March 4, 2017

LOVE  ME

Wow, there are so many ways

we ask others to love us. “Can
I get you something to eat?”

“Do you need some help?”

“Anytime….” “When you get
back, give me a call.” “I’m here

if you feel down or hurting.”

“Wow you did a great job with

the celebration. Everyone

said everything was perfect.”

“Don’t forget. You’re the best.”

© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017

WE’VE  COME 

A LONG WAY, BABY

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Friday after Ash Wednesday is, “We’ve Come A Long Way, Baby.”

When scientists, geologists, biologists, and naturalists like Charles Darwin [1809-1882] started to talk about evolution - lots of people screamed. They screamed at the thought we could have come from apes and primitive life.

The game - they played is, “Uproar.” It’s one of those Games People Play that one can find in Eric Bern’s classic book, Games People Play.

In time - the theory of evolution is still being worked out. It’s still evolving. It’s still being understood and misunderstood.  

Some say we started with life in the sea.  We started - as we start in the sea of our mother’s womb - from tiny cells in the sea - some billions of years ago.  

They just found evidence in Canada of what they are calling the earliest forms of microorganisms and microfossils - from between 3.8 and 4.3 billion years old.

We’ve come a long way baby.

Since then we’ve extended the theme of evolution into all kinds of different changes and growth and development.

For example the term is used to say each person’s mind can evolve over a lifetime.

We know so much more after 65 than we knew at 25.

Older people watch younger people as they develop - learn - change - figure things out - work things out.

I like to look around at weddings. I watch seniors watching the kids dancing at the wedding! 

Or just watch older folks watching teen agers as they walk through a mall. These older folks - usually older men - who hate shopping - and they are retired and go  with their wives to the mall. They are sitting there in the rest stops - those benches, chairs, seats in the mall along the mall walk ways and they smile as they see kids in all kinds of outfits, rings, gadgets and things.

We evolve.

RELIGION AND SPIRITUALITY ABOUT THE WAY

When it comes to religion, hopefully we also grow and develop and evolve.

I taught spirituality for 9 years to future Redemptorists.

As we all know the teacher learns the most.

So I found out what spirituality is. 

Most definitions and descriptions of what spirituality is uses the noun, WAY.

Spirituality is a way, a road, a path, a channel, a journey.

In Chinese we have the word “TAO” pronounced as if it’s a D - DAO.  It’s the way I do life.

And hopefully we evolve and learn as we walk the yellow brick road, the Iliad, the Odyssey, The Road Less Traveled.

And after noticing that spirituality is the road or the way or the path - I found out that systems of spirituality then talk about steps - as in the 12 Steps in AA spirituality. 

Ladders….  You’ll hear about steps and stairs. There are 3 steps, there are 5 steps. there are 7 steps. I have a book I’ve been working on forever. It’s entitled, “The 8^th Secret of Happiness.”  I’m evolving. I have about 9 other books in progress - slowly evolving over time. 

TODAY’S READINGS

Today’s readings talk about fasting.

That’s one of the practices, exercises, steps one takes in spirituality - so as to grow and evolve.

Fasting.

We used to think of fasting only when it comes to food and drink. We heard people talk about fast in Lent from candy, chocolates, alcohol. We’ve come a long way baby.

Now we hear about fasting from TV, gossip, couch potatoing it. I gave up solitaire on the computer about 5 years ago for Lent and haven’t done it since. No virtue, but it was a time gainer.

Jesus talks about fasting in today’s gospel - about there is a time for fasting and a time not to fast. [Cf. Matthew 9:14-15.]

You don’t fast at a wedding - even if you’re on a diet. You cheat at weddings. 

I have to fast from sugar for the rest of my life for my health - but my doctor, Doctor Lisa,  tells me to cheat every once and a while. That’s a good medical spiritual practice - otherwise I might stop being sweet. We all know that when folks are at the dessert time at any meal, any wedding, when they are eating cake or pie or ice cream, we are sweeter. We’re more smiling.

And we all know there are times we have to fast: for colonoscopies for starters. I’m a diabetic so I have to fast from stuff heavy in sugar.  Those who are alcoholics or can’t handle their booze, they have to fast.

We all know we got to get up out of our chairs and walk if we want to stay healthy.

So in today’s first reading, from Isaiah, he knows that people who give up drink or chocolate or whatever for Lent can become PITA’s - pains in the tush - as we all know. [Cf. Isaiah 58:1-9a.]

Don't we all remember hearing kids say when we were kids, “I can’t stand Lent because my father gives up cigarettes and beer for Lent and then becomes a raging angry person.”

Isaiah in today’s first reading said this stuff some 2500 years ago at least - the fasting person becomes angry and takes it out on his workers.

Listen to Isaiah again. Have we evolved this far?

Would that today you might fast
so as to make your voice heard on high!
Is this the manner of fasting I wish,
of keeping a day of penance:
That a man bow his head like a reed
and lie in sackcloth and ashes?
Do you call this a fast,
a day acceptable to the LORD?
This, rather, is the fasting that I wish:
releasing those bound unjustly,
untying the thongs of the yoke;
Setting free the oppressed, 
breaking every yoke;
Sharing your bread with the hungry,
sheltering the oppressed and the homeless;
Clothing the naked when you see them,
and not turning your back on your own.
Then your light shall break forth like the dawn,
and your wound shall quickly be healed;
Your vindication shall go before you,
and the glory of the LORD 
shall be your rear guard.
Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer,
you shall cry for help, 
and he will say: Here I am!

CONCLUSION

Lent is 40 days.

Hopefully by Easter we have risen to a newer, better way of life.

Hopefully, we’ve evolved a bit more.

It calls for dying to self - and rising to occasions of grace. Amen.

March 3, 2017

CRUCIFIXION

The crucifixion takes place every day….

The stations of the cross take place

in every office, factory, home and church.

Christ falls every time an illegal is pushed

into a gas exhausting van - and is hustled

off to some Calvary. Christ is nailed every

time kids bully and pound some fragile kid.

Christ is condemned to death with every

abortion - and some of us pro life people think

there is only 1 station of the cross. Pilate

wasn’t the only one who tried to wash his

hands when giving in to the crowd….

© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017

March 2, 2017

WHERE DOES IT HURT?

The little kid pointed to his knee

as he lay there on the sidewalk -

his skateboard now with a broken wheel….

The woman pointed to her wedding ring….

The school teacher pointed with her eye to a kid

all by himself looking out the schoolyard  fence….

The whole village in Syria - that has been

totally blown to bits - has decaying bodies

rotting in the alleyways and the kids are crying….

The couple sitting on hard wooden benches -

on hard marble floors - across from each other -

outside the big wooden doors of the divorce

courtroom - are 5,000 miles away from each other….

The sleepless ones in the night ….

The man I'm about to see in 5 minutes
who just lost his wife late yesterday afternoon ....

Where does it hurt?

© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017

March 1, 2017

ASHES

The sudden fire that leaves all

in ashes - or the slow crumbling

of us older  folks.... Ash Wednesday:

a cruel reminder that from earth

we started - to earth we’ll  return,

but like Augustine’s prayer for

chastity, not yet, Lord, not yet.

Give me time - more time, Lord.
Then Easter me, Lord, Easter me.

 © Andy Costello, Reflections  2017

WHERE IS YOUR GOD?

  

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Ash Wednesday is, “Where Is Your God?”

That’s a question from today’s first reading - from the Prophet Joel [2:17]

“Where is your God?”

There are many answers to that question - and I’m going to suggest an answer to that question from today’s Gospel.

FIRST SOME OTHER ANSWERS

Someone might say: I met God in the hospital a few years back. I was quite sick.  In fact I was scared that this might be it - so fear brought me right into the presence of God in Room 378 - and when I got better I came out of Room 378 with God in my life from then on.

Down through the years, whenever I’m in Manhattan, I visit St. Patrick’s Cathedral - but more important for me - is to walk about two streets north - on the other side of the street - and walk into St. Thomas’ Episcopal Church.  I take a seat in the semi-darkness, preferably with a pillar nearby - to hide behind.  I begin to see people in prayer and I realize this is where they find God. St. Patrick’s Cathedral has too much light -  too many tourists - and too much noise on a weekday afternoon.

Where is your God?

People have met God in the experience of having and raising a new born baby - or in the love discovered in marriage - or a family get together at Thanksgiving - or Sunday Mass or back packing in the mountains, or the Grand Canyon or on a sailboat some early Saturday morning in the Bay or a sunrise - or on a day like today: Ash Wednesday.

Where is your God?

AN  ANSWER IN TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel is from the Sermon on the Mount - which is a neat summary of many of Jesus’ sayings and teachings.

Check out Matthew 6:1-6, 16-18.

Jesus begins by saying, “Enough with show.”

Religion can have too many “selfies” - too much tooting of one’s own horn.

Jesus says it’s about inner stuff. Religion is an inside job. Don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing - when you’re giving alms or praying or what have you.

Listen to Jesus again,

"When you pray,
do not be like the hypocrites,
who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners
so that others may see them.
Amen, I say to you,
they have received their reward.
But when you pray, go to your inner room,
close the door, and pray to your Father in secret.
And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.”

There it is - a place to meet our God. It's in our inner room.

We all have an inner room. Sometimes we feel it’s in our chest. That’s when religion and God is really emotional.

Where is your God?

Best:  it’s in our head, in our mind, between our ears.

This Lent, clear out that inner room.

I suggest you have a nice Lazy Boy or Girl Chair in there.  I call it one's "prayer chair.”

It's in one's mind - and one sees it better if you have an actual physical prayer chair in your geography.

Find a place in your house - a bedroom corner - or back porch when it gets warmer  - or anywhere you can be quiet and peaceful - and sit there in your actual prayer chair.

A friend of mine fixed up his garage and made it a secret chapel.  His car is always outside now. But neighbors discovered his chapel and they slip in there on a regular basis. He loves to sit in there and pray.

For my dad it was our cellar.

I talking mainly here to have an inner room - inside our head - but use a lazy boy chair or a simple chair - in  a quiet place to sit down in.

Start with 10 minutes at the most - once every day - and go to your quiet chair and pray. Some days you'll miss. Don't be a nut - crazy - when it comes to your time - your relationship - with God.

You can use a Bible or one of those Black Lenten Books in the back we give out here every Lent or a pair of rosary beads - but sit in that chair - in a quiet place - and be in God’s presence.

Just begin: “Lord, it’s me. Hi. I’m here to be at peace with you and give you a bit of praise.”

Whatever….

CONCLUSION

Start off 5 to 10 minutes at the most for this Lent and when you grasp this use of time - you’ll end up doing this every day - and if anyone asks you, “Where is your God?” you’ll smile.

And you’ll answer, “With me!” or “Everywhere!” or “Whenever….”

OFFER  NO  BRIBES

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 8^th Tuesday in Ordinary Time is, “Offer No  Bribes.”

That’s a rule - an urge  -  a challenge - in today’s first reading from Sirach.

And I’ve been trying in these weekday Masses to preach on the first reading - having done the gospels over and over again.

“Offer no bribes….”

Sirach has the Lord saying that.

Here’s the full context, the text,  “For the LORD is one who always repays, and he will give back to you sevenfold. But offer no bribes, these he does not accept! Trust not in sacrifice of the fruits of extortion. For he is a God of justice, who knows no favorites.”

Notice that message: “Offer no bribes.”  What’s that about?

Why are we here at Mass? Is there any bribery going on?  Woooh! That’s a question that hit me.

TO BE HONEST

To be honest I have never thought about trying to bribe God.”

On second thought, I’ve heard people say they are angry with God - because they said so many prayers, made so many sacrifices, and still their daughter has cancer or what have you.

How does this all work?  How does life work? How does my thinking go?  How does prayer work?

I guess these are bottom line question.

Jesus says to nag God - and keep on nagging him in the parable of the woman who drove a judge crazy till he gave her what she wanted. And Jesus advocated that. Check it out in Luke 18: 1-8.

In another saying, it’s in Matthew 7: 7-11, Jesus  says to ask, seek, and knock till God answers our prayers.  Keep knocking on God’s door.

In another parable about prayer Jesus tells about a man who has relatives snow up at night and he wants to give them something to eat - but he doesn’t have enough, so he goes next door and starts knocking on doors and yelling to windows and finally his neighbor - who has gone to bed - opens up a window and says, “It’s too late! We’re all in bed.” But his neighbor still begs - so the man gets him stuff to get rid of him.  And Jesus says to be that noisy neighbor in the night - when it comes to prayer.

LEARNINGS

One of learnings we can take from the Bible is that it has at times contrary messages.

We have messages like put down your sword and take up your sword.

Sometimes God lets happen; sometimes God wipes out.

Another message is that the message might be different than the one we’re taking. So in that passage about the woman driving the judge crazy, maybe the stress is not on manipulating the judge - but to be persistent as a mosquito looking for blood when we pray. So too in the message of keep on asking, keep on knocking on God’s door.

And we can also switch from the God vs. Us relationship to the us vs. us relationships in life. Don’t bribe others. I’m not married but in marriages does bribery go on. You clean out the garage finally, and I’m make your favorite - veal parmesan for the week. Is that bribery - or how things work? I guess clear loving communication - good give and take - would certainly be a better plan. But I’m not married - but over in the rectory I do hear at times one guy saying to another guy in jest, “Yes dear!”

So too in life’s interactions out there. Isn’t it better to be honest with each other - and wait our turn - instead of bribing our way into the restaurant - ahead of others - with a tip because we got the money or we’re a priest and we use the title  to get a better table or not get the speeding ticket. Maybe the best way is that the first should be first and the last should be last as we hear in today’s gospel.

Next, if we learn how to treat each other better in life, then we can apply that to how we treat God.  Jesus often did that. Didn’t he say, “Notice how a mother or a father takes care of their children, well that’s how God the Father treats you.

CONCLUSION

I guess the bottom line is: there probably is a better way than using bribery in our ways of doing life with God and each other. Amen.