Sunday, November 18, 2018



THANKSGIVING 
AND 
TYPES OF PEOPLE 


INTRODUCTION

Robert Rodenmayer wrote a book called, “Thanks Be To God.”

In it  he says that there are 3 kinds of giving:

·       grudge giving,
·       duty giving,
·       thanks giving.

1) GRUDGE GIVING

A grudge giver says “I hate to give.”

This person gives little, for “the gift without the giver is bare.”

2) A DUTY GIVER

A duty giver says “I ought to give.”

This person givers more, but there is no song in it.

3) A THANKS GIVER

A thanks giver says, “I want to give.”

This person givers everything. They show forth the image of God to the world.

QUESTION

What kind of a giver do we tend to be most of the time?

WILLIAM BARCLAY

“The rabbis had a saying that the best kind of giving was when the giver did not know to whom he was giving and when the receiver did not know from whom he was receiving.”

TODAY’S GOSPEL

in today’s gospel, we have the 10 people with leprosy and only one came back to give thanks.

One out of ten is pretty bad.

ME -- YOU

Me? You?

What kind of a person am I?

Am I a person filled with gratitude or am I person filled with grudges?

Did the 9 other people get healed of their leprosy and not get healed of their grudges?

We don’t know.

Picture how easy it would have been to hang onto grudges -- after years and years of being shunned, pointed out, rejected, called, “Unclean!”

Leprosy was a double whammy.

Why / how did this one get freed?

Jesus says it was “faith”.

DR. HANS SELYE

In his book, Stress of Life, Dr. Hans Selye, said that “one of the simplest ways to reduce stress is to develop a sense of gratitude.”

The person who focuses on life’s blessings invariably experience contentment and peace while those who focus on crosses complain about them.

CONCLUSION

The conclusion is obvious.

Keep your eye on the good stuff and give thanks.

November 22, 2018

IGNORED

Have you ever started to tell a story
and someone cut you off and began
telling their story - and you sat there
feeling frustrated and sort of alone?

Well, now you know what it feels like
to be a parent or a preacher or a kid,
of for what it’s worth: now you know
what it feels like to be God - most days.



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



November 22, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“A  religious  person is one who holds God and man in one thought at one time, at all times, who suffers harm done to others, whose greatest passion is compassion, whose greatest strength is love and defiance of despair.” 

Abraham Joshua Heschel     

November 21,  2018


PING PONG GAME

God loves ping pong.
You know that, right?

Everything is moving,
even when it seems, it’s not.

Blood is flowing through
our inner subways.

Stars and the sun and moon
are this gigantic amusement park.

Foxes and groundhogs go hunting
every night in the dark.

God has his ping pong paddle
and asks, “Are you ready to serve?”


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



November 21, 2018


Thought for today:

“don’t pray  when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.”

Leroy Satchel Paige

November 20, 2018


THE  ROSETTA  STONE

It took a guy named Jean-Francois
Champollion 14 years as well as
others to figure out the Rosetta Stone.

Sometimes it’s easier to sit down
with grandkids and have them explain
what their handwritten messages to us mean.

Well, thank you, now hand me your
crayons - get me a piece of paper -
and let me write a message to you?



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


November 20, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“An atheist is someone who has no invisible means of support.”  

Fulton J. Sheen

November 19, 2018



SHEPHERD’S  AND  APPLE PIE 

Apples, peaches, potatoes, chunks of beef,
just waiting: waiting, waiting, wondering  -
seeing the sharp silver  knife on the counter -
about to be picked up and then the chop,
chop, chop / cut, cut, cut / slice, slice, slice.

Life: growing, grazing, hanging there, till
purpose has arrived: becoming the shepherd's
or apple pie - becoming the  dinner or the dessert, existing for others. Wondering: do we know this is their purpose too?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018





November 19, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“For Catholics  before Vatican II, the land of the free was pre-eminently the land of Sister Says - except of course, for Sister, for whom it was the land of Father Says.” 


Wilfred Sheed, Frank and Maisie: A Memoir with Parents, 1985


WARNING SIGNALS

 INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Warning Signals.”

LOUD AND CLEAR

The train is coming down the tracks.

The train is coming towards a crossing.

The train gives off warning signals.

“Warning Signals”. 

Sometimes we hear them; sometimes we don't. 

Sometimes we see them; sometimes we don’t.  

Sometimes we do something about them; sometimes we don’t.

There they are on the dashboard of our car!

Sometimes we take care of them; sometimes we say, “They mean nothing. I’ve had these here before - and nothing happened. I’ll have them look at it - next month - when I get my car checked.”

Warning signals  are present in our life - but most of the time they are not as clear as those little icons that appear all lit up - on the dashboard of our car.

So often we don’t see them. We don’t hear them. We have eyes that don’t see or ears that don’t want to hear.

The paint is peeling. The oven is giving off a funny smell, but we don’t want to know. It would take too much time to check the oven. We don’t get the message till the house goes, “Boom!”

Then after we get hit with reality, we find ourselves out on the street or on the floor saying, “I should have seen this coming a long time ago. I should have seen the handwriting on the wall.”

GO TO ANY AL-ANON OR AA MEETING

Go to any Al-Anon or AA meeting and you’ll have folks saying things like, “I am a slow learner. Her father was an alcoholic. I was an alcoholic. I didn’t get the connection that she might be marrying me because I was an alcoholic.”

One guy said, “I look at my sister’s family. It’s a total mess. I’m in the same mess, but I wouldn’t look at myself and how I was treating my family.” Then the pause. Then the sad statement, “Now it’s too late.”

We’re slow learners. We’re lazy. We don't get off the tracks till the train hits us. We wait till the drip ruins the rug before we call the plumber.

HIGHWAY ANIMALS

Animals that cross the highway don’t seem to get the message that crossing a highway is dangerous business. They don’t seem to ask, “What are these black birds waiting for near highways?” They don’t seem to see the carcasses that they bypass. The bright lights seem to get them. They don’t realize that they could be next.

DENIAL IS NOT JUST A RIVER IN EGYPT - AS THE SAYING GOES

Denial runs the world. Illusion so often is the reality. People build castles in the air and then they try to live in them.

TODAY’S READINGS

Today’s readings are end of the year readings. They appear here and we’ll hear them again during Advent - which is coming up.

They are warning signals type readings. They contain all kinds of warning signals. Today’s readings are written in what is called “apocalyptic” literature. “Apo” is the Greek word for “un” to un something. Un Cola, etc. “Kalyptein” means to cover.

So Apocalyptic literature is a literature that uncovers reality.

However, paradoxically, it picks symbolic language and mysterious analogies to do it.

It’s a literature that flourished in the Middle East from 200 BC to 150 AD.

Israel was going through some tough times - and they were refusing to look at how they themselves were self-destructing. So the prophets tried to get them thinking. Nothing seemed to work, so they came up with a language that used metaphors that might penetrate their dense skulls.

The same thing happened in Christian times.

So as we hear in today’s gospel, people can see a tree having sap rising. Hey, spring is coming. We see that, but we don’t seem to see the whole world collapsing.

Jesus talked about waiting for the bridegroom and then forgetting him and getting drunk or what have you. OR waiting for the boss and then forgetting him and getting drunk. Well, when he comes, we’ll be out of time or without candles, or without oil.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is simply, “Warning Signals.”

There seems to be two types of people: those who hear the alarm clock waking them up and they get out of bed and get moving and those who hit the snooze button and go back to sleep.

Our move.

November 18

UH  OH! ETERNITY

“Eternity” - not the word,
but glimpses of  the reality -
need to hit us - yes, eternity ….

The idea - the realization -
that we might exist - in some
form - without ever non-existing ….

Uh oh! If that doesn’t bring us
to our knees, to touching the
hem of God’s garment …. uh oh!


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



November 18, 2018

Thought for today:  

"The most important thing about me is that I am a Catholic. It’s a superstructure within which you can work, like a sonnet.” 

Jean Kerr, Time, April 14, 1961

Saturday, November 17, 2018

November 17, 2018



BROKEN  PROMISES

Young Donal, I fell for you and for your
promises. I promised you - if you’ll take
me across the oceans  - I’ll go with you.
I’ll share your bed and I’ll share your life.

I whistled for you. I cried 200 cries for you.
I gave my love to you from this tiny me.
But all I heard were the sheep bleating.
You were cheating. You were lying.

I fell for you on a Sunday - the Sunday
after Easter - in church  - when the
Passion was being read.  My eyes,
clung to you with love - with passion.

Now I’m lost and  broken. You’ve taken
from me the sun and the moon. You’ve taken
the heart out of my chest, and if I’m not
mistaken, I believe you’ve taken God as well.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018
This is a translation of a Gaelic Ballad,
with the name of Donal Og. It's sung
by Liadan.  Right below is an English
version of this same song by Roy Williamson.










November 17, 2018 

Thought for today: 


“Life’s a tough  proposition, and the first hundred years are the hardest.”   

Wilson Mizner [1876-1933] Saying

Friday, November 16, 2018

November 16, 2018


ALL  IN  A   DAY

Some people get a lot done in a day;
some people get little done in a day.
Each of us have to step back in the day
to see whether what we’re doing is
making the day better for each other,
whether we’re pulling our load or
whether we’re making a mess and
we don’t really know what we’re doing.



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


November 16, 2018 

Thought for today: 


“No one can  make  you feel inferior without your consent.” 


Anna Eleanor Roosevelt [1884-1962] 
in This Is My Story [1937].

Thursday, November 15, 2018

November 15, 2018


YOU GOTTA LAUGH

The other person is blind.
The other person is deaf.
The other person is difficult.
The other person breaks things.
The other person wrecks things.
The other person is demanding.
Then the other person just walks out -
nothing hits him and you’re just
stuck with the mess. Sorry this
is just way it is: so you better
learn how to laugh - because
this is way it is - sometimes.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



November 15, 2018 


Thought for today: 


“Fortunately  psycho]analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts.  Life itself still remains a very effective therapist.” 


Karen Horney in Our Inner Conflicts [1925]

Wednesday, November 14, 2018


November 14, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“Life is a foreign  language; all men mispronounce it.” 


Christopher  Morley [1890-1957],  
Thunder on the Left, [1925], chapter 14.

Tuesday, November 13, 2018

November 14, 2018


IF ALL WERE BLIND


If all were blind,  what would life be like?

Would marriages  be better?

Would prejudices take on newer forms?

Would fat people have different inner self-talk?

Would theology or God-talk be different?

What would wars be like?

If all were blind, what would life be like?

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018

November 13, 2018


YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET
 WHAT YOU WANT!


You can’t always get 
what you want - but 
it's better to keep trying. 

Sometimes the menu 
doesn’t have what 
it says it has…. 

Sometimes the other person 
just doesn’t do what you 
thought they were going to do. 

Sometimes today doesn't 
turn out the way you thought 
today would turn out. 

But sometimes it does, so 
how are you doing with the way 
your day is going so far?  

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


November 13, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“There was so  much  handwriting on the wall /  That even the wall fell down.”  



Christopher Morley [1890-1957], 
Around the Clock  [1943]

Monday, November 12, 2018

November 12, 2018

Homily.... 
Nov. 12, 2018


JETTY

The stone black granite jetty
screamed, “Oh no, not again!”

Yes, again and again, the
ocean waves kept coming….

“You’d think I’d get a break
now and then. Oh no never.”

“And people come here day
after day - to feel, to see,  to pray …..

“But nobody thinks of me -
just wave after wave after wave.

“Well,” said the jetty, “it’s better
being rock than being sand …..

“But that’s slowly happening with
crashing wave after wave after wave….


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018





November 12, 2018 

Thought for today: 
“Do not use  a  hatchet to remove a fly 
from your friend’s forehead.” 

Chinese Proverb

Sunday, November 11, 2018


WAITING

I look to see if you’re
coming up the street.
No it’s not you yet -
so with my left hand -
I’m a leftie  - I let go
of the curtain and wait.

I look at my left hand -
it’s the same hand
that waved good-bye
two years ago when
you left and walked
down  the street.

I open up the curtain
again - I’m still waiting.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


PUTTING  OUR  TWO  CENTS IN….


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 32 Sunday in Ordinary Time [B] is, “Putting Our Two Cents In….”



It’s a saying from today’s gospel, “The poor widow put her two cents in….” [Cf. Mark 12: 41-44.]

It was all she had.  Others were  putting in from their extra - or to make an extra impression - or to get accolades - from others. They were into self. She was into others.

There’s a message from today’s readings - giving - but especially when it costs us from the bottom of our pocket or pocketbook or time and  life - and it’s not self-centered behavior.

EXTRA OR EMPTINESS

Haven’t we all been at the store and the cost for something we just bought is $1.02 or $2.02?  We take out our wallet to pay for what we bought. We take out the dollar or two, but we don’t want to break another dollar.  We’re checking our pockets for 2 cents and the person behind us sees and hears this and  hands us two cents - two pennies - from out of his or her pocket.

It’s nice when they have those dishes at the counter with coins to help someone when they need an extra penny or two.

That’s putting our two cents in when it really doesn’t cost us a penny.

I’ve seen people - I think that’s what they were doing - seeing that dish and check their pockets for loose pennies.

Imagine too if someone did that to impress others standing there about how observant they are or how thoughtful they are?

Imagine it’s summer time and people are at the dock and  a father spots a great ice cream spot. So he brings  in or over his 3 kids and his wife and he gets ice cream for his family and himself. And on the way out he spots 3 kids looking longingly on the 5 leaking ice cream cones - and he lets his wife and kids get ahead -  and he slides over to those kids - who look poor - but he really doesn’t know - and says to one kid - “Here hold my ice   cream for a second.”  Relax it’s wrapped in  a napkin handle. He takes out his wallet - sort of sneakily - takes out a twenty - an Andrew Jackson - and says to the 3 kids. “Here get yourself some ice cream. And can I have my ice cream back.”

And he quickly catches up with his wife and  kids who are walking ahead and they didn’t see this move and they all  walked to the end of the dock - he $50 dollars lighter - he 8 ice cream fuller - with an extra tiny smile on his face which he doesn’t know he has.

OBSERVING THE LITTLE THINGS

The message I get out of today’s gospel is sort of two centsy - as well as very rich.

Am I right  that I’m spotting pennies on the ground - not that many - but some - and much more than 50 years ago?

I’ve even read that some people want to get rid of pennies. Just round out your bills.

I wasn’t around for the depression, but would people pick up pennies - if they saw them on the street way back when?  I would think so….

A guy just told me today that he had a Pekinese dog who swallowed a penny that was on the floor and it cost him $1500 for veterinary surgery.

The message I get from Jesus is to be observant.

The message I get from Jesus is to be a learner.

The message I get from Jesus is to get messages from everywhere.

The world is a classroom.

Jesus said to learn lessons from the birds of the air and the flowers of the field.

If Jesus was living here in Annapolis - what would he be seeing this November 11, 2018,

Would he stop to read the headlines and lead stories in the papers in CVS? This weekend we celebrate Veteran’s Day. Today is Armistice Day - the 100th Anniversary of the end of World War I? Would he think about how that lead - in a way - to World War II - one cause being - the victors didn’t help the loses - recover well enough. Did the Marshall Plan after World War II  and lots of other recovery help - help   World War III not to appear? But ….

Would Jesus observe the leaves and how people walk the sidewalks - some aware of others - some not - that some people on line at Chick and Ruth’s are bridge builders - causing conversations between strangers, etc. etc. etc. and some no - no reacting to each other as they wait on line.

Would Jesus hear the word “selfie” and wonder if anyone uses the word “groupie”.

Jesus wore several hats - one of which was Rabbi.

In today’s gospel Jesus the Rabbi - the teacher  - is teaching his disciples how to observe. Did he notice they were impressed with the classy robes and outfits and how they were impressed with the sound of fat cat coins going into the poor box and they didn’t hear the widow’s 2 cents?

This week the U.S. Bishops are going to meet in Baltimore for an annual meeting. Will they laugh today as they do their things with classy robes - and notice that because of today’s gospel?  Will someone bring that up at their get together and say we have a lot of things to talk about here: the continuance of stuff about abuse - guns - violence - the discord in our nation in voting and political debate and snide remarks?

CONCLUSION

One of my life learnings is to simply shut up and listen and to ask the unexpected person to put their two cents in.

To ask Jesus: when you see the U.S. Catholic Church - and the World Wide Catholic Church - what do you see?

To ask the people who come to church and to ask the drop outs and the none such - what do you see?

Let me close with one of my favorite cartoons.  I think of it when I read today’s gospel.

The cartoon was in the New Yorker.  You see a gigantic main frame computer and it’s not working. All kinds of IT people are standing there with clip boards - trying to figure out what’s wrong.  Off to the side one sees a maintenance man with a broom sweeping the floor.  He’s pointing to the plug. It’s not in.

The moral of the story is: make sure you ask everyone to put their 2 cents in - even the maintenance man.

Every group has to ask everyone: W D Y S.  “What Do You See?”

Every group has to ask everyone: W  A  W  M.  “What Are We Missing?”

November 11, 2018 

Thought for today: 








“If we all said to  people’s faces what we say behind one’s another’s backs, society would be impossible.” 


Honore de Balzac [1799-1850]

Saturday, November 10, 2018

Nov. 10, 2018


EVERY  DAY

Every day is someone’s birthday -
like today is Martin Luther and
Brad Best’s wife’s birthday.

Every day is someone’s deathday,
like Celestine IV - a  Pope for 16 days
in 1241 and Leonid Brezhnev in 1982.

Every day is a big anniversary,
like the U.S. Marine’s started today
in 1775  in Tun Tavern in Philadelphia.

Every day is a day to remember
like today the SS Edmund Fitzgerald
sank in Lake Superior, November 10, 1975

Every day has interesting facts
like today in 1958 Harry Winston donated
the Hope Diamond to the Smithsonian.

Every day has beginnings like Sesame
Street in 1969 and Bill Gates introduced
Windows 1.0  today, in 1983.

Every day has Good News that 
started that day - like November 10, 1989 -
the Berlin Wall  started to be torn down.

Every November 10 is just one day
but lots of things will be happening today
like every other day of  the year. Amen.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018






SS Edmund Fitzgerald was an American Great Lakes freighter that sank in a  Lake Superior storm on November 10, 1975, with the loss of the entire crew of 29. When launched on June 7, 1958, she was the largest ship on North America's Great Lakes, and she remains the largest to have sunk there.














November 10, 2018 

Thought for today:
 “The door prize is, 
heaven wraps itself in a box 
and places itself at your feet.”  


Hafiz [1320-1389], 
in “What the Prom Queen Gets,” 
in A Year with Hafiz
page 7, translated 
and rewritten
 by Daniel Ladinsky.

Friday, November 9, 2018





STOP THE LIES!

It’s so easy to start the lies.
I forgot something I promised
to do - oh no - so I told a lie.

Lie #1. Lie # 2 was easier.
Now I’m up to number who
knows what?  It’s so easy now.

Admitting I lied. Apologizing….
Facing the mistake - now that’s
much more difficult. Truth #1.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


November 9, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“There is  no  stronger bond of friendship than a mutual enemy.”  


Frankfort Moore [1853-1931]