Friday, April 17, 2009


VERBOSE

Lord, my prayers
are fat with words.

Lord, my prayers
lack listening.

Lord, my prayers
need trimming.

Lord, my prayers
need to be like You,
The Silent One.


© Andy Costello, Prayers, 2009
BROKEN DISH

I said nonchalantly,
“Hey, Hon I’ll do the dishes
for you tonight.”

“Noooooooooo!”
I realized
before the words hit her ears
I said the wrong thing again.

She said grindingly,
“For me, Hon?
Doing the dishes for me?
Didn’t you eat tonight?
Was I the only one
at the table?
Didn’t I do the shopping?
Didn’t I do the salad?
Didn’t I do the cooking?”

Slowly, very slowly,
I cleaned the kitchen,
putting things away.
As I quietly
put the dishes
in the dishwasher,
I could hear her
watching Jeopardy
without me.



© Andy Costello, Reflections, 2009
WHAT HAVE YOU CAUGHT?


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “What Have You Caught?”

In today’s gospel, Jesus asks the 7 who were out fishing, “Have you caught anything to eat?” [Cf. John 21:1-14]

And they answer that they have caught nothing.

And Jesus tells them where to cast their net – over to the right side of their boat – and they will find something.

And they pull in 153 fish. Amazing.

A THOUGHT FOR THE DAY

A thought for the day.... Looking at your life, what have you caught?

Hopefully, our answer will be something like this, “What have I caught? Friends and memories, love and laughter. Okay there were some hurts and there were some tears, but looking at my life, I have made some great catches. Do you want to see my pictures?”

What have you caught?

Haven’t we all seen a picture of someone standing proudly on a dock – next to a boat – and hanging there is a gigantic fish – or they are holding in hand a big fish they have caught.

Take some time today to picture yourself standing there on the shore of your life – standing tall, standing proudly – with your life catches.

ALBERT CAMUS

Albert Camus, the French Algerian Existentialist writer said something that scares me. It also challenges me, “Alas, after a certain age every one is responsible for his or her face.”

He also said, “Ah, mon cher, for anyone who is alone, without God and without a master, the weight of days is dreadful.”

He also said, “All great deeds and all great thoughts have a ridiculous beginning. Great works are often born on a street corner or in a restaurant's revolving door.”

JESUS

Jesus stands at the shore of our every morning. He’s also at our street corners. He’s also in a restaurant’s revolving door.

The Gospel announces to those alone - "Here is Jesus God and Master!"

Prayer is connecting – listening to this Risen Jesus – and doing what he calls us to do from the shore – and we will catch a net full of life each day.

And it will show up on our face.


CONCLUSION

That’s a thought for today coming out of today’s gospel.

Smile. You're on Candid Camera!
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WHERE DOES IT HURT?


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Where Does It Hurt?”

When we were little kids and we were crying our mom or dad would ask, “Where does it hurt?”

When we go to the doctor – because we need a doctor – not just for a regular checkup, the doctor might ask, “Where does it hurt?”

When someone goes to a therapist, after the ice breaking stuff, after the background information, a good therapist might ask, “Where does it hurt?”

TODAY’S GOSPEL [LUKE 24:35-48]

It’s the thought that hit me when I read today’s gospel when Jesus says to his disciples, “Look at my hands and my feet. It is really I.”
It's the thought that hit me when I read in yesterday's gospel that the Messiah had to suffer. [Cf. the whole Road to Emmaus Story in Luke 24:1-35] - and then that message is repeated again in today's gospel [Luke 24:47]

Luke in today’s gospel reading says the disciples in the Upper Room were feeling panic and fright. They were disturbed.

Jesus appears in their midst with the message that we all need to hear, “Peace.”
But we also need to figure things out.

So Jesus opens their minds to the understanding of the Jewish scriptures. He does for them what he has just done for the disciples on the way to Emmaus – yesterday’s gospel.

WHERE DOES IT HURT?

Can we take it for granted that every person on the planet, if asked that question, would have an answer?

It might be a death or a rejection or a dead marriage or a misunderstanding or an ongoing slight. It might be a personal failure. It might be a major “Unfair!” scream. Or we bit off more than we can chew and we feel a big, “Uh oh! Now what?”. Or we’re in money trouble or health trouble or what have you.

Where does it hurt?

While praying, if Jesus asked us that question, what would we answer?

Where does it hurt?

HOPE



I find these readings after Easter wonderful for the message of hope.

Today’s first reading contains the end of the story we heard yesterday about the lame man who was healed by Peter calling on the power of Jesus.

Peter tells folks that we do things out of ignorance.

Wow is that true.

Part of forgiveness and healing is to see how stupid we can be at times.

Then in today’s first reading there is a great hope, “that the Lord may grant you times of refreshment.” [Acts 3:20]

Where does it hurt?

If you need healing of memory, the first step is to name the hurt. Be specific. The second step is to allow Jesus to heal us.

I’m a firm believer that the story of our lives is an unwritten Sacred Scriptures. There is the Bible and there is Our Bible – our story.

I believe it’s very important to read, break apart like bread our story. We need explanations, understandings, go figurings.

I have a Genesis – an Exodus or many Exits – Laws (personal rules and regulations I go by). I have teachings, wisdom sayings, my Good News, Letters, Dreams, etc.

In spiritual direction, I urge people to read autobiographies and biographies as a way of reading our own biography, my autobiography – whether it’s written or still in the talking to ourselves stage.

I urge people to write their own autobiography – not for it to become a best seller – but it become a best read story by ourselves – and family – but not everything. There are secrets we all take to the grave. There are parts only for ourselves and our God.

Know oneself – knowing oneself – can lead to great understanding.

After we tell Jesus where we hurt, hopefully we hear the word, “Peace” – Shalom – as we heard Jesus in today’s gospel, and the healing process can begin.

Coming to Mass, receiving communion, is a sit down meal – a sitting down to eat with Jesus. I’m glad the fish dropped out of the process.

The beauty of this process of understanding our own story – reading our own scriptures – which I think is a gift for those over 60 – is it can lead to great understanding and peace with others. Surprise!

CONCLUSION

Where does it hurt?

* Cartoon on top by William Steig [1907-2003], American Cartoonist. Type his name into the Google Box and add "cartoonist" and surprise!

Monday, April 13, 2009


EASTER QUESTION

It’s early Easter morning. I see
clear drops of water on tulips.
I still see winter’s dried dead leaves
caught in hedges. I hear slight sounds
of birds. I get a scent of Spring.
Lent is over. Holy Thursday’s
betrayal kiss has been covered
by blood and wiped off by
back of hand and cloth on Friday.
Saturday’s Upper Room silence is
every family’s sound after a death.
It’s early Easter morning. I hear
Jesus saying to me, “Mary of Magdala
asked me if I was a gardener and
then called me ‘Rabbuni’ and held me.
John saw the empty tomb and believed.
Peter was much slower –
but like Thomas he believed.
Peter told me he loved me three times.
Ok, I sort of forced it out of him.
Now, you? This is your Easter.
Whom do you say I am now?"




© Andy Costello, Easter 2009

Sunday, April 12, 2009

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FAITH
ON THE FIRST DAY
OF THE WEEK
INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Faith On the First Day of the Week.”

Today’s gospel from John for this Easter Sunday begins this way, “On the first day of the week, Mary of Magdala came to the tomb early in the morning, while it was still dark, and saw the stone removed from the tomb.”

Not only had Jesus died, was buried, but now the stone that closed his tomb was rolled back.

Imagine going through a family death – going through the whole process – the death bed moment when a loved one dies – getting an undertaker – the phone calls, the planning, the wake, the funeral, the graveyard, the luncheon afterwards – the saying good bye to close friends – coming back to the house with family – the difficult sleep that night – and getting up very early the next morning and driving to the cemetery. You’re all alone. You walk to the grave site. You stop. There is a big empty hole in the ground. You saw the back hoes off to the side the day before. You figured the grave was filled with dirt. No! Down below the casket is open and there is no body. You panic. There is nobody around. You drive back to the house and you grab two other members from your family and you say, “I just went to the cemetery. Something’s wrong! There’s just a hole in the ground. The casket is empty.” And the three of you quickly get in a car and head to the cemetery. Sure enough, there is a hole in the ground. The casket is open. There is no body.

What would that be like?

The Gospels have various accounts of that first Easter. It went something like that with regards the stone and the tomb and the missing body. Then the gospels present some rather powerful scenes when Jesus comes back in his resurrected body.

DEATH DEMANDS FAITH

When it comes to whether there is life after death – resurrection – faith is necessary. If you’ve hit 50 and you haven’t thought about whether there is life after this life or not, then you aren’t thinking. By 50 you should have had doubts – wonderings – questions – and felt the need for faith.

After 50: death, doubts, fears, faith, and lots more. After 60 it’s having to get up to go to the bathroom in the night – and sometimes you can’t back to sleep – and after 70 questions can keep us awake.

The title of my homily is, “Faith On The First Day of the Week.”

Notice I added to the opening words of today’s gospel, the word “faith”: “Faith on the First day of the Week” – because I want to get into the issue of faith in this homily – because that’s why we’re here today – this Sunday – this first day of the week – this first day of Jesus’ New Life after his death.

Christians believe only one person came back from the dead for sure: Jesus Christ. **
This is a primary faith issue.

In this homily I’d like to present four things about faith:
1. Faith is a Relationship
2. Faith Takes Time,
3. Faith Is A Gift
4. Faith Needs Witnesses

1) FAITH IS A RELATIONSHIP

Faith is a relationship. Faith is a relationship with God – the invisible God. For the Christian, it’s faith in the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit - all three – and all three as one.

When you pray, when you take time to be in relationship with God, do you pray, “Father” or “Jesus” or “Spirit”.

Like any lover, what’s that inner name you have for the one you love?

2) FAITH TAKES TIME

Faith takes time.

Notice in today’s gospel that the faithful disciple – many think it’s John – is the first to believe – and Peter doesn’t get it at first.

Faith takes time – as in any relationship.

John sees the cloths – and without even putting together all that the scriptures has said – he believes.

Peter is not as quick – in running or believing.

Mary of Magdala waits outside – and in the next section of the gospel of John we find out she meets Jesus – thinks he’s the gardener – and then realizes – this is Jesus – Rabbi, Teacher, Master, The One Who Loved her when various others didn’t – and labeled her as one of life’s losers.

Faith takes time.

Thomas will have doubts – as we’ll hear in next Sunday’s gospel – called for centuries, “Doubting Thomas Sunday” – and we thank Thomas for teaching Jesus’ followers, it’s okay to have doubts.

But don’t forget Thomas prayer: “Lord, I believe; help my unbelief.”

This Easter as reported in the Baltimore Sun last Sunday, this Easter the Archdiocese of Baltimore has the largest class of converts in the past decade. 984 local adults prepared this eight months in R.C.I.A. programs to become Catholics last night. This was a third more than joined the church locally in 2008. We had 39 in this parish. I looked at them last night – a wonderful mix of folks – the majority of them looked like plus 25 young middle aged adults.

Last Sunday’s article in the Baltimore Sun by Matthew Hay Brown began this way, “A police officer assigned to watch over a church nursery during Mass overhears the homily and becomes intrigued. A retail manager struggling with the loss of hours at work is inspired by the faith of his fiancée. A married mother of two looks for answers after two siblings are stricken with cancer.” **
Faith takes time. Some are born Catholic Christians. Some become Catholics in God’s good time. Not everyone enters the vineyard at the same hour. Some leave and come back from time to time.

What time period of your faith are you in now?

I discovered something very interesting in talking with couples getting married. They take a long questionnaire. One section is entitled “Religion and Philosophy”. There are some questions on church attendance. The hope is to get folks talking about the state of their faith – because it will be part of the state of their union.

I discovered that some people went to Mass because their parents made them go – and then dropped out. Then when talking about going to church, couples would say, “We see ourselves going to go to Mass when we have kids to give them good example.”

After about ten times it dawned on me to say: “Imagine going to church to please one’s parents for years and then imagine going to church to give good example to one’s kids, but never going to church because I want to go to church?”

Then sometimes I compare a relationship with God with their relationship with each other. Both take faith. Every relationship has its ups and downs – doubts and wonderings – did I make the right choice? Then sometimes I add, “Here is where covenant comes in. By getting married in church you are asking God to come into the picture – into your relationship.” Hopefully, a couple are not getting married in church just to make parents happy.

Adult faith takes time. It’s a process. I always remember reading an article by a religious brother years ago. The title and theme was: “The reasons why I entered are different from the reasons I’m staying.”

God, is that true of being a priest, being married, being a Christian!

Hopefully we grow and develop. Faith takes time. There’s a lot more for this second point – there are plenty more Sundays.

3) FAITH IS A GIFT

Having done tons of high school retreats and this and that with kids, faith as a gift is often not seen that way. Having listened to lots and lots of adults in the second half of life, let me tell you that something happens along the way that gets folks to see faith is a gift.

And gifts can be lost.

Before the horrible priest scandal in the Catholic Church, the worst thing I experienced was seeing priests who lost the gift of faith. Some left the priesthood. Some left the faith. I was ordained in the 60’s – 1965 – and a lot of things happened in the late 60s and early 70’s. I could see a priest leaving to get married and have a family, but to see a priest lose his faith. Tough stuff.

Faith is a gift and gifts can be lost.

Faith as a gift came home to me one morning – standing at my brother’s grave with his best buddy – who was Jewish. Marty believes in God, but he told me standing there that he doesn’t believe in an afterlife. Talk about a roadside bomb. Boom. I told him some Jews believe in a resurrection.

I remember asking my brother when he heard he had 18 months to live, “How are you going to deal with this?” He paused and said, “I’ll let you know.” And he let me know just before he died – when he said, “Thank God for mom and dad giving us the gift of faith.”

4) FAITH NEEDS WITNESSES
Faith needs moms and dads, brothers and sisters, who are living the Christian faith.

I remember a man named Willie Lukianski – who wanted to talk about God. He had never been baptized or gone to church. We met over a period of months. This was before the R.C.I.A. program. He couldn’t believe in God. Nothing convinced him – but eventually he made an act of faith – not in God – but in the people of God. All these people going to church every Sunday can’t be wrong. So with that he was baptized – and he died of brain cancer about three years later.

Faith needs witnesses. We give witness to each other every time we come to church – and every time we live the Christian faith.

Faith needs people at work who give a full day’s work, who don’t cheat – who give quality work.

I’m not talking about “mouthy” faith – I’m talking about action – witness – living the gospel.

Don’t you love the quote that is attributed to St. Francis, “Preach the gospel. Sometimes use words.”

In today's second reading, from Paul's First Letter to the Corinthinans, he's telling us that we are called to be yeast that leavens all the dough - the whole loaf of Bread, the whole Body of Christ, the whole Community. Yeast has no mouth - just growing action.

I became a priest because we had a fun family life – prayed and played cards and listened to the radio together. I became a priest because I grew up in a great parish. I saw good nuns and Redemptorist priests and brothers in our parish when growing up. I stayed a priest because I saw wonderful Catholics – some of whom were priests – who were real, authentic, joyful, human beings – and doing life this way made sense.

CONCLUSION


The title of my homily was: Faith On the First Day of the Week.

For starters faith expressed by coming to church each Sunday with family - with a Christian community helps increases our faith – and then helps us live it during the week.

Faith on the first day of the week helps us bring Christ and his love, insights, challenges to the other 6 days of the week – helping us make each day sweeter and better for each other.



O O O O O O O O O
* Painting on top: St. Mary Magdalene at the Sepulchre, by Giovanni Girolamo Savoldo, c. 1530-1539, at the J. Paul Getty Museum, Los Angeles, California

** Monday morning quarterbacking .... Second thoughts .... There is an old saying for preaching, "You're allowed one heresy in every sermon." Obviously, I don't want to preach heresy - in fact, I try to avoid "bumps" in a sermon or in writing. By "bumps" I mean something that hits the listener or reader and they get out of sync at that point. While driving to my niece's for Easter Dinner yesterday, after preaching at two Easter Sunday morning Masses, I found myself a tiny bit out of sync. I was wondering about a comment in this homily, "Christians believe only one person came back from the dead for sure: Jesus Christ." What about the Catholic teaching about Mary in the Dogma of the Assumption? What about the Saints? What about the Communion of All Saints? What about everyone who dies and is lifted into God - invited into the Eternal Banquet? What about the 15th Chapter of First Corinthians? These are thoughts for another day - as well as my hope for reality in eternity in the Trinity. How's that for a way to avoid heresy and the Great Unknown - the Great Question - the Great Hope - Life after death?

*** Matthew Hay Brown, "Surge In Converts to Catholicism," Baltimore Sun, April 5, 2009, pages 1, 14

Friday, April 10, 2009


THE PERSON
ON THE OTHER CROSS

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “The Person on The Other Cross.”

KEVIN O’NEIL, REDEMPTORIST

On Tuesday, last week, March 31st, 2009, Father Kevin O’Neil, a Redemptorist from Washington D.C., gave us a very reflective presentation on “The Seven Last Words of Christ.” *

We sat here at St. John Neumann Church and looked up at this powerful crucifix of Jesus – bigger than life – overhanging us here in this church. When we walked into the church that evening the lights were low and a projector flashed – power pointed - The Seven Last Words of Jesus over and over and over again – onto the wall around the crucifix - giving us a preview of the evening.

As you know the 7 Last Words of Jesus are 7 sentences – 7 statements – 7 messages of Jesus on the cross:

· “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.”
· “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in Paradise.”
· “Woman, here is your son. Here is your mother.”
· “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
· “I am thirsty."
· “It is finished."
· “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.”

Then as he gave a reflection on each of the 7 Last Words of Jesus only that statement was projected on the wall – on either side of Jesus. I was thinking this is probably the best church in the world for such a presentation. It was a powerful presentation if it got us out of ourselves and into the suffering and death of Jesus Christ – and not me thinking of technology.

THE READINGS AND THE STATIONS OF THE CROSS

Hearing one of Isaiah’s Suffering Servant Songs, today’s first reading, hearing today’s second reading from Hebrews that we have a great high priest who cried great prayers and supplications as he was dying on the Cross, hearing the Gospel Passion story from John – like we did just now – making the Stations of the Cross – which many did today and during Lent, has the same purpose, to get us out of ourselves and into the mystery of the suffering and death of Jesus Christ.

GETTING OUT OF OURSELVES

What gets us out of ourselves?

Often it’s when the other is suffering.

Last night as I was sitting down there in those side seats for the Holy Thursday Evening Mass – which has the foot washing – the scripture readings of the Passover Meal, the giving of the Eucharist, I couldn’t help but notice the empty cross. Nobody was on it. It's the cross that will be used in procession this evening and we will all come up the aisle to venerate it.

Last night as I looked at the empty cross, I began to ask: “Who’s on that cross?”

Last night I began to think: “I can project images of people onto that empty cross.”

Who’s there?

Who’s hurting?

Who gets me out of myself?

It’s a basic human experience that we’ve all said many, many times, “I thought I had it bad, till I met this person who ….”

Who’s on that cross?

I see those who will be experiencing an Easter for the first time without a loved one who has died.

I see those who have a loved one in Afghanistan or Iraq.

I see those whose marriage is falling apart.

I see those who feel mistaken, misunderstood, misjudged.

I see those out of work – and the bills are piling up – and they have to tell the kids.

I see those with cancer.

I see my brother Billy - this was years ago - being told he had to take his hat off when we went into a restaurant in Baltimore – and I was furious – but he took it off – his head without hair and with cuts – the last stages of his brain cancer – but praise God his sense of taste and his appetite came back that February. He died a month later.

I see a kid on our block when I was a kid. He was very effeminate and we picked on him – having no clue about such things – and when he came out of the closet years later – he came out with a vengeance – but it gave me a life time understanding of people who are homosexual – and I was able to say on weekend retreats when people started gay bashing in Question and Answer sessions. “Does anyone realize that someone in this room might be gay or someone in this room might have a son or daughter who is gay – and it has been a long, long struggle for understanding and compassion?” And sometimes some people heard.

I see Sister Helen Prejean who in 1984 walked with a man named Patrick Sonnier to his electrocution for murdering with his brother a young man David LeBlanc – an only son. The letters, attacks, insults, she received were countless. She writes, “I reached out to victims’ families – even if they scorned me, rejected me, hurled insults at me. My suffering was nothing, piddling nothing, next to their great sorrow in the violent, tearing, irrevocable loss of their loved one.” She said what helped her was meeting with the father of David LeBlanc. She writes, “We prayed together, Lloyd and I, and soon I was seated at his kitchen table, eating with the family, they forgiving my terrible mistake, taking me in like a lost daughter." She continues, “As I write this, my heart still resonates with gratitude. Lloyd was my first teacher. Through him I got a peek into the chasm of suffering that families endure, who wake up one morning and everything is alive and humming and normal and by evening face the unalterable fact of the death of a loved one.” **

CONCLUSION

Mary lost her only son that afternoon – capital punishment. What did she go through this Friday evening?

We come to these services to get out of ourselves – so we can enter into not only Christ, but also the lives of those around us – and when we can – be there for them – willing to listen – willing to learn – willing to admit we don’t know, but we do care.

We come to these services to walk out of here – better than when we walked in here – better than how we were when Lent started this year – and year after year we grow – and hopefully, when we are on that other cross, there will be folks under us – and the words between us will be forgiveness, compassion, thirst, hope, acceptance of endings, understanding, letting go – and when that happens, it will be a Good Friday, or Good Monday or Good Thursday or whatever day it is.



* Kevin O'Neil, C.Ss.R, The Seven Last Words of Christ, Liguori Publications, Liguori, MO., 2007

**Cf. "Ride the Current," Listening to God's Call by Helen Prejean, C.S.J., America Magazine, April 13, 2009, 100th Anniversary Edition, pp. 36-37