Monday, August 22, 2016

August 21, 2016

SHOW  ME

Show me the trunk of your car….
Show me your garden….
Show me your bottom drawer….

Show me your soul….
Show me your Sunday…
and I’ll tell you who you are.

Wait a minute.
What about you?
Show and tell too!



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016



Sunday, August 21, 2016


DOORS

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 21st  Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year C, is, “Doors.”

Reading today’s readings - and obviously today’s gospel - the theme of doors should hit us.

My homily will have 2 parts - here and hereafter - doors here and doors hereafter - especially   THE   DOOR -  or the Pearly Gates.

PART ONE: DOORS HERE

We spend our lives opening and closing doors - going in and out over thresholds and through door ways.

And we’ve all experienced doors that were locked and we didn’t have a key and nobody opened up for us - when we rang the bell or knocked on the door - or screamed from the sidewalk or front lawn.

Doors.

In a given lifetime - we’ve entered many different classrooms, homes, churches, stores, states, countries, relationships.

They all have doors, pause, the need for keys, knobs, passports, passwords….

We’ve heard the word, “Welcome!”

We’ve heard the word, “Closed” - sometimes with a “Sorry” before it.

We’ve all been in situations - when we said to ourselves or others, “Let’s get out of here” and we headed for the door.

We’ve all been in situations - hospital beds, meetings, get togethers - when we’re screaming within - as we’re looking at the door,  “When is this going to end.”

We’ve all wanted to make the team, get the job, continue the relationship, and we’ve been shown  the door.

Tears on our face and a torn heart - rejections -  are human experiences.

Bummer.

HORROR STORIES

We know history.

Blacks, Italians, Irish, Latinos, Gay, Handicapped, Catholics, Muslims need not apply.

We’ve seen bullies in the playgrounds of our youth. We’ve had teachers and coaches whom we thought were unfair and played favorites.

We might have been right; we might have been wrong.

Either way -  at the time - it hurt - it pushed our, “It’s not fair!” button.

We all have our stories and our anecdotes and we’ve told them a hundred times.  Some are razor blade experiences; some are popcorn experiences. Whichever, whatever, serious or soft, they hit and hurt us and cut us at the time.

As a kid in Brooklyn I was on the Bay Ridge Robins - a P.A.L. [Police Athletic League] baseball team - and one season, I got in to play -  for only one out.  The coach played his younger brother every game - except that last inning of the last game of the season. I’m still holding onto that one - and mention it from time to time.

At the time it hurt - but the benefit was that I see every kid and every player on the sidelines - ever since - not just the kids on the field - and the court - but the substitutes who never seem to get into the game. I love coaches who shorten the bench - play the subs - and give every kid a chance.

I’ve also learned that I don’t know the score or the whole story and not everyone sees life or the game as I do - or the other does. Different strokes for different coaches - and teachers - shop stewards and bosses.

As sort of as a contradiction, there was a time there - when I ended up being a manager for our baseball team in the seminary.  I remember keeping our pitcher - Bill Tuohy - in for the entire game - till it was - 0 to 0 in the 10th inning. We lost. Maybe Bill ran out of energy. Moreover, Bill ended up hurting his arm - thanks to my mis-management.

That moment also comes back to me when I see Buck Showalter take out a pitcher who is being shelled or the pinch hitter is a leftie and the pitcher on the mound is a righty. I also like it when Buck Showalter in home games keeps a starting pitcher in for one out or one hit in the next inning, so he can go out and remove him and that pitcher can get a home field ovation.

So that’s part one of my thoughts about doors. Acceptance and rejection, open and closed doors, welcome and “Get lost!” are part of life.

I learned that we need to learn about people at the door - and try to be a welcoming person - to look them in the eye - and to step back and let folks in before me.

There are two kinds of people: those who build us up and make us feel part of the game - part of the scene - and we have something to offer and there are those who don’t even notice us - or make us feel so, so small.

As priest I have heard horror stories - so I ask the question: “As priest am I responsible for the whole Catholic Church?” My answer at one time there was “Yes” - now it’s “No.”  But now the question is: “As a human being, am I responsible for the whole human race?” Answer: “Yes. To make each person welcome - noticed - respected - acknowledged - and treated with dignity.”

PART TWO: DOOR TO THE HEREAFTER

Those are everyday doors.

The door we worry and wonder about is the door to eternal life.

But both are interconnected - the here is also about the hereafter.

Did you notice and hear the words from today’s first reading from Isaiah 66: 18-21?

Once more here it is - the whole first reading:

Thus says the LORD:
I know their works and their thoughts,
and I come to gather nations of every language;
they shall come and see my glory.
I will set a sign among them;
from them I will send fugitives to the nations:

to Tarshish, Put and Lud,
Mosoch, Tubal and Javan,
to the distant coastlands
that have never heard of my fame, 
or seen my glory;
and they shall proclaim my glory 

among the nations.
They shall bring all your brothers and sisters from all the nations
as an offering to the LORD,
on horses and in chariots, in carts, 

upon mules and dromedaries,
to Jerusalem, my holy mountain, 

says the LORD,
just as the Israelites bring their offering
to the house of the LORD in clean vessels.
Some of these I will take as priests and Levites, says the LORD.

The Word of the Lord.

Then we sang the Psalm Refrain “Go out to all the world and tell the good news.

As the New Orleans song and Negro Spiritual goes, “When the saints come marching in, I want to be in their number.”

Jesus often talks about coming to the door - the entrance into eternity.  

For instance today’s gospel.

In today’s gospel from Luke Jesus tells us to enter through the narrow gate.

Who wants to be standing outside and the door is locked?

I sense that we don’t worry about hell like we used to worry about hell - but we still worry.

Salvation - redemption - making it - is a big time human worry for every person.

There are enough horror stories around about going to hell.

Dante’s Inferno is still on the book shelves.

There are enough imaginary stories and jokes about people getting to heaven only to discover they are last and all kinds of other persons are first or ahead of them.

I won’t mind being last. It will mean I made it.

There is the image of the Pearly Gate. There is the image of St. Peter testing us with questions at that front door and gate.

We’re dealing here with Salvation, Redemption, Heaven, Making it.

We don’t want to die and stand outside and be like the person Jesus talks about in today’s gospel. We don’t want to be screaming, “Lord, open the door for us.” 

We don’t want to hear Jesus say, “I do not know where you are from.”

Woo.  We don’t want to standing there wailing and grinding our teeth and seeing all these others getting into heaven - and we’re on the outside.

CONCLUSION

Pope Francis has been talking about all this since he’s become pope.

He told the Church to open up our doors - especially to those who have felt it shut in their face - or they don’t like what’s happened inside its doors - abuse, phonyism, put downs, what have you, and who have you?

Last Christmas I asked a relative, “How was Mass this morning?” and he said he doesn’t go any more.

“Ooops,” I said, “What happened?”

He said, “I was sick and tired of Sunday after Sunday - sermon after sermons - of hearing gays being bashed and blasted.” 

 I wonder if his church was designated as one of the 10,000 churches that are “Doors of Mercy”.

I wonder if they sing in his church, “All are welcome. All are welcome in this place.”

I don’t know about you, but I want to hear that song when I’m heading for the doors of heaven. That’s what I hear Jesus singing and saying. That’s what I hear - especially in the Gospel of Luke - especially Luke 15.

I was praying once and got to thinking about dying and going to heaven. And a voice - a voice of God said,  “What happens if you don’t make it? What happens if you have too merciful image of God - that I’m not like what you think I’m like.”

I paused and then said, “Well, God -  then, the hell with you. I’ll go find the God your Son Jesus told me about in Luke 15.”

I put my hand to my mouth and went, “Ooops!”


Then I took my hand away from my mouth and said, “ No, I’ll find the God I’ve met in your Son Jesus, O Lord.” 



NOTES

Picture on top by Ray  K. Metzker, Venice, 1960

Saturday, August 20, 2016

August 20, 2016


LONG GREY LINE OF GEESE

I spotted a big V of geese flying
neither north nor south. It’s August.

Were they screaming, “Look at that!”?
Or were they praying, “Thank You, God”?

I stood in a silent subway car of evening folks -
eyes down. It seemed with no sense of thanks.



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016

Friday, August 19, 2016

August 19, 2016

CUTTING  HAY

Did you know that hay doesn’t cut
unless it’s cut? I didn’t know that
till we were picking up bundles and
bundles of hay from a hay field -
and I looked at my bare arms -
all cut up from cut hay. The next
day - even though it was humid
and hot - I wore a long sleep shirt.
There’s a message there in those
fields - but I’m not sure just what
it is - except: leave things alone
and they will remain smooth. Cut
them and they will cut you back.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016

Thursday, August 18, 2016

DOES  ANYONE  HAVE 
AN  EXTRA  JACKET?

INTRODUCTION

The title of my thoughts for this Thursday in the 20th Week in Ordinary time is, “Does Anyone Have an Extra Jacket?”

How many times have we found ourselves in an “Uh oh!” situation when it comes to having the right clothes for the occasion?



If you saw and loved the movie, As Good as It Gets, you’ll remember the scene in the restaurant - where Melvin Udall [Jack Nicholson] needs a jacket.  You’ll also remember his comments about Carol Connelly’s [Helen Hunt’s dress] at that same restaurant.

"Does anyone have a jacket I can borrow?"

TODAY’S GOSPEL

That’s the question that hits me as I read today’s gospel parable. It’s Jesus’ story about the guy who comes to the wedding banquet - without a wedding garment.

And the king spots him and asks, “My friend, how is it that you came in here without a wedding garment?”

Stuck, shamed, silent, the king then says, “Bind his hands and feet, and cast him into the darkness outside, where there will be wailing and grinding of teeth.”

The guy doesn’t even get a chance to scream, “Wait a minute! You were stuck with an empty banquet hall - because nobody showed up - so you rounded up us nobodies and now you want to toss me out into the dark? No wonder, nobody showed up at your lousy party in the first place.”

The story is in Matthew 22: 1-14.  It seems Matthew likes to throw us a curve ball - making things tougher than it seems Jesus wants. When Luke tells this story from Jesus [14: 15-24], there is no mention of having to have a wedding outfit on. The great unwashed - found on streets and in alleys - the poor, the crippled, the blind and the lame - all are invited into the banquet - no questions asked.  Welcome.

I’m heading into heaven with Luke’s version of the story - in ball point pen on my hands - that is, if they don’t cremate me. Smile.

Like the Prodigal Son in the next chapter of Luke, if God the Father wants me to be different than I am - a pig smelly sinner - if he wants me to arrive in heaven with fancy clothes on - let him provide the soap and water, the ring, the sandals and the finest robe.

YEAH, WHAT IS GOD LIKE?

Yes, what is God like?

I don’t think that’s the theme in today’s gospel - but that’s the thought that hits me.

Being a slob  - I’ve seen people give me the sneer - with what I’m wearing. 

I never met either of them - but I think I’d be more comfortable at a cookout wearing shorts and a T-shirt - with Pope Francis than with Pope Benedict.

So that’s what I’m saying here, I’m more comfortable with Luke’s Jesus than Matthew’s Jesus.

I just hope when I die, I’ll meet Andrew’s Jesus.

CONCLUSION

How about you?

And if you asked me, “Does Anyone Have an Extra Jacket?” I’d say, “Good news! You don’t need one.”


August 18, 2016


BACK STORY

Is that one or two words?
Is that a relatively new word?
I don’t remember hearing it
three to five years ago.

Is it like “backstage”? One word….
Is it like “back room”? Two words….
Is it like “backdoor”? One word....

But back to “back story” ….
It’s a good move - to go backstage
or to take the backdoor 
into the back room -
to try to get to
what might be going on
in the back of another’s mind.

Surprise! We might find ourselves
back in the middle of 30,000
conversations - and happenings -
way back before e-mails ever existed.  

Smile!
Please smile on your way out
the back door - with your back stories
in your back pack.
Cute. What’s the back story with all this?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

THE  BIG  SCREAM: 
“IT’S  NOT  FAIR!”

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 20th Wednesday in Ordinary Time  is, “The Big Scream: ‘It’s Not Fair!’”

I WONDER

At times I’ve wondered: Is the big scream coming out of every gripe, every depression, every angry person, every child, every family, marriage,  every person: “It’s not fair”?

At family gatherings - like every year I spend 4 or 5 days at Thanksgiving with my brother’s girls and their families - I watch actions and reactions.

Kids eat first. Then the adults. While we're eating the kids disappear into various nooks and rooms and floors of the house they rent. The last few years it’s been at Virginia Beach - Sandbridge - on the ocean. Before that it was an Rehoboth and before that Deep Creek Lake. After the adults eat comes dessert. Somehow every kid arrives very quickly after the ice cream and brownies and pies and cakes are placed on the counter.

That’s when I really watch.

That’s where I first started to wonder if a kids’ basic scream is, “It’s not fair.”

I wonder if I screamed that scream: “It’s not fair.”

I’m the youngest of four - so I don’t know if the youngest is at the biggest disadvantage.

I wonder if our nation’s families - our world’s families - are losing out - by having smaller families.

I wonder if the question of fairness comes up more often in bigger families than smaller families - because there many more moments for comparisons. 

I also wonder if a bigger family helps a person resolve the fairness question better than being in a family with less brothers and sisters.


Was having one bathroom a better teaching possibility?  In fact, is the bathroom in a one bathroom house,  the best classroom in the house - because it offers the most moments to think of others.

ADULTS

Does the question of fairness continue longer - even all life long - for some folks?

Is the issue behind every whine - the “It’s not fair!” scream.

Obviously some cars - some homes - some salaries - some seats in church or a restaurant - are better than others.

I don’t know about you, but I am glad I was born in Brooklyn compared to Bagdad. And there’s a town there in Ohio between Lima where I lived and Paulding where I did a bit of work - that I’m glad I never lived in the in between town.

When it comes to music, I have a tin ear. When it comes to ability to draw, I am still a baby with crayons - doing scribble and stick figures.

Not everybody has the same skills, skin, figure, family than the next person.

So what about the “It’s not fair!” question.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Does the Parable of the Generous Landlord in today's gospel [Matthew 20:1-16]  help with this question?

He needs laborers for his vineyard so he starts hiring at dawn - and they workers and owner agree for the usual daily wage.

He spots other laborers at 9 AM, noon, 3 and then 5 o’clock. Each time he hires them to work in his vineyard.

At the end of the day - when he starts handing out the daily wage - he starts with those he hires at 5 PM and gives them the usual daily wage - so too those he hired at 3, noon, 9 AM and at dawn.

Seeing that, those who worked a lot more expected a lot more.

They all get the same piece of the pie.

 Not fair. Not fair. Not fair.

DAVID

We have a family story about my brother.

He stopped in to see his buddy Marty - who was playing ping pong with his youngest son, David.  

My brother says to David, “Let me see what kind of ping pong paddle you have?”

The little kid hands the paddle to my brother who then moves to the table and says to Marty, “Three over for serve.”

And David screams, “That’s not fair. I was playing with my dad first.”

And my brother says to David, “Kid, let me teach you one of life’s greatest learnings, ‘Who said life is fair?’ Three over for serve, Marty.”

David told that story at my brother’s funeral and we all laughed - but we all got the message - especially that of my brother dying of melanoma at 51.

CONCLUSION

What is the conclusion?

What is the lesson?

What is the message?

Jesus says to the disgruntled whiners, “I didn’t cheat you. I gave you the usual daily wage.

Am I not free to do as I wish with my money

Are you envious because I am generous.

Hey, the last shall be first and the first shall be last.


“Hey, God, that’s not fair.”