Friday, December 16, 2011

JUNG   ON  MARRIAGE




December 16, 2011 Quote for Today


The following is a letter of C. G. Jung to a Mister N.

1 November 1951


Dear Herr N.,


I am sorry to be late with my answer. I was away on holiday and your letter was lying around for some time.


You have experienced in your marriage what is an almost universal fact - that individuals are different from one another. Basically, each remains for the other an unfathomable enigma. There is never complete concord. If you have committed a mistake at all, it consisted in your having striven too hard to understand your wife completely and not reckoning with the fact that in the end people don't want to know what secrets are slumbering in their souls.  If you struggle too much to penetrate into another person, you find that you have thrust him into a defensive position, and resistances develop because, through your efforts to penetrate and understand, he feels forced to examine those things in himself which he doesn't want to examine.  Everybody has his dark side which -  so long as all goes well - he had better not know about.  This is no fault of yours.  It is a universal human truth which is nevertheless true, even though there are plenty of people who will assure you that they'd be only too glad to know everything about themselves.  It is as good as certain that your wife had many thoughts and feelings which made her uneasy and which she wanted to hide even from herself.  That is simply human. It is also the reason why so many elderly people withdraw into their own solitude where they won't be disturbed.  And it is always about things they would rather not be too clearly conscious of.  Certainly you are not responsible for the existence of these psychic contents..   If nevertheless you are still tormented by guilty feelings,  then considere for once what sins you have not committed which you would have liked to commit.  This might perhaps cure you of your guilt feelings towards your wife.  With kind regards,


Yours sincerely,
C.G. Jung

C.G. Jung Letters.

I found this quoted letter on pages 175 and 176 of The Education of the Heart, edited by Thomas Moore, Readings and Sources for Care of the Soul, Soul Mates, and The Re-Enchantment of Everyday Life. Harper Perennial, 1996

Thursday, December 15, 2011

SUFFERING - 
WHAT  IT  DOES  TO  US!



December  15,  2011

Quote for Today - the day the United States forces declared  in Bagdad an end to their operations in Iraq.


"Imagine two generals, each having to decide whether or not to commit a division of ten thousand men to battle.


To one the division is but a thing, a unit of personnel, an instrument of strategy and nothing more.


To the other it is these things, but he is also aware of each and every one of the ten thousand lives and the lives of the families of each of the ten thousand.


For whom is the decision easier?


It is easier for the general who has blunted his awareness precisely because he cannot tolerate the pain of a more nearly complete awareness.


It may be tempting to say, 'Ah, but a spiritually evolved man would never become a general in the first place.' 


But the same issue is involved in being a corporate president, a physician, a teacher, a parent.


Decisions affecting the lives of others must always be made.  


The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain the ability to be decisive. 


One measure - and perhaps the best measure - of a person's greatness is the capacity for suffering.


Yet the great are also joyful.


This, then, is the paradox.


Buddhists tend to ignore the Buddha's suffering and Christians forget Christ's joy.


Buddha and Christ were not different men.


The suffering of Christ letting go on the cross and the joy of Buddha letting go under the bo tree are one."

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled, pages 75-76.

The above quote was one paragraph. I broke  it down by sentences  - because I and others don't read something that is long - like a long paragraph.

Painting on top: 1887 Civil War Battle Scene by William Trego [1858-1909]












Wednesday, December 14, 2011

IN THE DARK


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “In The Dark.”

Sometimes we are in the dark; sometimes we feel like we’re in the dark.

Life is both light and darkness. No kidding!

We’ve seen the Chinese philosophy symbol of the ying-yang black and white circles - complementary opposites - each having the opposite within - both sides part of the whole. If it’s daylight here, it’s night darkness there - changing over and over again as the earth revolves around the sun.

Light needs dark and dark needs light. We appreciate Caravaggio and Rembrandt's paintings - many of which have light in faces - and light that glows especially because there are shadows and dark areas in the rooms the characters are featured in.


The Calling of Saint Matthew [1599-1600] Caravaggio [1571-1610]

The Night Watch [1640-1642] by Rembrandt [1606-1669]

The title of my homily is, “In The Dark.”

Hopefully, a homily sheds some light. I’m not so sure about this one - because this topic has a lot of stuff in it which - I’m very much in the dark about.

Perhaps that’s the reason I find myself repeating over and over again what the Talmud says, ‘”Teach thy tongue to say, ‘I do not know.’”

TODAY’S READINGS

We heard in today’s first reading: “I form the light, and create the darkness….” [Cf. Isaiah 45: 6-8, 18, 21-25]

Don’t we love the opening words of the Bible, “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was a formless void, there was darkness over the deep, and God’s spirit hovered over the water. God said, ‘Let there be light’, and there was light. God called light ‘day’ and darkness he called ‘night’. Evening came and morning came: the first day.” [Genesis 1: 1-5]

“Let’s start at the very beginning, a very good place to begin….”

Sometimes we see - we have answers - and sometimes we feel like we’re in the dark and so we go to Jesus with questions - as we heard John the Baptist do in today’s gospel. [Cf. Luke 7: 18-23]

THE FEAST OF ST. JOHN OF THE CROSS

Today - December 14 - is the feast of St. John of the Cross - and one of his major themes is the dark - as in the Dark Night of the Soul.

In this homily, let me present a few fragments of what I hear Saint John of the Cross saying - especially his ideas about darkness.

It’s not original with him - it’s a theme that we find in Christian Spirituality - down through the years.

If we pray, hopefully we pray, “Let there be light!”

But sometimes the light doesn’t go on at our command!

So if we pray, we know about the darkness of God in prayer.

“Where are you, God? Where are you? I feel like you’re keeping me in the dark.”

I pray and my prayer is filled with distractions. I pray and I feel like I’m talking to myself. I pray - but it seems like mumblings - or whistling in the dark - and I’m the only one in a dark alley - or a dark valley - or in a dark night - or in a very dark universe.

If you know about all this, you know the Psalms. They are filled with screams and yells to God - they are the history of people down through the years praying to know where God is - especially when the valley we’re traveling though is dark - and we’re wondering and wandering like lost sheep without a Good Shepherd.

Having conducted lots and lots of retreats for 14 years in two different retreat houses - also having taught Spirituality for 9 years to men who were hoping to become Redemptorists - 9 classes - each of which took a year and a day - as a Novice Master - one task was to teach others how to pray - so I know about this theme of Darkness when it comes to prayer.

So once more, , “Teach thy tongue to say, ‘I do not know.’”

The beginner of prayer - if he or she is just saying prayers - doesn’t come to the Night - the Darkness - issue right away.

At first - all is bright - light - “honeymoonish” - the stuff of beginning - excitement - as in marriage - as in any new job - as in having a new car - the first week at college, moving into a new home - or what have you.

As Blaise Pascal put it, “Things are always at their best in the beginning.”

Then time takes away the newness…. and the newness becomes oldness. The light of day hits noon - and the so called, “Noonday Devil” starts walking with us on the long journey.

An as we continue the shadows of afternoon move into the dark of evening and night.

In time dryness - boredom - emptiness - aloneness - arrives.

It’s night.

The beginner feels at first the Dark Night of the Senses - then the middler feels the Dark Night of the Soul.

The Dark Night of the Senses has to do with the Spiritual that hits us through our 5 senses. The Dark Night of the Soul - now that’s the down deep inner Black of God - the Black Hole of God - whom some atheists - don’t realize they are at black door of God - and miss his knock (Oops that’s an ear metaphor - hearing - something that goes with the Dark Night of the Senses).

Flashes of light appear from time to time - moments of consolation arrive at times - insights - inner lights go on - but from what I learned from 51 years of Religious life - and prayer - most of the life of prayer is darkness.

Sorry - if you don’t know that yet.

Beginners - as in marriage need consolation. They need rich rewarding experiences of light. Then when they are long on the journey - they get to know and experience that they don’t know what’s around the corner. Then they discover that walking in the dark - is how God operates - that God is so often a Night God.

In the meanwhile we have statues and stained glass windows - candles and music - spoken prayers - but in time, the honeymoon is over and we enter the life of faith.

In due time we understand the words of St. Paul in 2 Corinthians 2: 5, “We walk by faith and not by sight.”

In due time we can understand and learn why the Muslims didn’t want images in their mosques. It’s the same reason we have iconoclasts - those who break and destroy religious images - or their use in veneration. It’s the same reason the Jewish people were opposed  to the use of God’s name - and proclaimed the first two commandments:

“I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. You shall have no other gods before Me.”

“You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My Commandments.”

Make an object a God - and you’ll always have iconoclasts. Luther thought that statements by preachers like Johann Tetzel about Indulgences went too far - as if we humans could dictate how God is. Raising money to renovate Saint Peter’s in Rome with statements about what you’ll get for your money was too much for some Reformers.

Make the Bible more than it is - and you’ll also have iconoclasts.

Don't we get angry or frustrated or what have you, when someone says what we think or who we are - and we know they are totally in the dark about us?

Life is tricky. Relationshiop are tricky. People are tricky.
Religion is also tricky stuff - because religion is not about stuff - as it's about relationships.

Spiritual teachers - like John of the Cross - teach that when you think you have God - you probably don’t - and when you feel like you’re in the Dark - you might very well be in God.

Hey we don’t see all the stars up there - in the light - only in the night. They are always there, but we don’t always see them. We can be blinded by the light.

So keep praying. Keep walking by faith - and every once and a while the light goes on - and when we get to heaven - who knows what we’ll see?

The scriptures say there will no longer be any night. We’ll see.

CONCLUSION

This sermon is a first draft and I’m dabbling in the dark a bit - but on purpose. I like the night for praying more than the day - always have - but others are just the opposite.

Moreover in spirituality, there is not only the so called “kataphatic” “with images” - “the via positiva” approach to mysticism and prayer - but there is also the “apophatic” - without images - “the via negativa” - to empty oneself of images - and in doing so one can also move into God.

Eastern mysticism - and Oriental mysticism - and meditation techniques have a voice here - along with Neo-Platonist writers like Pseudo-Dionysius - who stressed emptying oneself to meet God.

Let me close with two quotes of John of the cross:

“Desolation is a file, and the endurance of darkness is preparation for great light.”

“If someone wishes to be sure of the road he treads on, he must close his eyes and walk in the dark.”

ST.  JOHN 
OF THE CROSS

December  14,  2011

Quote for Today - feast of St. John of the Cross

"The Lord measures our perfection neither by the multitude nor the magnitude of our deeds, but by the manner in which we perform them."





Questions: Can you picture an experience or a moment where you had this same thought that St. John of the Cross had? Can you figure out what words of Jesus that John of the Cross might have been reflecting upon - when he came up with this comment?










St. John of the Cross [1542-1591]
LORD, THAT I MIGHT SEE!


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this feast of St. Lucy, December 13th, is, “Lord, That I Might See.”

It's the prayer and the cry of the blind man of Jericho in Luke 18: 35-43.

Today is the feast of St. Lucy - an Early Church martyr who died for being a Christian - around 300.

She is one of the 4 great women martyrs of the 4 months of the cold weather months in the northern hemisphere: Cecilia, Lucy, Agnes and Agatha - November, December, January and February.

She is sometimes pictured with a plate with her eyes on it - because that was one of the legends or stories about her: that her eyes were gauged out by her torturers.

She is especially venerated in Sicily - and Italy. When I lived in Long Branch, New Jersey, I noticed in the various Italian homes I visited that they all had a picture of statue of Lucy with the eyes.

But she’s also venerated and celebrated in Sweden and in the Scandinavian countries - as well as in various other places - for example, Omaha, Nebraska.

So St. Lucy has always been popular. Lucy is a neat name. Everyone has eyes. Everyone has eye problems now and then. So pray to St. Lucy.

DECEMBER - THE SEASON OF LIGHT

At this time, if you drive around Annapolis you’ll see people on their front lawn or at the front of their house setting up lights. December is the month of light - obviously because of Christmas - and obviously because December 21 is the darkest day of the year - and then we move towards the light.

Every year, when I come to this feast of St. Lucy - I always remember standing in the back of some church on some parish mission - around All Saints Day - and all the kids are dressed up in Saint costumes. Sheets are the secret. Well there was this one girl with a sheet around her and electric lights flashing around her head - battery powered. Pointing towards her, I asked someone, “Who is that?” And the lady, probably an Italian, looked at me as if I were blind, “Saint Lucy dummy!”

Let there be light.

CONCLUSION

So as you know I push the rosary for more than Hail Mary’s. Simply take the beads and say 59 times the prayer of the Blind Man, “Lord, that I might see.” That’s what he said he wanted when Jesus asked him why the yelling. “What do you want?” He said, “Lord, that I might see.

Or even shorter, use your rosary beads to say 59 times, the death bed words of Goethe, “More light.”

Goethe had said earlier in his writings, “Someday perhaps the inner light will shine forth from us, and then we shall need no other light.”

That would be nice.

Or simply use your beads to pray 59 times, “Light.”

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Painting on top: St. Lucy [1521] by Domenico di Pace Beccafumi [1486-1521]. It can be found in the Pinacteca Nazionale, Siena, Italy

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

SECRETS

December 13,  2011

Quote for Today

"A secret is something you tell only one person at a time."

Anonymous

Picture: two people walking along and talking in Florence, Italy - September 2011

Monday, December 12, 2011



COURAGE


December  12,  2011

Quote for Today

"There is plenty of courage among us for the abstract, but not for the concrete."

Helen Keller [1880-1968]