Sunday, March 31, 2019



THE  MOTHER  OF 
THE  PRODIGAL  SON


[I’m sure in the  past  2000 years of Christianity,  someone  has written a story about the mother of the Prodigal Son, but I haven’t seen it. So here is my attempt at an imaginary story about  the mother of the Prodigal Son. She’s missing from the story - told to us by Luke.  I’ve often wondered why.   And I didn’t know whether to write this story in the first person or the third person. As you can imagine, that would  make a world of difference as well.]

She had a stroke about a year before her son took off for a foreign country. She had lost her ability to speak - as well as having trouble walking and working around the house.

The younger brother didn’t like his older brother - who was too goody good for him - always on his case - always on his back. Older brothers can sometimes be like that.  His mom - he had to admit - was too, too disabled - and he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life taking care of her.

His dad was understanding - mushy like mashed potatoes -  but the younger son didn’t mind that most of the time - because most of the time he got his way.  And the older brother - as you would expect - wanted his dad to be as tough as rock - especially when it came to the way he treated his younger brother.

In those days, one was grown up by the time one hit 17 - so this younger son asked his dad for coins - better for  his inheritance - and surprise his dad said, “Okay.”

And off he went to discover far countries - to see the world - and to figure himself out - and find himself - in the process.

He knew he didn’t want to be a caregiver.

He also knew he didn’t want to be a farmer. Besides that his older brother would get the most in the will.  Besides that - because his mom had the stroke - he was stuck doing most of the inside - in house work.

He took his coins and himself and headed for his first faraway place  - some 250 miles away from home. Immediately he had lots of friends - male and female.  He was  young - well dressed  - and noticed.

Coins - the sight and sound of coins - can do that.

He bought a sleek chariot - rented a great back room - right next to the best drinking spot in town.

Then his money ran out - along with his so called friends. He had to sell his chariot and his great pair of white stallions  - and he was thrown out of his digs.

He got a job at a local pig farm - little pay - no food - and a famine - a depression - had hit the area.

Stuck in the mud with pigs - smelling of you know what - starving - he got sick of pig slop and he started to long for home.

He began to do a lot of talking to himself.

Mud and mess can make the mind clear up.

He decided on going home and saying to his father. “I’m sorry I really messed up. I’m sure you’ll be embarrassed to have me still as your son. Take me back as a hired servant. I’ll take care of you and mom and do anything you want me to do - everything and anything.”

So he headed home.

In the meanwhile his dad worried every night how this disappeared son was doing.

His wife couldn’t speak - but she knew. She knew what he was thinking and feeling and crying and looking out the window to the west for.

She also knew what her oldest son was thinking. He would come and talk to her - but  she couldn’t answer. All she could do was to pray for her 3 sons: her husband and their two boys.

Then came the homecoming moment. His dad knew - looking up the road - just knew this was his son shuffling along in the distance - in the rising sun.

The old man could still move - as he ran up the road - and ran right into the body of his lost son.

The younger son had his speech ready about not being worthy to still be called his son.

The old man would hear none of that.

He started barking orders.

“Quick!  Get him cleansed.

“Quick! Get out his best robes - pink or purple.

“Quick! Find his favorite sandals - the soft ones.

“Quick!  Kill the fatted calf.

“Quick!  Cook up my son’s  favorite foods.

“Put a ring on his finger.

“Quick!  Line up some musicians.

“My son is back.”

Mom saw all this from the window.

Mom smiled as she hugged her son - but she worried about how his brother was going to take all this.

Her intuition was on the money.

When the oldest came back that afternoon - he wanted to know what the hubbub was all about - and the music - and the dancing.

When told that his brother was back - and your dad was throwing a party for your younger brother’s return, he became furious - and now he was at a far distance.

He wouldn’t go near the house.

He would not hear his dad’s words, “Hey, your brother was dead. He was lost. He has been found. Come on in and welcome him home. I have you always - but not your brother.”

The older brother yelled, “Are you crazy? All these years I never failed to serve you. I never ruined our family name. I never embarrassed you in front of your friends. He swallowed up your property with prostitutes. For him, you killed the fatted calf. For him you are throwing this banquet - and you never gave me anything.”

His father’s joy turned to sorrow as he told his older son, “My son, you are here with me always; everything I have is yours. But now we must celebrate  and rejoice,  because your brother was dead and has come back to life, he was lost and has been found.”

And his mother heard and saw  all this through the window.

And that night - long after the party - long after her younger son - went to sleep - feeling overwhelmed at how wonderful his father was - long after the older son tried to sleep in the barn - with the pigs - because  he still wouldn’t go into the house - to the embarrassment of his parents.

Long after all had quieted down - the mother of these 2  prodigal sons - the wife of this loving father - held her husband tight - all through the night. She couldn’t  speak - but he knew  she knew - why he did what he was doing.  She remembered how years ago he had slipped away from her embrace. He fell for a time.  But she welcomed him back with open arms - and it took him the longest time to accept her forgiveness.

That night  - that father - understood both his sons - because he too had been both of them. He knew forgiveness sometimes takes a long time.

That night - that mother - knew that this story - happens in its own way in  every family - even when someone is left out - in the telling of the story.
[Painting on top: 
Woman at a Window (1822) 
by Caspar David Friedrich]









March 31, 2019 




Thought for today: 


“As long as you don’t  forgive,  who and whatever  it is will  occupy  a rent-free space in  your mind.” 

Isabelle Holland 

Saturday, March 30, 2019


EXCUSES

Many are the ways I fake it -
avoiding interruptions, calls,
requests.  “Procrastination”
is a tattoo on the skin of my
soul …. Why? I don’t know, why.
As I said, I have my excuses.
I have my reasons: laziness,
too much to do …. Enough ….
How about you? Down deep
are you the same way?
Okay …. You don’t have to
answer. If you're like me, 
you have your own excuses.
  
© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

March     30, 2019



Thought for today: 

“Beware of invoking the fear of Communism as an excuse for avoiding change in the structures which confine millions of the children of God in a sub-human condition.”  

Helder Camara [1909-1999]


Friday, March 29, 2019

March 29,  2019

DEW 

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this First Friday in Lent, is, “Dew” - just that short  3  letter word: “dew”.

Mention of dew is made in today’s first reading from Hosea 14: 5, “I will be like the dew for Israel.”

I was thinking of going with the gospel - especially because it talks about the theme of the two Great Commandments to love - to use that  for a short homily. But then again - when I spotted that mention of dew in the first reading, I said to myself, “You’re due - D U E - to say something about D E W.”

I get that same thought every time I use the 2nd Eucharistic Prayer - when the priest says, “Make holy, therefore, these gifts, we pray by sending down your Spirit upon these gifts like the dewfall.”

I always notice that prayer - that mention of dew - and it often hits me as sounding so  sort of  different.  I ask, “What is that about?”

Asking God to send down his spirit on us like the dewfall, that is  kind of different. It’s quite unique

So maybe it will sound a bit different to me in the future if  I do a short homily on it sometime - like now. We’ll see. Time will tell.

So that’s why I decided to see if I could  figure out a  few things about dew.

Dew does not appear in the New Testament - but it does appear some  42 times in Old Testament: mainly in Daniel, Judges and here in Hosea.

TASK

So I made it my task last night, to see if I could come up with a couple of thoughts  about dew for this morning.  

FIRST THE REALITY OF DEW WAS WATER

Dew is water.

Without water, there is no life.

Here in Maryland,  we often get dew on our car windows in the morning - and if it’s cold enough,  it’s frost.  Frost then is dew that got cold feet.

Here in Maryland - and many other places, if you walk out on grass in early morning you’ll  get wet feet and wet shoes.

That’s it. That’s dew  - landing especially on the ground  - on green plants and car windows - silently saying, I’m here.

SECONDLY: PRESENCE OF GOD

Dew - in Jewish theology - is like the presence of God.

Dew comes silently.

We hear rain - but dew is absolute silent - settling everywhere.

Carl Sandburg in his poem called “Fog” talks about fog coming over the city - quietly - like little cat’s feet.

Like waking up in the morning and walking outside to get the paper - we discover our feet got wet - may we feel the presence of God on our feet every morning  - like the dew.

THIRDLY: THE RESURRECTION

In Jewish theology,  the dew tells us that there is resurrection.

If there is only dust - dirt - and no water, there is no possibility of new life.

God made us of the dirt - the dust of the earth - along with water.

When there is dew on the earth - where so  many are buried - there is the possibility of new life. Dew tells us about  earth rising. Plants and the earth and the dessert can only bloom if there is bloom.

March 29, 2019


 CONSEQUENCES

Stop to say “Hello!” or stop
to buy an ice cream cone:
expect consequences.

Sticky fingers - what to do
with the napkin - ending up
with a lifetime relationship.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


March     29, 2019 


Thought for today: 


“God enters by a private door into every individual.”  


Ralph Waldo Emerson [1803-1882]