STUCK IN THE PAST

Quote for Today  January  2,  2012

"Never look for the birds of this year in the nests of the last."

Miguel de Cervantes [1547-1616]

IT’S ABOUT TIME

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Sunday, January 1st, is, “It’s About Time.”

That’s one of those phrases that has various meanings.

Time is something we think about from time to time - especially at the time of a new year - and a new calendar in our kitchen or wherever we hang our calendars.

Happy New Year.

As I took down my calendar this morning for 2011, I found a Sarah Palin calendar someone gave me last summer. I had forgotten about it. Surprise! Everyday there are surprises underneath everything.

FIRST MEANING - THE TIME OF OUR LIFE

The first meaning of time is numbers - the numbers on the calendar - the numbers in the time of our life.

Born: on such and such a day - in such and such a year - those numbers we put on the form when asked: date of birth?

And every year that goes by,  we know our birth day - and the number of our years. We are not scared to announce them when we’re 2 - but we might hesitate to announce them when we’re 52 or 62 or 72.

Then as various poets put it - every year we go by our death day without knowing it - so there is no cake and ice cream - just the blowing out of the candle - on the anniversary of  the day we are going to die.

Reality Therapy: we only have so much time - so many days, weeks, months and years.

How much time we get is anyone’s guess.

The Bible - in Psalm 90 - written way back when - said - we get seventy - and eighty if we’re blessed with good health. Every time I read that in the scriptures, I pinch myself, because I’m up to 72 now. My dad made it to 68 and my brother to 51, so I’m receiving a bonus so far. But my dad’s dad and my mom’s dad - made it to 90 +. Will I be that lucky? Am I wearing their genes? If my health is good and my brain system still work, I’ll take being 90. There aren’t enough people becoming priests - but would people take a 90 year old priest? Only time will tell.

So that’s the first reality - the numbers - the dates - the opening and the closing dates.

Babies in the night, kids in the playground, young people moving in packs in the mall trigger thoughts of the first moment: birth - childhood - the beginnings of the great adventure called, “life”.

Funerals, the obituary column, wrinkles, canes, leaks, wheelchairs, pains, cemeteries - white crosses along the highways - all remind us of the last moment: death. I believe and I hope in a next after that: I’ll take that reality - resurrection - on faith. I believe there will be a new morning after the mourning - after death - one’s personal Easter - Resurrection - because this was Jesus’ promise.

If we’re here this morning, we’ve been already launched in our time capsule. We’re here somewhere along the timeline of our life. It’s January 1st, 2012.

2012: 4 numbers in this combination are numbers we’ll need some time to get used to. Most of us here have been born in one century - the 20th - and we’re here to pray and Thank God for a new beginning in the  12th year of this 21st century.

So each of us has an opening act - and then when the play is over - we’ll have the closing of the curtain.

“All the world’s a stage" as Shakespeare put it in his play, As You Like It,

                    "And all the men and women merely players:
                    They have their exits and their entrances;
                   And one man in his time plays many parts,,
                   His acts being seven ages….”

How was the play? What parts did we play? Do we like our story so far? What has been the plot? Are we having the time of our life?

It seems some people choose to have the time of their life; others seem to lose the time of their life; while others refuse to have the time of their life.

Which is more me?
Let me now move to the second thought about time.

SECOND MEANING - THE REALITIVITY OF TIME

Einstein, who made it to 76, talked about the relativity of time and life.

Moreover, he didn't believe God played dice with the universe.

Life has meaning and we're meaning makers.

Einstein certainly led a full life - and when we walked on stage, people knew, "That's Albert Einstein!"

What happens when I walk into a room and come on stage?

What do people say?

Einstein worked to the end - bringing the draft of a big speech he was to give - with him to the hospital - where he died. When he realized his health condition, he said he wanted to die gracefully or as he put it, "elegantly". 
He joked about his concept of the relativity of time when he said to his students, "When you’re with your girl friend, hours feel like minutes - but when you’re sitting in a classroom minutes seem like hours."

I always quote the old saying, “How long a minute takes depends on which side of the bathroom door you’re on.” However, this quote has lost its power once homes were built with more than one bathroom.

We know time is very relative. My goal for how long a sermon I give should take is 10 minutes. If it feels like it’s only 7 minutes - great; if it feels like 15 minutes - or longer - that’s an uh oh.

Time is relative.

Sometimes we’re biting our nails while looking at the hands of a clock; sometimes we’re clapping our hands - totally forgetting what time it is.

Some years are better than other years.

How was 2011 for you? [Long Pause]

Answers to that question would tell you an awful lot about yourself.

Some years nobody dies.

Some years float by. Haven't we heard people say, "Looking back now my 30's are only a blur."

Some years had a lot of great things happening. Other years were tough, tough. They had stuff - especially  death or a divorce or bad decision or a disaster in the family - that impacted our time on stage very dramatically.

Once more: how has your life been so far?

Did you ever think of writing your autobiography?

When I ask people that question, they pause and then ask back, “Who would read it?”

And I answer quickly, “You!”

How was 2011 for you?

Long before Einstein, Christianity talked about the relativity of time. It talked about the difference between chronos and kairos - 2 Greek words for “time”.

Those who high school kids at St. Mary's might have heard of a Kairos Retreat - and know the difference between Kairos and Chronos.
Chronos means tick, tick, tick tock time - or quiet digital creep. Chronos time is the same every year - except for this coming Leap Year - 2012.

Chronos time is our basic chronology.

Kairos time is special event time. Not every day is the same as every day.

At the Passover Meal, the smallest child asks the oldest person, “Why is this night different than any other night?”

Some days, some nights, are different from other days and other nights.

Sunday is different than Friday.

July 4th is different than January 1st.

At the Passover Meal, Jesus’ last supper, Jesus asked powerful questions and gave powerful answers about life - about the meaning of life. It’s as simple as sharing bread and wine with each other - and as complex as giving our lives to each other - saying, “This is my body - this is my blood - I’m giving my life for you.” In this giving of ourselves - we experience - transformation and transubstantiation. In this way we become consubstantial with Christ and each other - as we move slowly, slowly, slowly, more and more and more - into God.

Today, January 1st, our Church, goes backwards a bit to our beginning with Mary - who gave birth to a baby - who was born in a stable - whose first visitors were shepherds.

The shepherds see a great light. Have I seen the Light yet?

A new shepherd - a Good Shepherd - Jesus has appeared - as a baby - as a cry in the night - as one of us. Glory to God in the highest?

Why did Jesus come when he came?

In today’s second reading from Galatians, St. Paul answers by saying “When the fullness of time had come God sent his son, born of a woman…. “ Why then? Why there? The Jewish answer is obvious. “Why not?”

If there is one thing we need to discover with God when we start sending questions to God: it’s God’s saying, “Why not?”

Life is filled with mystery - “Why nots?” - surprises.

Life is not just tick, tock time.

Life is filled with our historical moments.

What does my life, my history, look like and sound like?

What have been my memorable lines when on stage?

We are an unwritten book of stories - moments - mysteries - scenes - surprises.

When we look back at a marriage, we see many twists and turns in the plot,  The marriage might have come about by going on a blind date - because someone gave us a call - or we went a certain school. Surprise! People meet people - fall in love - get married - and we couldn’t have planned the scenario. Ah sweet mystery of life…

What will 2012 be like for us? What will be its gifts and mysteries?

Answers to that question are forthcoming.

Answers to that question makes life so unboring.

CONCLUSION: AM I HAVING THE TIME OF MY LIFE?

The relativity of time challenges us to enter into the mystery by our choices. We can’t control a tsunami - or a hurricane - or a drunk driver - or a fire - or for the most part, noise from a neighbor’s house.

Yet we can control a few things in our house - but as they say, "Want to make God laugh, tell him your plans?"

Yet in time we can control our attitude, our reaction, our way of dealing with the cards we’re dealt.

I just spent 3 days with my family at a family wedding in Austin, Texas. How could anyone know Brian would meet Tanya at George Washington University - fall in love - and get married in Austin, Texas?

On the plane flying back last night, while watching a replay of the three days I was there, one of the things that hit me was the games of cards I saw our family playing. There were lots of games of cards - sometimes - four different groups were playing at the same time in the inner section of the hotel - which you can see from all the inner balconies. While waiting for our plane in Austin 4 of us were playing in the C35 waiting area. Two carry on luggage pieces, one on top of the other made a great card table.
Cards are one thing our family has always played in the in betweens between the main events of our lives.

My mom and dad played cards. We played cards. The next generation and the generation after our generation play cards. I love it that it’s just a deck of cards - without batteries - and there are no new models: just a deck of cards.

And if you play cards, you know about the moment of time we have after we pick up the cards we’ve been dealt. We pick them up with hope and expectation. We look at our hand. Then we ask ourselves: now how am I going to play these cards I just received?

Here is where New Year’s Resolutions could come in.

As we all know New Year’s Resolutions get a bad rap - and perhaps rightly so. The resolutions we make on December 31 or January 1st - are usually not the real resolutions that work in life.

I suspect real life resolutions happen when we have to react to how the game of cards called life is being played. Others play a card and we have to act and react. Next! Now what do I do because of what another has just done?

I suspect real resolutions happen when we fall on our face - or when we are forced to make changes - because of something that was just dealt us.

There is a word in today’s gospel - “reflecting” that is worth reflecting upon. It says that “Mary kept all these things, reflecting on them in her heart.”

My first reaction upon reading this was that the word “ponder” had disappeared - as in "Mary was pondering all these things in her heart."

I checked out various translations from the Greek into English, and noticed that some use the word "ponder" and some don’t. I like "ponder" better than "reflect". But as is obvious, I don’t get what I want in life - many, many times. Someone else is dealing the cards. Dang it.

For those interested the Greek word in the original text is, “sumballo” - to throw together. You can hear the word “ball” there - to catch the ball that is thrown to us and to run with it.

Whatever. …

So let me suggest two things to ponder this year.

The first would be to ponder or reflect upon what we’re reflecting upon.



Auguste Rodin, the sculptor, was right. We all have seen his famous statute of “The Thinker”. That’s us. Every one of us - when we get down to our Naked Self - are thinkers.

So it’s good to think about what we are think about - to catch our thoughts - to run after the bouncing ball of each thought.. That will tell us an awful lot about ourselves.

And secondly: to resolve this year to reflect deeper and deeper on what has happened and what is happening in our life - how we got from where we were to where we are right now.

To reflect upon: how am I using the time of my life and am I having the time of my life? If not, why not. It’s time to be having the time of my life. You’re here this morning. You know there are 168 hours in a week - and you know this one hour a week - helps you deal better with the other 167 hours of the week.

I’m thinking one of the things that happens at Mass is like that moment we’re looking at the cards we’re dealt. What now? What next? Then we go forward - fed and fortified by the Lord Jesus - hopefully having the time of our lives.

If we’re not, then it’s about time that we enjoy this day - this moment - this time in our life.

If we’re not, it’s about time, we ponder and become amazed at the gift of life we have received. A lot of things had to happen - a zillion billion trillion of them in fact - to get us to this moment of life - here in this place right now, January 1st, 2012.

So have a Happy New Year!

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Note:

This is the basic text I used this morning for my homily. However, this Blog version is a bit longer, because I  tried to clarify it and strengthen it - a bit. As a result it got longer in this fix up.  

Picture of the 1902 sculpture, "The Thinker" by Auguste  Rodin - [1840-1917]

HAPPY  NEW  YEAR 

January  1, 2012

Quote for the Day

"No one ever regarded the first of January with indifference."

Charles Lamb [1775-1834]

CHURCH  COMPLAINTS 

December 31,  2011

Quote for Today

"A noted preacher had a special black book labeled, 'Complaints of Members Against One Another.'  When one of his congregation told him about the faults of another, he would say, 'Here is my complaint book. I will write down what you say, and you can sign it. Then when I have time I will take up the matter officially concerning this sister or brother.' The sight of the open book and the ready pen had its effect. 'Oh no, I couldn't sign anything like that!' they would say. In 40 years this preacher never got anyone to write a line in it."

Anonymous in Voice of Truth

List your top 10 complaints against the members of your community by name.

LIFE  AND  TIME

December 30, 2011

Quote for The Day


"Life is merely a fraction of a second.
An infinitely small amount of time to fulfill
our desires, our dreams, our passions."

Paul Gauguin [1848-1903]

Painting on top: "The Yellow Christ", "Le Christ jaune", 1889 - by Paul Gauguin, Albright-Knox Art Gallery, Buffalo, N.Y.

PARADISE  LOST

December  29, 2011

Quote for Today

"Les vrais paradis sont les paradis qu'on a perdus."

"The true paradises are paradises we have lost."

Marcel Proust [1871-1922], Le temps retouve (Time Regained, 1926, translated 1931 by S. Hudson, chapter 3, p. 215.

Painting on top, "Where Do We Come From? What Are We? Where Are We Going?" 1897, Boston Museum of Fine Arts, by Paul Gauguin [1848-1903]

AWARENESS

OF THE POWER

OF BAD EXAMPLE

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this feast of the Holy Innocents - December 28 - is, “Awareness of the Power of Bad Example.”

HIGH SCHOOL RETREAT

Let me begin with by mentioning a very interesting thing that happened on a high school retreat with some of our kids.

There we were having a group discussion on the issue of teen age drinking and drugs. Sitting there listening, it triggered the memory of a meeting for parents that I attended a few years back about teenage issues. A specialist on teenage issues was the main speaker. She worked in Anne Arundel County. St. Mary’s was on average with other high schools in the country regarding teenage drinking. I was hoping we would be lower; I was glad we were not higher. The presenter had done an anonymous survey amongst our kids - and was telling parents what she saw was going on with our kids. I was also thinking about things kids have said in other discussions on this very issue.

That’s how it began - but the interesting thing that hit me didn't happen yet.

The young people first started talking about themselves. They talked about peer pressure - driving after drinking - looking for parties with booze, everybody does it, etc.

Then surprise, they started talking about how some of their parents drink too much - and also offer their kids alcohol at times. I had heard that before as well.

Now the interesting moment …. For the first time, I heard the following: these high school kids talked about how they were giving bad example with their drinking to the younger kids in our school - as well as to their brothers and sisters.

FREEZE THAT: AWARENESS OF MY POWER TO GIVE BAD EXAMPLE

I wanted to yell, “Freeze the moment!” I wanted to yell, “Great insight! Some of you are saying that you are moving from being self-centered to being other-centered.”

I didn’t because I thought the conversation was progressing very well. It was moving into possible further awareness’s they were not seeing till that moment.

I kept listening and noticed that the conversation - was opening up some mouths that were quiet till then. I sat there hoping and praying that more minds would open to deeper and further challenges.

It would be great if those moments in that discussion could be frozen and then thawed out as life moved on for them.

I am personally scared for these kids as they move on to college - where for some kids binge nights are every night.

Each of us needs to pause and examine what is the good example I’m giving - and what are the bad examples I’m giving - especially towards children.

I also hoped that they would move their words from babble to not picking up the bottle.

Example speaks louder than words.

JESUS WAS OFF ON THIS TOPIC

For starters Jesus was off on this topic - not to give bad example - especially towards children.

He said it would be better to have a mill stone tied around your neck and you’re thrown into the sea - than to have given bad example to kids. That’s a strong statement. [Cf. Mark  9:42; Matthew 18:6; Luke 17:2]

Then paradoxically - but really not - Jesus struggled to get people to go within - to walk around listening to their inner thoughts - checking out their actual attitudes - that this was more important than outward example.

He said this because the Pharisees could give good example, but in reality, it was their inside, their motives, that Jesus went after. Yes they gave good example. However, they used their example to try to manipulate people to think these Pharisees were super people.

A QUOTE

Someone said, “A good example is worth a thousand sermons.”

If that is true, and if a picture is worth a thousand words, what is the impact of bad example?

If Chinese kids speak Chinese - because that is the language they hear at home - then it’s obvious they speak the language, the tones, the attitudes, the meanings of their parents.

If the message of Christmas is that the word became flesh, then we need to realize that our words become flesh in others, especially children. Children are our words become flesh. We have the accent and the attitudes, the behavior and the being of our parents.

Today’s gospel talks about the slaughter of the Holy Innocents. In how many homes are the words of Jeremiah that we hear in today’s gospel being fulfilled because of the bad example of others - especially because of alcohol - and people are killed because of drunken drivers or alcohol poisoning?  [Cf. Matthew 2: 13 - 18; Jeremiah 31: 15]

                     A voice was heard in Ramah,
                     sobbing and loud lamentation;
                     Rachel weeping for her children,
                     and she would not be consoled,
                     since they were no more.

If the message of today’s first reading is to be aware of sin - as well as our words and impact on others - then we need to grow in awareness of the power of our example. [Cf. 1 John 1:5-2:2]

CONCLUSION

Today the feast of the Holy Innocents, my message is to be aware of our impact on children. We can kill kids by the impact of our bad example on the innocent.