STRONG   AT 

YOUR  BROKEN PLACES

Quote for Today - October 10,  2012

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.  But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially.  If you are none of these you can be sure that it will kill you but there will be no special hurry."

Ernest Hemingway [1899-1961], A Farewell to Arms [1929], Chapter 34

THERE ARE MEETINGS 

AND THERE ARE MEETINGS

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 27 Tuesday in Ordinary Time is, “There Are Meetings and There Are Meetings.”

Today’s two readings talk about significant meetings.

The Gospel talks about the meeting of Christ with Martha and Mary.

The first reading from Galatians talks about a meeting between Paul and Peter.

TWO  QUESTIONS

Two questions for the sake of a homily: What have been the most significant meetings in our life? What has been the most significant meeting in our life?

To get the answer to the second question, I would think the first step would be to just brain storm and come up with significant or special or key meetings we’ve had in our life:  Meeting one’s spouse. Seeing a doctor about cancer. Meeting the pope. Being called in to see a boss and we’re told we’re no longer working there.

It’s a great conversation starter and ice breaker to ask people whom they have met. The answers are often quite surprising.

When my mom worked as a maid in the Boston area she met Charles Lindbergh a few times. The daughter of the family she worked for was a college friend of Ann Morrow - who married Lindbergh. People tell you about the time they met John Fitzgerald Kennedy or Johnny Unitas or Mother Teresa or Elvis Presley or their aunt or a college professor

So in this homily I would suggest making  a list of significant meetings that changed our life and then pick the most significant one.

MARTHA AND MARY, PAUL AND PETER

When Jesus told Martha that Mary had chosen the better part, did Martha get over that - and accept Jesus’ verdict on the differences between his meetings and his experiences with the two sisters?

Another question, “Looking at our life, was there a meeting we had where we got burnt or told off or we felt we were not treated fairly or we were ridiculed?  Whenever I read the Martha-Mary story - I side with Martha every time. Maybe she was making Jesus a great lunch with delicious bread and wine. Sometimes a hurtful meeting or a painful or a nasty meeting is the most significant moment in one’s life.

Today’s Letter from Paul to the Galatians has Paul saying that after 3 years he went up to Jerusalem to confer with Cephas. To me that is one of the most mysterious and interesting comments in the scriptures. It took Paul 3 years before he met  Peter? What happened at that first meeting that took 15 days? Tomorrow we’re going to hear that the next visit - at least according to Galatians - took 14 years before they met again. That sounds strange to me!

We find out in tomorrow’s first reading from Galatians that Paul challenged Peter when he seemed to be two-faced - in giving different answers to the same question - depending whether the listener was a Gentile Christian or a Jewish Christian. [Cf. Galatians 2:11-14.]  We find out in the Second Letter of Peter 3: 16 a criticism of Paul that he is hard to understand at times. So I don’t know about these two - and the times they met.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is, “There Are Meetings and There Are Meetings.”

It’s important to meet with each other - and talk with each other - and surprise - some of these meetings are profound. If we never meet, we’ll never have significant meetings.

It’s important to pray with Christ - because if we never do that - we’ll never have a profound meeting with Christ - like Paul had on the road to Damascus and Mary had with Christ at their home.

So we come to Mass and go to the Eucharistic Chapel - and take prayer walks when the weather is decent and we meet with each other and surprise some of those moments make our list. One might become the most significant meeting and moment of our life - the key that opened so many other doors.

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Quote for Today - October 9,  2012

"Not that I don't value my life ... but sometimes I wish I could spread it all out on a piece of paper and take some Whiteout to it."


Jill McCorkle, "First Union Blues"

17 MILES

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 27^th Monday in Ordinary Time is, “17 Miles.”

Sometimes it takes a long time - like a journey of 17 miles - before we finally understand something that can be explained in less than 2 minutes.

The journey from Jerusalem to Jericho is 17 miles.

THE JOURNEY TO JERUSALEM

It’s the year 2000. We’re in Israel. We’re in a bus heading for Jerusalem. I’m with a good priest friend of mine and about 20 other priests. The tour guide / retreat master, Father Stephen Doyle,  says over the bus loudspeaker, “We’re going to take the ancient road from Jericho up to Jerusalem - that is - unless we get a bad weather report - which could happen. We’re not sure yet.”

It was January - and when I heard that comment, I went inside myself and said, “Uh oh, oh no! No. No.”

I didn’t realize till that moment - till that comment - till that trip on that road - even if it was in a bus - that I was hoping to make that trip sometime in my lifetime. It was the road from Jerusalem to Jericho that we heard in today’s gospel - in the story of the Good Samaritan [Luke 10: 25-37] - but we would be doing it in reverse.

Father Stephen Doyle said that it was a very close road - with very high sides - and if it rains while we’re in that small valley of a road - it floods and is very dangerous.

The other road to Jerusalem was a major highway - the easier way. I rejoiced when it was announced we were going to take the harder road: the road from Jericho to Jerusalem.

I had a window seat, so I could see how dangerous a road it could be - not just in bad weather - but if you walked it - from robbers.

Some sections had very little shoulder - and 14 foot high cliffs or edges on both sides of the road. It would be easy for robbers to jump off the edges on either side and rob the traveler if they were on foot.

Father Stephen Doyle read for us over the bus’ loud speaker today’s gospel, “A man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho.”

We heard the words: He was beaten, robbed, left half dead. A priest went down that road and walked right by the wounded man. A Levite did the same. These stories often have 3’s. The third man was a Samaritan - making that same journey with his pack animal. He stopped. He poured oil and wine on the man’s sores and bandaged them. He put him on his animal and brought the man to an inn. He told the innkeeper to care for the man. He gave money for the inn and the care and told him if it costs any more, I’ll repay you on my way back.

ONE OF THE WORLD’S GREATEST SHORT STORIES

There it is - one of the worlds most important stories. It can take a minute in the telling. It’s very easy to memorize. If you add the back-story it takes less than two minutes. And the back-story is essential to the story. Luke indicates that the scholar of the law gets the story - gets the answers to the questions he asks. Now whether he really got it - God only knows.

Do I get it? Do I put the Good Samaritan story into practice?

Sometimes it takes 17 years - 17 miles - 17 bypasses of those in need - before we get this story that Jesus gifted us with.

The Levite and the priest - were following the rules - the Law.

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The Law quoted here in our text  - Deuteronomy 6:5 and Leviticus 19:18 are only about 29 words in English, 33 words in Greek, and 15 words in Hebrew. I counted them up last night - but I wasn’t too sure about the Hebrew.

We know the words by heart. The call is to translate them from any language into action.

THE MESSAGE - THE QUESTION

How many miles - how many hurts - injuries - problems - falls - denials - how many people in need do we have to pass by before we get the story?

How many years does it take - 17 or 37 or 77 - before we realize this story contains the meaning of life?

FIRST READING - FROM PAUL’S LETTER TO THE GALATIANS

Today’s first reading is from Galatians. We have this Letter from Paul for our first reading every day this week and into next week.

I noticed that because my favorite text in the Bible is in Paul’s Letter to the Galatians - Galatians 6:2.

Bummer.  We get a lot of Galatians - but our Lectionary does not give us Galatians 6: 2 this week or next.

To me, since it’s my favorite text, I believe it’s the most important message for the world - for the church. It’s the message of today’s Good Samaritan story.

Here it is. Paul says in Galatians 6:2, “Bear one another’s burdens and in this way you’ll fulfill the Law of Christ.”

What’s your favorite Bible text? If you don’t have one, you can plagiarize mine.

CONCLUSION

I’ve traveled my 17 miles. I’ve reached the age of 72 and I think this is the Law for Life - to stop to help each other carry the burdens of life.

I think Pedestal Catholics fail on this over and over and over again.  Priests, Levites, bishops, cardinals and popes have walked by those in need - walked by those who are hurting over and over and over again. I know I have.

Thank God the Good Samaritans of the world stop to help from time to time the abused, the hurting, the poor, the divorced, the broken, the lonely, the war torn and ripped, the rejected, the abandoned, those whom nobody visits in prisons or nursing homes, the families of those with AIDS etc. etc. etc.

I also understand that people don’t seem to get this message till they are hurting - till they have been beaten up - till after they have a divorce, an abortion, a gay person in their family, an alcoholic, a drug addict, someone with HIV, those with cancer or what have you in their family,  then after traveling those 17 miles - they sometimes get it. Praise God.

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Painting on top: Echo of a Scream [1937] by David Alfaro Siqueiros, Duco on Wood, 48 X 36", The Museum of Modern Art, New York, Gift of Edward M.M. Warburg

LOVE OR HATE?

Quote for Today - October 8, 2012

"I have decided to stick with love.
Hate is too great a burden to bear."

Martin Luther King Jr. [1929-1968]  


Questions:

Have you been hearing a lot of hate going around lately?

I have. It seems there is a lot of rock throwing going on that usual.

Maybe we need to read John 8: 1-12. What do you think?

NAME THE KEY INGREDIENT 

FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 27 Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year B, is, “Name The Key Ingredient for a Great Marriage.”

Today’s readings beg for a homily on Marriage.

The last time I preached on these readings I preached on divorce - so today I decided to preach on marriage.

Today’s first reading has a great folk tale. It's great literature. As you hear it, you can hear it being acted out in Jewish synagogues and circles for thousands of years and thousands of times.

You can hear a character up front playing God and saying, “It’s not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”

Silence!  The audience waits to see who will be the suitable partner.

You can see Adam standing there as well - waiting for God’s answer and God’s gift of a partner. Next you start to see God going off to the side - making out he’s sculpting something out of the ground - just as he had made Adam out of the earth.

Drum roll: and God presents Adam with a goat and everyone laughs. Next comes a monkey, then a dog, then a cat and then a bird - and everyone laughs as Adam gives thumbs down or gives a frown to every one of these creations of God.

In his rejections Adam gives each animal a name as well.

It’s a great story - but Adam still has no suitable partner.

So the storyteller of Genesis has God casting Adam into a deep sleep. Then God reaches into Adam’s chest and dramatically pulls out a rib - and then you see God creating out of Adam’s rib a woman.

When the audience sees her - when the audience sees Adam’s face radiate in seeing the woman - the suitable partner - I’m sure they clapped and shouted - if the play was done well.

Then Adam bursts into his closing speech. Pointing to the woman, he says, “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of ‘her man’ this one has been taken.”

Then the narrator of the play closes with the very familiar words, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one flesh.”

I think Bill Cosby does this skit the best when he has Adam saying when he sees Eve,  “Wow Man!” - the last great naming!

WELL: NAME THE KEY INGREDIENT FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE.

The title of my homily is, “Name the Key Ingredient for a Great Marriage.’

In the story,  Adam named the animals - but none proved a suitable partner. Then God gave him a partner: woman.

As I pictured today’s first reading I wondered what would it be like to have a play with God creating all kinds of ingredients to make a marriage work - and Adam is asked to name the most important ingredients and then  the  key ingredient for a great marriage.

If I polled all the married folks here, what answer would you give? What would be the key ingredient that would make you a suitable partner: love, respect, caring, communication, trust, making time, listening, children, working on making it work?

I would say that 66% of the marriages that I’ve been the priest for, couples pick for one of their readings, the love is this and love is that text from First Corinthians 12:31 to 13:8. Paul tells us that love is the greatest gift - the greatest ingredient. He spells out what it is and what it isn’t. It’s not rude, it’s not crude, it’s not pushy or pompous. Nope. It’s patience. It’s acts of kindness. It’s trust and hope. All these ingredients and more are what love is all about.

When heard, when done well, that would get a lot of Amen’s.

If we asked the divorced, "What happened?", we would get some of the same answers. They might say the negatives ran the show and the positives had disappeared and failed to show up. Those are ingredients for a disaster - an actual disaster or a silent divorce where a couple are still together - but where two are two and not one.

MY ANSWER

I’m not married - so I’m a bit hesitant to give my take on what it would take to make a great marriage.

As I thought about this, I wondered how Protestant ministers or Eastern Rite priests and now various former Anglican priests who are or were married would preach on marriage. Would they be much more practical and down to earth than a celibate?

Would there then be pressure to make sure they practiced what they preached?  Would they feel under the microscope in their marriage? What happens when a minister or a rabbi and his or her spouse break up and divorce?

As I thought about all this yesterday - after coming back from doing a wedding at the Naval Academy, I wondered if I could present an ingredient - that if it was made key - in a marriage - it would it be so convincing that married folks upon hearing it - would decide to work at putting that ingredient into their marriage - if they haven’t already - and married life for them would be great this coming week - and any week or day they put that ingredient into practice.

Then it hit me - that ingredient - would also make a great priest - a great boss - a great teacher - a great person to spend a lunch break with - a great person to spend one’s life with.

STEPHEN COVEY

As I was thinking about all this - trying to come up with the key ingredient - I remember listening to a tape of Stephen Covey’s book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He died recently, but his stuff is still good.  Habit # 5 was to “Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood.” What I heard with this habit was the message to forget self and take the side of the customer - or the other. Instead of giving the sales pitch, find out what the buyer feels fears about  - what the buyer is wondering about - what his or her questions are.

In other words - to shut up - and find out what the other is thinking, feeling, wondering about - and then the buyer or the other might ask, “What are you selling?”

JESUS CHRIST

As I remembered that, I realized that is a key idea about Christ. “For a little while” as today’s second reading puts it - the Second Person in the Mystery of God - was made “lower than the angels”.  That’s what we Christians believe - when we believe in the Trinity. We believe that God did just that in becoming one of us. Jesus Christ started as a baby. He came into our skin - into our flesh.

The theological word used is “Incarnation” - but the specialists tell us - not to use such words in a sermon.

Still, whatever word is used, there it is: Christianity. There it is:  Marriage. There it is: the secret of life and love.

The key ingredient to a happy marriage and a happy life - is become like Jesus - who said, “Everyone wants to be served, but here I am in your midst as one who serves.” There’s the key ingredient: to die to self - so the other can rise.

So the couple who are there for the other - who listen, who ask, who is concerned what’s going on inside the other - incarnation - it is they who understand sex - understand life - understand Christ - understand partnership.

It is they who understand the Mass - and every meal. It’s all about serving the other. It’s all about letting the other person eat us up - because we’re willing to be consumed by the other - and if we’re blessed by children - to give our lives for them as well. Listen carefully to the prayer at the end of Mass today. It basically says what one woman told me after the 7:30 Mass. She said, "It says, 'We become what we eat!'" We become Christ. We become the other. We become one!

CONCLUSION

So the key ingredient for a great marriage is: you before me. 

It's to serve rather than wanting to be served.  It's to let the other eat us up - to be Eucharist - Christ - for the other. St. Thomas Aquinas said it this way when he described what love is: Love is wanting and working for the well being of the other. 

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Painting on top: The Arnolfini Marriage by Jan van Eyck [1434] - National Gallery London. The wedding took place in Brugge in 1434 between Giovanni Arnolfini and Giovanna Cenami.

MARRIAGE 

AND DIVORCE

Quote for Today - Oct. 7, 2012

"A successful marriage demands a divorce; a divorce from your own self love."

Paul Frost