Sunday, May 21, 2017


VESTMENTS

In our Masses and Baptisms here at St. Mary’s and St. John Neumann’s churches we sometimes use vestments with images of children on them. When using them I often get comments about how neat they are.

I’ve also got the thought: why doesn’t the same company or other companies make similar vestments with images of senior citizens on them?

Or families? Or cities? Or workers? Or people playing sports?

When I went on line, sure enough, there are various unique vestments. Some are a bit much and too, too expensive. 

Yet, the possibilities are endless.  Is there a Michelangelo of the Sistine Chapel Ceiling fame - who could make great vestments?

We also have here a few stoles with images of animals on them. They seem to represent  the Biblical scene of creation or Noah’s Ark. Sometimes in wearing that stole I see little kids during a baptism staring at images.  Yet I hesitate to guess how and what little kids see.

At Mass what are we supposed to be seeing or thinking about?  Purists might scream at a vestment showing little children on them. Or if I had my way, why not have vestments with images of 17 people in wheelchairs or Down Syndrome kids at a party? 

Check out stained glass windows. They could use a make-over as well. The images have to be lasting - people will be looking at them for centuries.  Great images can call us to greatness.  I’m not an artist - but I’ve seen some art work in stained glass windows that do not have a grab in them.

I made a retreat once in a mother house in Kentucky and they had wonderful hanging tapestries that were put up for different seasons. I thought they were neat - and gospel driven - and one super way to get the Good News of Jesus proclaimed.

If someone who wants to start a cottage industry with more of these image driven vestments, start with senior citizens. Check out Normal Rockwell images and gather great artists. Go for it.



P.S.  I noticed that a Vestment Making Company is called, “Theological Threads.”  How about that?
May 21, 2017

FAMILIAR  SCENES 

Mom, dad, brothers, sisters ….
Bread, wine, a table ….
Gatherings - of all sizes and shapes ….
Work ….
Water ….
Sleep ….
Shadows - how they vary and rotate ….
Sports - games - skills - running ….
Travel - wheels, walking, rushing ….
Seats - getting a seat - offering a seat ….
Lost and found …. keys and people ….
The poor and those who want more ....
God searchers and God deniers ....
Arrivals and departures ….
Waiting and looking out windows….
Birds returning ....
Dogs barking ....
War, violence, rage and killing ….

I hate it that I had to add that last one ….


 © Andy Costello, Reflections  2017



Saturday, May 20, 2017

May 20, 2017

THE  RECKONING 

Some deny there is a hell;
some deny heaven as well.
Some say I’ll find out when I die,
so why worry about it - here and now.

Some deny consequences;
some deny reckonings;
some refuse to see what’s always
sitting there - just 10 yards away.
 
Some deny there is an aftertaste -
after every bite we take -
from the tree of good or evil -
from the tree of life or death.


© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017



Friday, May 19, 2017

MAY 19, 2017
DELICIOUS  RED  APPLE 

A delicious red apple
juicy, perfect, sweet
was just handed to me.

Bite, bite, bite, bite,
bite, bite, bite, bite,
bite, bite, bite, bite.

Glad I took it, because later
on that day I saw its twin
laying on the ground, decaying.

My life: I want my life
to be,  Apple A, and
not its twin, Apple B.

 © Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


REMAIN


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 5th Thursday in Easter is, “Remain.”

I noticed in today’s gospel that the word, “remain” is used three times.

Jesus tells his disciples 3 times to “remain in my love.”

MARRIAGE IN THE NEXT TEN YEARS - REMAINING IN LOVE

You are all just around 17  years of age - juniors in high school - just at the edge of your last year at St. Mary’s.

Most of you will be married in the next 10 years - most closer to 27 years of age - if the current trend of when people get married happens.

Most of you will take it for granted you’ll remain in love for the rest of your lives.

Some of you will; some of you won’t.

And one of the toughest experiences in life - is broken love.

And some of you will experience broken love.

One of you will break it off.  Sometimes the gal does it; sometimes the guy does it.

One is usually more crushed than the other - torn,  hurt - and then there are the others in your lives - those who love you - and how they deal with what has happened to both of you.

BACK TO THE GOSPEL

So when Jesus tells his disciples to remain in his love - he’s talking about heavy stuff here.

And Jesus gives his motive for his message, “I have told you this so that my joy might be in you and your joy may be complete.”

200 MEN IN DENVER

Years ago I flew out to Denver to do a wedding.

I went to the downtown church where the wedding was to take place.

It was around noon - lunch time - on a Friday when I came to the church.

I noticed this line of about 200 men - all men - heading for a door to what looked like a school building next to the church.

They looked scrubby - homeless - burnt out.

I went into the rectory to introduce myself  - and say I’m here for the wedding tomorrow, Saturday, and the rehearsal, later on that Friday at 5 PM.  Then I asked the receptionist at the church, who were the men on line outside.

She said, “Oh, they are here for lunch at noon. We get about 200 men every day.”

“Wooooh!” that hit me.

I thought about them - 200 husbands, sons, fathers, broken men - with families all over the United States.

I imagined the 1800’s. These would be the cowboys, drifters, miners heading for the Gold Rush, outlaws - all those men I have seen in 200 Westerns.

I imagined there were families in Boston, Chicago, Chattanooga, wondering where their dad or husband or father was.

I didn’t know anything about any one of these men - but I pictured them as broken men - in whose lives - love did not remain.

SUITCASE STORY

Here’s my suitcase story. I can tell it now. My mom is long dead.

I’m 30 years of age. I’m visiting my mom at her house in Brooklyn with a classmate.  My sister Mary is sitting there on the couch with my mother.

Something triggers stories about when we were kids.

My sister starts to  kid my mother about her suitcase trick.

When the four of us kids were fighting - and my dad was at work - my mom would get up and head for the closet and take her coat off a hanger - put it on - and grab a suitcase and tell us she’s leaving us - because we were fighting.  I was the youngest so I would grab my mother by her leg to stop her at the door.

“Well,” she would say, “Okay. I’m not leaving you - but next time you are fighting - I’m leaving.”

Any my mother and my sister on the couch were laughing.

At that moment - at 30 - I found out that was play acting. I thought it was real back then - and it remained in my sub-conscience that way.

Being a tiny kid, I thought  it was real - that I was about to lose my mommy.

As I thought about that - I realized I was every little kid I have ever  seen - clinging to his mother or father - when they see a dog or a stranger.

I was every kid screaming, “Remain with me!”

I was every kid screaming, “Don’t leave me.”

That was a life moment at 30 and a life moments when I was a tiny kid.

I’m sure if my mother realized one of us might be taking this for real - she wouldn’t have done it.  It was a mistake - and looking back I obviously forgave her.

Jesus said, “Unless you be like little children, you won’t see the Kingdom of God.”

When it comes to feelings - deepest feelings - we're touching childhood experiences - revisited. 

Revisit the work of Eric Bern and Thomas Harris - in Transactional Analysis. They did work in describing the theory of the 3 human states we can find ourselves in: parent, adult and child. 

And the child state is when we are into deep emotions and feelings.

Every human being needs people to cling to - hold onto - to scream to others, “Remain with me.”

Every couple is relying on the other remaining in love with them.

CREMAINS

There is a new word that has come out in the past 25 years.  It’s “cremains.”

It’s the cremated remains of someone who has died.

For a funeral, the cremains are often in a beautiful box or urn made of wood or ceramic or marble or metal.

The Catholic Church stresses that people be buried in sacred places.

I’ve seen people bringing the cremains home.

I’ve heard of people putting a tiny bit of the cremains of a loved one in a locket  and they wear it around their neck.

I’ve heard of people waiting a while before they bury the cremains of a loved one.

Thinking about this, I see that  one advantage of a casket - and not cremating a love one - keeping the whole body of the deceased for burial  - gets people to bury the dead. It would be very odd to keep a casket with a loved one.

Jesus was touching on human behavior when he said, “Let the dead bury the dead - and move on.”

It’s tough enough dealing with death.

We need grieving time and slowly letting go time - and people do what they have to do - sometimes odd or different - sometimes doing something that they learn from in time. I realize the church has practises about all this - but I’m into the school of hiding, that is, letting people figure out and work out how they are going to deal with death. However, if asked - I advise people to cry, walk, and bury their dead - and give themselves time to mourn - from a distance. 

WHAT REMAINS

I love to tell the story of a rose petal.

I was in our living room as a kid and my dad was in his favorite chair reading the paper.

I opened up one of my dad’s favorite books, The Best Loved Poems of the English Language. I discovered a dried up delicate red rose petal on one of the pages.

I’ve told this story several times.

I brought the book over to my dad - wide open - like an offertory procession - with the red rose petal right there on an open page.

I asked my dad, “What’s this?”

He looked at it and said with his rich smile all over his face, “Memories.”

What remains?

For starters memories.

For starters stories.

For starters all the things our parents did for us.

My dad would take the 4 of us down to  Bliss Park in  Brooklyn when we were kids or to the football games down along the shore or to the Staten Island Ferry.

He was giving my mother a break for a few hours every Sunday after we came home from Mass and after breakfast.

I noticed my brother did the same thing: taking his kids to Washington D.C. to see the museums - to give his wife Joanne a break.

What remains - how our parents raised us.

CONCLUSION

Father Matt Allman is with us today. He has the job of trying to invite young men to join the Redemptorists.

I have become a Redemptorist and remain one - because we need priests to preach good values and Good News to people.

A priest came into our classroom in grammar school. He was a Redemptorist working in Brazil and he told us what he did and he invited us to think about becoming a priest.

I heard his message and  it remained with me.

I invite you to become priests.

Father Matt knows a priest friend of mine, Tom Barrett. We worked together for 8 ½ years before I came to St. Mary’s. I remember Tom telling folks his vocation story.

He saw a Redemptorist priest preaching and praying the Our Lady of Perpetual Help Novena in our parish with that name in Brooklyn.  Praying there he said to himself, “I could do that.”  Then in time he said, “I would like to do that.”  Then in time he said, “I choose to do that.”

That experience - that dream - remained with him for his whole life.

I ask you on this retreat to get in touch with what’s remaining with you - your dreams, your hopes, your visions, your family values. Amen.


Wednesday, May 17, 2017

May 18,  2017


RELEASE

Tight, up tight, tense,
what happens when
I walk into a room?

If I smile, wave, loosen
my fist, I can release
ease into the room.

Better: Christ, you come
through locked doors and
heavy  walls and you bring peace.




© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017
May 17, 2017


INSIDE MASS

We sometimes stand outside
and admire the house or the
lawns or the plants or gardens,
but at some point we need to
pause, to realize - down deep -
we want inside that house and be
in communion with all those within.

It’s then we have to ask, to seek,
to knock - till someone opens up
that door and lets us in. It’s then
we can sit down with each other,
break bread, sip good wine, share
good news - and then go out and be
in communion with all those without.


 © Andy Costello, Reflections  2017