Monday, November 26, 2018


SEEING  OURSELVES  
IN  ANOTHER


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 34th Monday in Ordinary Time is, “Seeing Ourselves In Another.”

One of the more interesting things about us human beings is that we see ourselves in one another.

We compare. We contrast. We judge. We imagine. We could be wrong - but we still do this.

Other people are mirrors.

We see another’s house, car, clothes, looks, and we refer right back to ourselves.

Another is thin; we feel we are not.

Another is generous; we feel stingy and cheap and not that giving a person.

Another has a big house and a fat wallet and we don’t - so we down neat and down beat on ourselves.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

I was trying to come up with some ideas for a homily for today and I noticed one commentator saying that Jesus looked at this woman in the temple and saw himself in her.  I had never heard that idea before.  I never thought of Jesus comparing himself to anyone. I have heard the opposite that we compare ourselves to Jesus.

Here’s this poor widow who offers all that she has.  Jesus said that she gave more than all the rest….

Jesus saw that’s what he was doing with his life and was about to do with his life. He was going to be emptied out - and poured out - on the cross. He would be naked or almost naked - with beating marks - all over his body.

If St. Alphonsus had a chance to work on the big crucifix up here in our sanctuary, people would be shocked to see how bloody St. Alphonsus would make it. Woo. Messy. Messy. Messy. Bloody red welts and cuts covered his body.

When Jesus walked through Palestine did he see lambs - cut for the suppers - for dinners - Passovers and everyday meals?

SO LIVE

I have not been a parent, but I’m sure parents hope their kids pick up their good qualities - serving their kids, giving, caring for - and that goes down generation after generation after generation.

My dad used to take us to the park every Sunday - to give my mom a break. I noticed my brother used to take his 7 daughters into Washington D.C. most Sundays to give my sister-in-law a break. And I see these daughters giving of themselves so the other gets a break.

Yesterday I had 4 baptisms and this one baby - Anastasia - had this constant smile - and immediately looked at her parents faces to see if they had a similar smile. Smiles beget smiles.  Smiles are mirrors that hold the images of those we see in their faces.

CONCLUSION

One of the lessons we often hear is: trust the process.

Kids pick up what they see in their parents.

So let us constantly work to give our best to one another.


November 26, 2018 


Thought for today:  

“People see God  every  day, they just don’t recognize him.” 


Pearl Bailey,  New York Times
November 26, 1967
Picture: Lavender Country,
Provence, France

Sunday, November 25, 2018


WHAT  DO  YOU  WANT TO BE 
WHEN YOU GROW  UP? 

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this feast of Christ the King  is, “What Do You Want to Be When You Grow Up?”

That’s one of those questions that has been asked to young people since the beginning of time?

“What Do You Want To Be When You Grow  Up?”

PARENTS

Parents certainly have high hopes for their kids. They might make suggestions - but they don’t want to have kids who are unhappy for the rest of their lives - because they end up trying to make their parents happy - and they are not.

Yet -  sometimes a kid - later on - thanks a parent for being stubborn and for pushing them into a career - they didn’t want at the time - or entering into in a family business or what have you.

Different folks …. Different strokes …. Different stories …. Different surprises.

I just heard a story the other day about a guy named Steve. He finished college and with great joy he says to his dad, “Dad I got a job!”

His father says, “What job did you get?”

“I’m going to be a garbage man.”

His father says, “I helped send you to a great college and you end up being a garbage man.”

His son says, “Dad, there’s always going to be garbage!”

He did that and moved up from picking up garbage to picking up a pen and clipboard - to a great executive position in New York City in the Sanitation and loved his job.

Don’t you love the poster and the quote by Martin Luther King Jr: “If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, 'Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”

WHAT KIND OF A WORKER ARE YOU?

Hopefully we all do our job well and we give our employers their money’s worth.

I remember hearing John Shea giving a talk in Chicago about a talk he gave in Dallas, Texas.  He said something I have tried to keep in mind in every homily I give. He was scheduled to speak at 10 AM at a convention in a big hotel. He goes down for breakfast at 8 AM - gets his breakfast on a tray and looks for a table.

He sees a guy sitting by himself and asks, “Mind if I join you?”

The guy says, “Sure.” Then he asks Jack Shea, “Are you here for the convention?”

Jack Shea says, “Yep!”  But he doesn’t really introduce himself as one of the speakers or what have you.

They get talking and the guy says to Jack Shea, “I always look for two things when I come to these conventions. I also look for them in most books that I read. I want to hear something about work and relationships. That’s where we spend most of our lives - except for sleeping.”

Jack Shea said he finished up his breakfast - faster than usual - said to the guy, “Nice meeting you. Thanks for your comments about work and relationships.”

And he said he moved fast to get upstairs and revamp his talk to include big time those two topics: Work and relationships.

So here I am in this homily talking a bit about work.

How are you doing with your work and your relationships?

What did you have in mind about those two areas as you were growing up?

Did you want to be when you grew up: a quarterback, chef, veterinarian, garbage man, teacher, engineer, airline pilot, nurse,  window washer, stained glass window maker [now that would be a great job if you want your work to last - the windows on both sides of our church here are well over 100 years old], mechanic, spy, tennis champion, photographer, farmer, race car champion….



Did you want to in your relationships to be a good friend and to have great friends. Did you want to be married with a wonderful spouse and great kids.

TODAY IS CHRIST THE KING SUNDAY

Today we celebrate Christ as King ….

But as today’s gospel puts it: it’s not a title that Jesus seems to be after or sort of like….

Pilate says, “Then you are a king?”

Jesus says back, “You say that I am a king….”

We read in the gospels about Mary and Joseph wondering, “What’s going to happen with the child.” The Gospel says that Mary pondered in her heart all that was happening.

It’s the same story with John the Baptist and various characters in the Old Testament.

Preachers on the feast day like to talk about what kind of king Jesus was: he washed feet, healed people, fed people, helped people see better.

Jesus  tried to point out what kind of king, queen, priest, prophet, we ought  not to be: one who is all ego -  all self - or one who gives bad example.

What do we want to be when we grow up?

What skills do we have? What do we love to do? What do we hate to do? What do we have to do?

I can’t cook - but I can clean pots and pans.  I watched the whole meaning of life take place in one day - just the other day: Thanksgiving Day. I was with about 35 people - family at Virginia Beach  - and I saw my nieces and their husbands  going out  and coming back with bags and making phone calls to supermarkets to others about things they forgot  - desserts bought and brought and baked. I saw folks cooking and connecting - the whole story of life. We had a nice Mass at a gigantic table in the beach house they were renting and on that same table we had our meal.

Work and relationships….

The Mass is a meal and a key word for the Mass is eucharist - which is the Greek word for thanksgiving.

That’s  why we’re here at Sunday Mass - to give thanks. That’s what this Past Week was all about.

Give us this day our daily bread - and turkey and cranberry sauce and pumpkin pies.

Give us this day our daily words - our conversations - our stories - our news. We talked about everything - yes politics - yes jobs, yes trips, yes a new baby and another on the way.

I was wondering what these young college kids who had graduated - what they were starting to do with the rest of their lives.

They were telling me some of the things they want to do and be as they are growing up.

I hoped and prayed they would have religion - a relationship with God - with Christ - probably not as king - but a servant - a giver of his body and blood to us - a wisdom figure. I worry about a few of them who find religion boring or they have left church because of the scandal and all that.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily was, “What Are You Going to Be When You Grow Up?”

Some of us are on our way - some of us have  a long way to go - some of us look back and celebrate our choices and some of us have our regrets - knowing we can still wash pots and pans and feet.


November 25, 2018



Thought for today: 

“I prefer  winter  and fall, when you feel  the bone structure in the landscape - the loneliness of it - the dead feeling of  winter. Something waits beneath it - the whole story doesn’t show.”  


Andrew Wyeth, in Richard Meryman, 
The Art of Andrew Wyeth, 1973

Painting by Andrew Wyeth

November 25, 2018


ROUTE  13

Just traveled down most of Route 13
and then back in Delaware, Maryland,
Virginia, on the Delmarva Peninsula -
heading back and forth for Thanksgiving
Week with the family in Sandbridge, Virginia. 

Found it déjà vu like with birds on wires and
birds in the air - all the way down and back  
in the car on Route 13 with my sister.

I’m wondering about when I was with family everyone had a cellphone in hand - sort of like
a bird in hand - waiting for calls - from the air -
or through wires - if that’s the way this works.

Me? I don’t have a cellphone - so I’m talking
to myself - to my sister - to others - the old
fashioned way - face to face - eye to eye.

Me? Wondering: to whom are they talking -
and listening to? I’m don’t want to be labeled
out of date or an old grouch, but I tempted
to say “This new way is for the birds.”

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



Sunday, November 18, 2018

November 24, 2018


ROOTS

Rairly noticed, necessary, needed,
without whom I would not be here,
wearing the shoes and socks
of earth, dirt …. Roots: all these people
who have gone before me - buried
beneath my feet - names and numbers
on their gravestones and now on my DNA.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



November 24, 2018 

Thought for today: 

“Religion is not an opiate, for religion does not help people to forget, but to remember.  It does not dull people.  It does not say Take, but Give.”  


Bede Jarrett, The Catholic Mother, 1956