March 18, 2019
THREE THOUGHTS
ABOUT JUDGING
INTRODUCTION
The title of my homily for today -this 2nd Monday of Lent - is, “Three
Thoughts About Judging.”
Today’s gospel - Luke 6: 36- 38 - addresses the issue
about judging - which many people - judge themselves guilty about on a regular
basis.
Like everyone, I have often thought about this issue
about judging others. So let me give 3
thoughts about judging in this homily.
FIRST THOUGHT: SAY, “I’M WRONG.”
The first thought is to say to oneself, when one makes a
judgment about another, “I’m wrong.”
Everyone thinks differently. Even identical twins. Our
experiences effect our thinking - so our motives for doing what we do, comes
from our experience with why we say what we say, why we think what we think,
and why we do what we do.
1 million things, inner conversations, outer experiences,
are all different in every human being - so how can we think alike?
We get angry or we inwardly say when another judges our
motives, “Wait a minute. You don’t know why I just said or did what I just did, so stop judging me from your
motives. They are your projections - not
mine.”
Golden rule: We don’t like it when others judge us, so
stop judging.
I’m wrong every time - because motivation is multi-layered,
multi-reasons, multi-backgrounded.
Wait a minute! Get your hands on a memory when you judged someone and you
found out you were dead wrong. Say to yourself, “Remember that experience, that
last time you judged and wow was I so
wrong.”
Here’s an experience: Someone is sitting there and they
see a boy turn around and look back at a girl - 3 rows behind. He keeps doing
it. Surprise we find out that he’s not
looking at her, but he’s turning to check the clock just over her head on the
back wall. He wants out of there because he has to go to the bathroom. She
thinks he’s looking at her. We think he’s checking her out. Nope.
2) THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN JUDGMENT AND
PERCEPTION AND SECOND JUDGMENT.
Second message: some people are big on perceiving; some
people are big on judging.
It’s not’s virtuous.
People are often just one way more than the other.
A person walks into a store or a church or a room and
says, “This room is stupid, the way it looks or is laid out.”
Another person walks into a store or a church or a room
and says, “Interesting, the way the pretzels are right across from the Coca
Cola.” Or, “Interesting the way the benches are.”
I score high on perception. Others score high on judgment
on Judgment-Perception Surveys or Self-Tests.
It’s the next step where judgment takes place - after we
understand our first reaction.
Some people automatically make a judgement. There is no
sin involved. Some people automatically
make a perception. There is no virtue involved.
3) GO FOR BIG COMPASSION
My third point comes from today’s 2 readings - especially
the Gospel.
Jesus says have great compassion and mercy in judging
others.
Jesus says that the measure we measure with comes back at
us.
If we’re stingy with compassion and understanding, yuck. There’s a better way
to be.
I love the joke about the one armed fisherman or a one
armed golfer.
Did you hear about the one armed fisherman? He caught a
fish this big.
Did you hear about the one armed golfer. He missed the
putt by this much.
In both cases I’m putting one arm out.
Well, with regards judging someone, miss by this much.
Hold out one arm.
Enough.
How are you judging my homily? Sorry, I had a crazy morning - and didn't get enough time to do this better.