January 2, 2016

UN-REASONS

Do we ever know the real reason why

we do what we do?  Motive? Can it -

[it being the reason, the motive, the why] -

can it be surgically located in our brain?

Let’s be honest. Sometimes we don’t know

why we said what we said, did what we did,

avoided what we avoided, till long afterwards.

Some marriages crumble, some marriages

get better, years after the falling in love -

long after the moment we gave the ring,

long after the moment we vowed the vows.

This is scary stuff for the moralists and

for the other we committed ourselves to.

I guess the only solution is daily communication

with our spouse, with our others, daily renewals

of our motives to each other. But wait a minute!

What about homes, family, money, security,

contracts, others? Wouldn’t society fall apart with

such relativity talk when it comes to reasons?

Yes, yes, yes…. But no, no, no, know, know, know, know, isn’t this one reason why we have the problems and the issues we have: dumping and disappearing from each other, taking drugs and drink to drown our sorrows and felt failures,

people unable to stick to their commitments and

not looking deep into the possible consequences

of our un-thought out - un-prayed on - un-talked out - un-understood - un-reasoned out decisions.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016