DEATH: 

DYING BEFORE DEATH

Quote for Today: January 7,  2013

"The tragedy of life is not death 
but in what dies inside a man
while he lives -
the death of genuine feeling,
the death of inspired response,
the death of awareness
      that makes it possible 
      to feel the pain
      or the glory
      of other men in oneself."

Norman Cousins [1915-1990] in Saturday Review, October 2, 1954

Norman Cousins uses the man-men language - which they did a lot more of in 1954 - so I used the image of a woman for this quote.

THE 3 BEST GIFTS 

IN MY LIFE?

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Feast of the Epiphany is, “The 3 Best Gifts In My Life?”

We know the story in today’s gospel about the Magi presenting 3 gifts to the new born baby: gold, frankincense, and myrrh. From that the tradition has come that there were 3 Magi or Kings or Wise Men.

In the first reading from the Prophet Isaiah 60:1-6 mentions caravans of camels and 2 gifts: gold and frankincense.

Every year we have these same 3 readings - so it’s interesting to come up with a new sermon. This year I liked the challenge of coming up with the 3 best gifts in my life. What are yours?

Talk to each other and I’m sure each other’s answers would be intriguing and interesting - and surprising - and good conversation.

ON FIRST INSTANCE

On first instance I think of the gifts that I have given more than the gifts I have received. That’s not bragging. That’s what hit me on the first instance regarding the question that hit me: “The 3 Best Gifts In My Life?”

I think of a white cup I bought in Kresge’s - one of three 5 and Dime stores near our church on 5^th Avenue in Brooklyn, New York - when I was growing up. Kresge’s in time became K-Mart. The cup had one word on it: “MOM” - in plane letters. I don’t remember the color of the lettering - other than 3 letters - one word - on a white coffee cup. What ever happened to it? I don’t know if my mom cherished it. I know she loved a cup of tea every afternoon - later on in her life - but when we were small - I don’t remember the giving, the reception, the wrapping of that cup - but for some reason I remember buying it for MOM.

Why do we remember what we remember? For some reason I remember a poem I read in high school: Four Ducks On A Pond. It was written by William Allingham (1824-1889)  - Donegal Ireland. It goes like this:

Four ducks on a pond,
A grass-bank beyond,
A blue sky of spring,
White clouds on the wing;
What a little thing
To remember for years-
To remember with tears!

So on first instance to my question, “The 3 Best Gifts in My Life?” I remember giving rather than receiving.

As an adult I remember watching kids come to the Christmas tree to open their gifts on Christmas morning. Something had changed from the 1940’s till the 1970’s and 80’s and 90’s. We got underwear, socks, sneakers - a jacket or a shirt. These kids got Lincoln Logs,  Lego’s, plastic battery powered monsters - and dolls - some of which spoke, - and I saw one doll that leaked. Why would they make a doll like that. Toys, toys, toys.  Toys R Us.

BOTTOM LINE

The bottom line, none of these scenes, none of these memories, were helping me with answers to my 3 best gifts of a lifetime? question.

Aha. There could be one answer: the gift of memory.

To be transparent - I have wonderful memories. My parents gave me great memories of a rich childhood - a neat street to grow up on - good people on our block - a good parish church and school to be members of, OLPH, Brooklyn, New York - a few wonderful parks we used to go to most Sundays of the year - and memories of Coney Island in the summer.

So Jesus in the gospel story got gold, frankincense and myrrh. I got underwear, socks and memories.

As I began thinking about this yesterday afternoon I realized I am satisfied with memories as a gift - a top 3 gift - and they are not just from childhood - but much of my life. I became a priest to go to Brazil - was lead to belief - that’s where I was headed - but it didn’t happen.

I have sat and listened and heard enough stories from people telling me about their life. It’s never what one expected. One can’t write one’s story in advance - only afterwards.

So my first gift is my memoirs - and at 73 I can say that the more one gives - loves - serves - the less one is selfish - whiney - the better the memories.

My dad died in 1970 - a very quiet man. I sat down at our dining room table once with paper and pen and jotted down about 40 pages of story and memory - the year he was dying of emphysema. Often I wish I had taken a lot more time to do just that. He was such a quiet man - an introvert by nature - but he had a great smile.

Speaking of memories, here is one of my favorite memories about my dad.  I was in our living room once as a little kid and I opened up a book that my father loved to read: The Best Loved Poems in the English Language. I came upon a page that had a dried red rose petal - just one petal - in it. My dad was sitting there reading the paper and I went over to him with the book open - like in an offertory procession. I guessed I sensed that there was something sacred here. I said, “Daddy, what’s this?” I showed him the dried rose petal in the book. He looked at it and with a great smile said, “Memories!”

FAITH

Since I’ve given myself the task of coming up with my 3 best gifts, I feel good I came up with 1. Now what would I list # 2. Let me go with the gift of faith.  Both my parents come from the same tiny village in Ballynahown, County Galway, Ireland, right on the waters of Galway Bay.

I have a memory of my mom telling me once that she could put her big toe out the back door of her cottage and it would be in the waters of Galway Bay.  When I finally got there in 1996 for the first time - the house was gone - but the back step was still there - like a grey granite rectangular welcome mat. Yes, it was right there inches away from the waters and lots of rocks of Galway Bay.

With regards faith I have often thanked whoever the people were who first accepted the Catholic Faith and passed it down to my mom and dad - who passed it on to their 4 kids.

The image of a chain is the image of faith that hits me. I am grateful for those who have been links in the chain of faith that I have received and I feel deeply those who have come after us - who have dropped out of the faith - and broke that chain. May it be repaired. May they reconnect. Broken and repaired rosary beads are a great reminder to me of this reality.

IMAGINATION # 3

Memories and faith are my # 1 and 2 gifts. As I’m trying to put together the gifts of my life. I would list right now as number 3, that I have been given the gift of imagination.

In school I knew I didn’t have the math gene, but I have been blessed with a good imagination. I was a B and C student - except for A’s in History and English literature.

That’s me. How about you? I’m telling you my 3 three gifts so you’ll do your homework while moving along this new week of life

CONCLUSION

If you’re under 55, I would assume dreams more than memories might be # 1 for you. Good. The temptation of the old is to get stuck in one’s memories - in one’s past - and as a result one misses new dreams, hopes, plans for the future.

Hopefully, we all have Robert Frost’s words in front of us - words from his poem Stopping By the Woods On A Snowy Evening - the last stanza,

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

That’s where faith and imagination come in - to realize yes there is the dark woods of one’s past - but there is also the great future - here and hereafter - and like the Wise Men - we give our gifts and then ride on into our different futures. Amen.

THE FEAST OF 

THE EPIPHANY:

THE GREAT 3^RD GRADE RELIGIOUS PROJECT

Mrs. Five - Mrs. Thelma Five - was the 3^rd Grade Religious Education Teacher on Sunday Morning at the local Catholic Church.

She got the bright idea that for the Feast of the Epiphany -  the 3^RD Grade Class -  had to come up with something surprising - enlightening - bright - for the 3 gifts that Jesus was to receive at the stable where he was born in  Bethlehem. She told her 3^rd Grade Class, “That’s what the word Epiphany means!”  

She continued, “So instead of the priest preaching a homily at the Mass -  why not have 3 kids play Jesus, Mary and Joseph and 3 kids play the 3 kings or 3 Magi  or 3 Wise Men. These last three could  bring up to the stable in the church gifts different than the traditional gifts the 3 kings brought to Jesus. They would  go up to the microphone show the gift they brought for the new born baby Jesus and then explain to everyone at Mass  why they chose that gift. She asked the Director of Religious Education, Mr. Malcolm Ten, if he thought Father Zero - would go for this.

Mr. Ten - the Religious Education Director - said it would be a great idea and he was sure Father Zach Zero would also think it’s a great idea. Just to be sure, he called Father Zach Zero who said to Mr. Ten to tell Mrs. Five, “Go for it.”

Mrs. Five  had heard the joke in at lest 10 sermons that  the 3 Magi had to be men, because if they were  women, they would have brought diapers and food - and okay, gold. The gold was smart. The gold was wise. But the frankincense and the myrrh - not so smart.

So during the last class before Christmas, Mrs. Five had a discussion with her 3^rd Grade Class if they would do this and if they would,  what would be three good gifts to bring the new born baby Jesus and to Mary and Joseph.

One boy - named Byron - said, “Gold, Gold, and more Gold. That’s the 3 gifts I would have the 3 wise men bring to Jesus.”

The teacher asked, “Why Byron?”

He answered, “Well, Joseph and Mary and Jesus were heading for Egypt.  You never can tell what problems they are going to run into - so money, gold, would work anywhere and everywhere. The coins there would be different than the coins they used in Bethlehem - but gold would work everywhere.” He continued, “My father has the gold American Express Card and he says it works everywhere!”

The teacher, Mrs. Thelma Five said, “Good. Good thinking Byron.” Then she asked, “Does anyone else have suggestions - for 3 gifts?”

A girl - named Jacqueline - better known as Jackie - said, “I’d suggest, three coats - or two coats and a good warm blanket for Jesus.”

“Good,” said Mrs. Five.  “Anyone else?”

“How about carpenter tools for Joseph?” said one kid named Tim, “because Joseph is going to need to get work to make a living in Egypt - and he probably left his carpenter tools up there in Nazareth when they came to Bethlehem for the census.”

“Good. Anyone else?”

A girl named Andrea, said, “I was thinking of a map and a compass and some food. They would be the most practical things for a long trip in the winter for Joseph and Mary and the new born baby.”

Richard, another kid, said, “Maps. I don’t know if they had maps back then - and they certainly didn’t have compasses - food good.”

Andrea shot back, “Are you sure they didn’t have maps back then? Are you sure they didn’t have compasses back then? Richard, when were compasses invented?”

Richard said, “Okay, I don’t know if they had maps and compasses back then, but I can’t see the 3 Magi  giving a compass and a map. Food yes.”

A hand went up from the side of the room. It was Theodore. He said, “I have my computer with me and I just looked up some stuff. They did have maps at that time. Compasses - there is evidence that there was a sort of compass like the kind we have today - being used by the Chinese around the year 1040.”

Andrea said, “Well, I was half right” - as she looked glaringly at Richard!” ‘

Theodore continued, “Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh’ the 3 gifts the Magi brought Jesus, Mary and Joseph - are not dumb. The gold certainly would be a good gift. And  Yahoo Search says that some types of frankincense were used for trade - or for medicine - or for perfume. Maybe with the donkeys and the sheep and the cows in the stable, maybe incense would be perfect to cut down on the smell.”

Everyone laughed and everyone was listening. Theodore had a way of commanding attention - when he spoke.

Theodore continued, “And Myrrh, it says on Yahoo Search, is also valuable and good for trading. It’s also used for making a salve for skin problems. Certain types are also used for medicines that can be used to cut down on bleeding - and also it has antibacterial stuff in it.”

Silence.  Some kids put on their very intelligent look - because they didn’t know what “antibacterial” meant. They thought they heard it when their parents watched the evening news sometimes - with all those ads for medicines. Evening news must be for old people who need more medicines that us kids.

Mrs. Five - Mrs. Thelma Five - was a good teacher and said, “Great Theodore. Maybe the class can bring up to the crib at the feast of the epiphany a brick painted gold - and one kid can explain that to everyone at Mass - the value of gold for trade and travel. Another kid could bring a box marked ‘Incense’ and explain that. And a third kid could bring a jar marked ‘Myrrh’ and explain its uses.”

So that’s what they agreed on and that’s what the class did for the Feast of the Epiphany - and Father Zach Zero and the parents of the 3^rd Grade Class - and Mrs. Thelma Five and Mr. Malcolm Ten thought it was an excellent sermon play done by the 3^rd graders. In fact, it was the only sermon the kids said they understood all year.

O O O O O O O 

Painting on top: Epiphany [1475-1480] by Hieronymus Bosch, in Museum of Art, Philadelphia.

The above is a story homily for our Kids Mass at St. Mary's Marian Hall for the feast of the Epiphany.  Check my blog for other Kids Stories.

THREE 

TREASURES

Quote for Today - January 6, 2013

"I have three treasures.
        Guard and keep them:
       The first is deep love,
       The second is frugality,
       And the third is not to dare
           to be ahead of the world.
Because of deep love, 
       one is courageous.
Because of frugality,
       one is generous.
Because of not daring
       to be ahead of the world,
       one becomes the leader
       of the world."

Lao-tzu [c, 604-c. 531  B.C., The Way of Lao-tzu

THREE 

PEOPLE 

WORTHY 

OF RESPECT

Quote for Today - January 5, 2013

"There exist only three beings worthy of respect: the priest, the soldier, the poet.  To know, to kill, to create."

"Il n'existe que trois etres respectables: le prétre,  le guerrier, le poéte.  Savoir, tuer, et creer."


Charles Baudelaire [1821-1867], in Mon Coeur Mis a Nu [1887, 1897], XXII

QUESTIONS:

That was published in France in 1887 from Charles Baudelaire who died in 1867. If you were to list 3 beings worthy of respect today, whom would you list?

How would you understand the second part of the quote: to know, to kill, to create"?

THREE 

HUMAN 

STORIES

Quote for Today: January 4, 2013

"There are only two or three human stories, and they go on repeating themselves, as fiercely as if they had never happened before."

Willa Sibert Cather [1873-1947] O Pioneers [1913], pt. ii, Chapter 4

Questions:

What do you think are these 2 or 3 human stories?

What are the 2 or 3 key stories of your life?

 THREE
PASSIONS

Quote for Today - January 3,  2013

"Three passions, 

simple but overwhelmingly strong,

have governed my life:

the longing for love,

the search for knowledge,

and unbearable pity

for the suffering of mankind."

Bertrand Russell [1872-1970] in Autobiography [1967], chapter I.

Question:

What are the 3 Main Passions that overwhelm and govern your life?

1)

2)

3)