircase?”

Answer. I hesitate and then answer, “Probably, yes!”

I heard someone say, “There’s one in every office.”

A what?  I PITA - a person who is dysfunctional - someone who de-energizes everyone.

In hearing that there problem people around us,  I think of the gospel text, that I jokingly use at times, “Is it I, Lord?”

TODAY’S READINGS

If you read the Bible, then you know that prophets, those who challenge us, are often threatened with extermination.

If you read the gospels, especially near the end of Lent, you know that Jesus is often threatened.

And they got him killed!

The person on the cross and the cross are central to Christianity.

MOTIVE

People who correct us or challenge us or get under our skin are people who can anger us.

Is anger the #1 cause of murders.

Combined with booze - that can become a lethal dose of poison for our relationships.


Yesterday we got the news - the verdict - in a murder case in New Jersey. My brother-in-law’s nephew, Richie Doody, was murdered around Thanksgiving 2015, by a guy named Conrad Sipa.

We still don’t know the motive: but by the violence in how Richie was murdered, there was a lot of anger there. Richie was beaten by a golf club, a lamp and his neck was slit with a knife.

Conrad Sipa was out on a million dollar bail for the past 3 years - so the long awaited trial was a source of frustration on the part of the Doody families. Conrad was found guilty of 8 out of 9 charges.

ANGER: SOME SUGGESTIONS

So I would list anger as one of life’s major issues.

Since anger shows up in our neck, our fists, our shoulders, our words, here are a few suggestions - on what to do with our body.

When angry, walk.

Walk out the door and walk about the block.

Stand there or sit down and make a fist or two fists as tight as you can.  Then raise your fists, your hands, as if you have all your anger in your hands - in your grasp - then open your hands, release the anger in  your hands,  as if you’re releasing pigeons into the sky.

Or open your mouth, stick your tongue out.  Now bite your tongue saying, “Enough with the anger.” Or “Enough with the friction.”

Bite your tongue with every prayer and pray, “Help!”

April 5, 2019


FATBURG

I just learned a new word: 
“fatberg”. I had never heard 
about them before. Ugly. 
They are enormous blobs 
of fat that can clog up sewers. 

Unlike icebergs, which are 
made up of clean clear white 
ice and snow, a fatberg is 
made up of  fats, handi-wipes, 
congealed grease and gunk. 

I suspect in years to come 
there will be new words 
like “angerbergs,” “pornbergs,” 
“unfairbergs,” “fakenewsbergs” 
stuff that clogs up our minds. 



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019 


April    5, 2019 



Thought for today: 

“Whether the angels play only Bach praising God, I am not quite sure. I am sure, however, that en famille they play Mozart.”  


Karl Barth, recalled 
on his death, 
December 9, 1968




Thursday, April 4, 2019


April 4, 2019


LISTENING  IN? 

If you listened into my very being - as if
I was all music - what would you hear?

Would it be Beethoven’s Ode to Joy
or would it be Mozart’s Requiem?

Would it be a Flash mob or a organ solo?
Would it be at Mass or in the Mall?
  
If you listened into my very being - as if
I was all music - what would you hear?

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019





 April    4, 2019 


Thought for today: 

“’Where is the dwelling of God?’”  

"This was the question with which the rabbi  of  Kotzk surprised a number of learned men who happened to be visiting him.  

"They laughed at him: ‘What a thing to ask!  Is not the whole world full of his glory!’  

"Then he answered his own question: 

‘God dwells wherever man lets him in.’” 


Page 183 in The Spirituality of Imperfection
Storytelling and the Search for Meaning,
by Ernest Kurtz and Katherine Ketcham.

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

April 3, 2019



THE  GLUE PEOPLE 

Every restaurant, workplace, 
church, family and school 
has to look around  and spot 
the "glue people. " They keep 
the place together. They're 
there. Just open your eyes 
and you'll spot them! Be one! 


© Reflections 2919, Andy Costello

April    3, 2019 




Thought for today:


“The hottest  places  in hell are reserved for those who, in a period of moral crisis, maintain  their neutrality.”  


Dante

Tuesday, April 2, 2019

April 2, 2019


HOW DO I WALK 
DOWN THE STREET? 

Did you ever notice how different people
walk down the street in different ways?

Some seem to be dancing or playing the fiddle.

Others seem to be pall bearers.

Still others seem to be making the Stations of the Cross.

Others seem to be smelling the flowers or spotting the birds.

Others seem to be referees or Pharisees ready to blow the whistle on others.

How do I walk down the street?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019







HEALING  WATERS
  
INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 4th Tuesday in Lent  is, “Healing Waters.”

Both readings for today talk about waters and healing.

Take the time to dip yourself in both readings. Like water let them wash you, refresh you. Drink of the waters. Taste the waters. Experience the waters.

FIRST READING

The first reading from Ezekiel  is refreshing. You can hear the water. You can sense the water flowing from the right side of the temple.  I can picture a museum in Washington D.C. that has water flowing down a wall - with great sound and splash. It’s one of the walls in the museum restaurant.

In this first reading, Ezekiel talks about pools. The water is knee deep. Then it’s up  to his waist. Then he finds himself walking along the bank of a  river - among trees on both sides and the river and the pools are filled with fish. The trees are loaded with fruit - which will serve as food and its leaves will be medicine.

Great slide show. Great power point images - on the screen of our mind.

Come to the waters.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel also features water. The scene is the pool of Siloam at Bethesda in Jerusalem.

It features a man who is lame and crippled. He comes to this pool of water for healing for 38 years.

Being crippled everyone else beats him to the waters - when the waters are bubbling up - and ready for healing.

I was in Israel in the year 2000 and we were shown where this pool was thought to be.  It was across the street from St. Helen’s Church.  But in June of 2004 they found a much larger pool. This pool was 225 feet wide with steps on at least 3 sides. They are still working on excavation there.

King Hezekiah from way back around 700 BC had a tunnel built from outside of the city of Jerusalem  - under the city for about 1750 feet  - so they could have fresh water if attacked.

They now think that’s the healing pool in John 9 when and where Jesus tells the blind man to bathe in - as well as here in the 5th chapter of John where this paralyzed man is healed.

COME TO THE WATERS

We humans often sense the healing powers of water.

Where have you been healed by coming to the waters.

Was it the ocean - a pool - a lake or hot springs.  When is  a good shower? When is a great bath.

I have fond memories of being with my dad soaking his feet in a bucket of water with Epsom Salts after a long day on his feet at work.

I love water coolers - especially if the water is very cold - like the ones down our side corridors here  at St. John Neumann - unlike the one  at St. Mary’s. Horrible.

I’ve been blessed to live my first 13 years of life in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, just above the Narrows - part of the New York Harbor - and we walked down there almost every Sunday.

I lived the next 6 years in North East, Pennsylvania, not too far from Lake Erie.

In our novitiate year we were on the Patapsco River near Ilchester, Maryland. That water was ugly. It was polluted from a box factory - just below us.

I was 14 years of my life on the Hudson River - between Kingston and Poughkeepsie NY

And now I’ve been here in Annapolis - on Spa Creek - leading out to the Chesapeake Bay.

How lucky could one be.

Location, location, location - to be on or near the water.

Is it any wonder Jesus is called, “Living water.”

Is it any wonder the first of the sacraments is Baptism?

Do we see Lent as a moving towards a renewal our Baptismal Vows - in the Living Water called, “Christ”?

April 2, 2019


Thought for today:

"Life is about using the whole box of crayons."

Someone

Monday, April 1, 2019



7  SIGNS

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 4th Monday in  Lent  is, “7 SIGNS”.

7 is a neat number - especially for lining up ideas - or thoughts - or learnings or experiences. It's like 3 or 10. Today I'm going with a 7 - as in 7 Signs.

Scripture scholars like to make mention of the 7 Signs of Jesus from the Gospel of John.

In today’s gospel, John writes of the healing of the Royal Official’s Son. Today’s gospel ends this way:  “Now this was the second sign Jesus did when he came to Galilee from Judea.” [Cf. John 4: 54]

The miracle of the water made into wine at the wedding feast of Cana is listed as the first of the signs of Jesus. [Cf. John 2: 1-11]

That’s two. Then scholars add 5 more:

The Healing of the Paralyzed Man the Pool at Bethesda John 5: 1-15

The Feeding of the 5000 in John 6: 5-14.

Jesus walks on  Water in  John 6: 16-24.

Jesus Heals the Blind Man John 9: 1-7.

Jesus raises Lazarus from the Dead John 11: 1-45.

That’s 7.

Other scholars differ. They add  the big catch of fish or the death and resurrection or the cleansing of the temple.

TWO SUGGESTIONS

Go through the 4 gospels and pick your 7 favorite signs.

It might be the healing of the Story of the Woman at the Well or the Return of the Prodigal Son or the Eucharist at the Last Supper.

The second suggestion. This would be more like  homework. People sometimes tell me that they do the  homework that I assign.

Here is my second suggestion.

Pick 7 signs of God’s love for you or 7 signs of your love for God.  

It could be being born - the gift of life - or your meeting your husband or it could be your 50th anniversary or it could be the birth of a child.

Or it could be a child coming back to God or  to the church.

It could be a trip to Rome or the Holy Land, Fatima or Lourdes.

CONCLUSION

That’s it. It’s an easy homily. But it could be tough if you do some homework.  

Jot down 7 signs that you’re alive - or 7 signs that you’re happy or whatever. Go for it.


April    1, 2019 


Thought for today: 


“A fool always finds something to complain about, and a wise  person  always finds something to appreciate.” 


Debasish  Mridha





HOW TO BE A FOOL?

Stop to see the person 
right in front of you.
Open your wallet.
Go the extra mile.
Give the shirt off your back.
Feed the hungry.
Visit the sick.
Water the flowers.
Anonymous is good.

I'm sure you heard all this before

as well as the Nike command,
"Just do it."


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

Sunday, March 31, 2019


SOUNDS

The clink of a spoon 
placed on a plate …. 
The sound of silver 
on porcelain …. 
Sorting out words - 
slices of mind thoughts -   
moments together - 
talking and listening 
to each other with 
a cup of tea or coffee ….
Styrofoam cups with plastic 
stirrers - with ego on our lips - 
just doesn’t do it. 

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019



THE  MOTHER  OF 
THE  PRODIGAL  SON


[I’m sure in the  past  2000 years of Christianity,  someone  has written a story about the mother of the Prodigal Son, but I haven’t seen it. So here is my attempt at an imaginary story about  the mother of the Prodigal Son. She’s missing from the story - told to us by Luke.  I’ve often wondered why.   And I didn’t know whether to write this story in the first person or the third person. As you can imagine, that would  make a world of difference as well.]

She had a stroke about a year before her son took off for a foreign country. She had lost her ability to speak - as well as having trouble walking and working around the house.

The younger brother didn’t like his older brother - who was too goody good for him - always on his case - always on his back. Older brothers can sometimes be like that.  His mom - he had to admit - was too, too disabled - and he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life taking care of her.

His dad was understanding - mushy like mashed potatoes -  but the younger son didn’t mind that most of the time - because most of the time he got his way.  And the older brother - as you would expect - wanted his dad to be as tough as rock - especially when it came to the way he treated his younger brother.

In those days, one was grown up by the time one hit 17 - so this younger son asked his dad for coins - better for  his inheritance - and surprise his dad said, “Okay.”

And off he went to discover far countries - to see the world - and to figure himself out - and find himself - in the process.

He knew he didn’t want to be a caregiver.

He also knew he didn’t want to be a farmer. Besides that his older brother would get the most in the will.  Besides that - because his mom had the stroke - he was stuck doing most of the inside - in house work.

He took his coins and himself and headed for his first faraway place  - some 250 miles away from home. Immediately he had lots of friends - male and female.  He was  young - well dressed  - and noticed.

Coins - the sight and sound of coins - can do that.

He bought a sleek chariot - rented a great back room - right next to the best drinking spot in town.

Then his money ran out - along with his so called friends. He had to sell his chariot and his great pair of white stallions  - and he was thrown out of his digs.

He got a job at a local pig farm - little pay - no food - and a famine - a depression - had hit the area.

Stuck in the mud with pigs - smelling of you know what - starving - he got sick of pig slop and he started to long for home.

He began to do a lot of talking to himself.

Mud and mess can make the mind clear up.

He decided on going home and saying to his father. “I’m sorry I really messed up. I’m sure you’ll be embarrassed to have me still as your son. Take me back as a hired servant. I’ll take care of you and mom and do anything you want me to do - everything and anything.”

So he headed home.

In the meanwhile his dad worried every night how this disappeared son was doing.

His wife couldn’t speak - but she knew. She knew what he was thinking and feeling and crying and looking out the window to the west for.

She also knew what her oldest son was thinking. He would come and talk to her - but  she couldn’t answer. All she could do was to pray for her 3 sons: her husband and their two boys.

Then came the homecoming moment. His dad knew - looking up the road - just knew this was his son shuffling along in the distance - in the rising sun.

The old man could still move - as he ran up the road - and ran right into the body of his lost son.

The younger son had his speech ready about not being worthy to still be called his son.

The old man would hear none of that.

He started barking orders.

“Quick!  Get him cleansed.

“Quick! Get out his best robes - pink or purple.

“Quick! Find his favorite sandals - the soft ones.

“Quick!  Kill the fatted calf.

“Quick!  Cook up my son’s  favorite foods.

“Put a ring on his finger.

“Quick!  Line up some musicians.

“My son is back.”

Mom saw all this from the window.

Mom smiled as she hugged her son - but she worried about how his brother was going to take all this.

Her intuition was on the money.

When the oldest came back that afternoon - he wanted to know what the hubbub was all about - and the music - and the dancing.

When told that his brother was back - and your dad was throwing a party for your younger brother’s return, he became furious - and now he was at a far distance.

He wouldn’t go near the house.

He would not hear his dad’s words, “Hey, your brother was dead. He was lost. He has been found. Come on in and welcome him home. I have you always - but not your brother.”

The older brother yelled, “Are you crazy? All these years I never failed to serve you. I never ruined our family name. I never embarrassed you in front of your friends. He swallowed up your property with prostitutes. For him, you killed the fatted calf. For him you are throwing this banquet - and you never gave me anything.”

His father’s joy turned to sorrow as he told his older son, “My son, you are here with me always; everything I have is yours. But now we must celebrate  and rejoice,  because your brother was dead and has come back to life, he was lost and has been found.”

And his mother heard and saw  all this through the window.

And that night - long after the party - long after her younger son - went to sleep - feeling overwhelmed at how wonderful his father was - long after the older son tried to sleep in the barn - with the pigs - because  he still wouldn’t go into the house - to the embarrassment of his parents.

Long after all had quieted down - the mother of these 2  prodigal sons - the wife of this loving father - held her husband tight - all through the night. She couldn’t  speak - but he knew  she knew - why he did what he was doing.  She remembered how years ago he had slipped away from her embrace. He fell for a time.  But she welcomed him back with open arms - and it took him the longest time to accept her forgiveness.

That night  - that father - understood both his sons - because he too had been both of them. He knew forgiveness sometimes takes a long time.

That night - that mother - knew that this story - happens in its own way in  every family - even when someone is left out - in the telling of the story.
[Painting on top: 
Woman at a Window (1822) 
by Caspar David Friedrich]









March 31, 2019 




Thought for today: 


“As long as you don’t  forgive,  who and whatever  it is will  occupy  a rent-free space in  your mind.” 

Isabelle Holland