LIFE IS
A ROLLER COASTER
INTRODUCTION
The title of my homily is, “Life Is A Roller Coaster.”
Life is a roller coaster, ups and downs, and then all
around.
At 12 or 13 years of age - 8th graders - a bunch
of us boys used to love to take the subway train to Coney Island, Brooklyn, N.Y. for a few hours - head for the Cyclone roller coaster - go
on it a bunch of times - go to Nathan’s for a hot dog and orange drink. Then we
would walk down to see the water - but not go in. Then we’d head back to the
Cyclone for another ride - laugh - head for the train - and
get back home - a nice Saturday afternoon in warm weather.
Looking back now, that adventure, was a metaphor for life.
Sometimes we’re just rolling along - no ups and downs - just
getting along in life - a few twists and turns - some stops - like a subway train
ride. And sometimes we feel like we’re on a roller coaster. It’s all ups and
downs - and all arounds. And sometimes it’s neither. We’re checking out the
scenery or we’re enjoying a hot dog and an orange drink -and not too much is
happening.
LENT
Lent - it’s an annual time to look at our life. We do this
on New Year’s Eve and Day - but how long does that last?
Lent - what’s your metaphor for how you see life? Lately, it
has been feeling like a roller coaster for me - lots of action - lots of
adventures.
Lent - it’s here - we had Ash Wednesday a few days ago - and
this year it goes till early April - Palm Sunday is on April 1st
this year - and Easter the following Sunday, is April 8th.
Lent - Spring - 2012.
I was wondering if we’ll appreciate Spring this year - because we’ve had
such a sweet and easy winter. It still could snow and get cold - but this week
we’re into March. How much does weather - and geography - mold - form and shape
us?
Once more: what are your plans for Lent this year?
People have expressed gratitude for the Lenten Booklets - so
some folks have some spiritual reading as part of their Lent.
The latest issue of America
Magazine has a piece on “What Are You
Taking Up?” On the cover it shows some kids and staff from Sacred Heart
School in Wallington, New Jersey,
watching a big barn fire of blessed palms from the year before. The old
tradition was to get the ashes for Ash Wednesday from those burnt palms. Today we get ashes for Ash Wednesday in tiny see through plastic bags from somewhere. The magazine article features 4 suggestions
for action and reflection to take up during Lent - in contrast to the old
saying, “What are you giving up for Lent?” 4 writers suggest: 1) The Asceticism
of Truth. Take long walks, find quiet places, and face the truths about
yourself and life that can set you free. John Kavanaugh, a Jesuit at St. Louis University, says, “Stop pretending. We
are as fragile as dust.” 2) Gerald Schlabach - a theologian in Minnesota says, “Love
the Enemy in Your Pew.” Liberals,
conservatives, gay, straight, old, young, listen to each other. 3) Margaret
Pfeil an assistant professor at the Notre Dame says “Feed the Hungry With Local
Food.” 4) Thomas Massaro a Jesuit at Boston
College says, “Get to
Know Your Legislators.”
What’s in your plans for this Lent?
There is a notice on our sign up board back in the rectory
to sign up for hearing confessions on Wednesday Evenings in Lent. It’s “The
Light is On” program that will be in all the parishes of this diocese and many
dioceses. Is that in your plans for this Lent?
The article in America is suggesting 4 things. I just mentioned two things: some spiritual reading and the sacrament
of confession or reconciliation.
Then there are fasting, praying, and alms giving as the 3 traditional practices
for Lent.
LIFE
How about taking some time to look at one’s life? How’s it
going?
I was at celebration at the Naval Academy on Friday afternoon for a Captain retiring from the Navy. I had the opening and
closing prayer - so that was a piece of cake. What I liked was I had a chance
to listen to two talks: one about someone and the other by the person himself about his life.
Summing up one’s life - at different points in life: good idea.
It hit me loud and clear about the power of comparisons.
What’s it like to live in all kinds of different places - here, there and
everywhere, all around the world? How does that impact one’s family - one’s
spouse and kids? Adjustment. Adjustment. Adjustment.
Sitting there I realized I have also lived in lots of different places as well
- but I didn’t have to worry about a family being uprooted. So finally a benefit
for celibacy. I've lived in Wisconsin, Ohio, up by Lake Erie in Pennsylvania as well as in
the Pocono Mountains in Pennsylvania, Upstate and downstate New York, New
Jersey, Washington D.C. and 2 different places in Maryland. Once more how do
changes, movements, geography, weather, homes, different assignments form who I am?
I remember someone saying a long time ago that one year in a
foreign country - provided it’s in a language other than one’s own - is worth 4
years of college. Is that true? I would
assume that the answer to that is: “It all depends.” I wonder at times how my life would have been
if my plans worked out. I became a priest to work in Brazil. Didn’t happen. Maybe my
life would have been a lot more like a roller coaster ride if that happened. We
can only image with the what if’s.
We’ve all heard John Lennon’s words a dozen times, “Life is
what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
Life …. death …. there are 5 more funerals on our board that
are coming up. It’s seems that a lot of people are dying. Have you been to any
funerals lately? What were you thinking? What were you feeling? It can be like
today’s first reading: one’s whole world is flooded out with tears and pain -
and we need a Rainbow.
Yesterday, I was at
two funerals. The first one I was the priest at - the second one I attended.
The first one was for a wonderful woman named Roberta Hart. She used to come to the 12:10 weekday Mass at St. John Neumann's - till she got sick. What an opportunity and a grace to try to help a person deal with sickness and then to help a family deal with
the death of their mom. At the wake on Friday afternoon, I looked at the pictures and the video and heard comments about a
wonderful woman. I had seen her a few months ago for an hour
- at Genesis in Severna Park. Once more
William Sloan Coffin Jr’s comment about being a minister or a priest hit me. He said the greatest gift is being invited into the secret garden of another’s soul. This one had cancer. Life.
Sometimes it’s a roller coaster. Sometimes it’s a train. Sometimes it’s a bed
in a nursing home. Then yesterday morning at the Mass I got to hear a granddaughter
- speak for a whole bunch of grand kids - and I heard her take on her grandmother. Then I
got to hear a daughter speaking for 5 brothers and one sister tell us how she
saw mom and mom saw life and her kids.
These are the things that form and inform me. These moments
are great spiritual reading.
Then I shot back to Saint Mary’s to attend a second funeral. It
was for Rita Esker - the mother of one of our priests. Rita was alive and
kicking my first few years here at St. Mary’s. It was one more moment to
reflect upon life - my mom and dad - where I came from - and their funerals.
OUT OF ELECTRICITY
Near the end of the second funeral Mass, I began saying to myself, I have to
run upstairs now and come up with a homily for the 4:30 Mass - 1st Sunday in Lent Mass.
A feeling of tiredness came over me. I’m said to myself,
“I’m on the bottom of the hill on the roller coaster ride called today.”
That's where that image came from.
What to preach on? What do you need? Where are you right now
in your life? What’s your metaphor for your life right now?
As I thought about the past few days, metaphors for life hit me.
I was thinking about the nice afternoon walk I took on Thursday - my day off. I was out the front door of St. Mary’s - ran across Duke
of Gloucester - down to Ego Alley - and then through the Naval Academy. It’s
great doing this around 4 PM - because all these young people in the Naval Academy are running,
running - practicing lacrosse now - throwing a Frisbee, a football or having a
catch. A group were playing Danny Boy with brass instruments. Life. Oh to be
young again….
But sitting there after the funerals, the image from that Thursday afternoon walk that hit me was ice cream cones.
There were lots of folks licking ice cream cones. I thought: is that a metaphor
for life? Is that a possible metaphor for a homily?
How would these questions sound? Looking at your life right now are you just
starting with a brand new full ice cream cone - 2 scoops - and you’re just
starting to lick away? Or is your ice cream cone almost finished and your hands
are sticky and you forgot to get a napkin? Or did your kid drop and plop his
ice cream cone - and she’s screaming and you hand her yours? Or you’re diabetic
- like me - and I know there’s sugar free ice cream - but it’s really not - and you say,
“My ice cream cone days are over. Ugh.”
CONCLUSION
We’re at the beginning of Lent. What are your plans? Jesus
headed into the desert for 40 days - as today’s gospel puts it. Matthew and
Luke use great imagination what Jesus went through.
Mark - the earliest gospel - simply says that the Spirit drove him out
into that desert and he was tempted by Satan. Sounds like it was some roller
coaster ride, if you ask me - but the gospels also say, the angels ministered
to him. I’m sure there were no Nathan’s Hot Dogs and Orange Drink or ice cream
there - but it sounds like there were some moments that weren’t as tough as the others. Best
of blessings on your Lent his year. Hop on the train. Hope it doesn't become a roller coaster. Amen.