October 13, 2018

Thought for today:

“Tact: Ability  to  tell  a man he’s open-minded when he has a hole in his head.” 

F. G. Kernan 

CONCIERGE

She didn’t want a husband or a friend, 

but she didn’t know this back - then - 

when - they got married.

It took a long time,  but what

she really  wanted was a concierge -

a go-fer - come to think about it -

that’s what her dad was to her mom -

come to think about it, her grandpa

actually  was: a concierge   and

they weren’t even French.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018

Sue Dytri

October 11, 2018

AUTOBIOGRAPHY

Two things we all need to do:

read and write our autobiography.

We’re playing our inner recording

of the story of our life - most of the time.

At some time we ought to write it down.

Computers are wonderful for just this.

Then cut and paste - gather and date -

the stories of our life - chapter by chapter.

Stories beget stories, memories beget

memories, people come back to life.

If one has siblings, it’s great to share

memories an our autobiography grows.

Tell me the story of your life.

tell me the title of your life.

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018

October 11, 2018

Thought for today: 

“All the fun’s  in  how  you say a thing.” 

Robert Frost

October 10, 2018

PSALM 194

Praise the Lord,

clap your hands - clap, clap, clap. [CLAP 3 X]

For our eyes that we may see

into the eyes of those around us.

Praise the Lord,

clap your hands - clap, clap, clap. [CLAP 3 X]

For our mouths that we may praise

the wonderful people who surround us.

Praise the Lord,

clap your hands - clap, clap, clap. [CLAP 3 X]

For our feet that  we may always

greet with peace those around us.

Praise the Lord,

clap your hands - clap, clap, clap. [CLAP 3 X]

For our hands that we may give

our gifts to those who need us.

Praise the Lord,

clap your hands - clap, clap, clap. [CLAP 3 X]

  

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018

October 10, 2018

Thought for today: 

“I don’t want to spend the rest  of my life giving speeches.” 

Colin Powell

TWO  BY  TWO

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 27 Tuesday in Ordinary Time is, “Two By Two.”

As you know numbers are interesting.

Ponder this: A different dynamic takes place in a car when there’s two people on a trip together compared to three or four people.

TODAY’S READINGS

Today’s readings trigger thoughts  or wonderings about numbers - especially about two’s.

The Gospel has the story of Martha and Mary.

The reading from Galatians has one of various Peter-Paul stories.

Peter is certainly very different than Paul.

One was a fisherman - and probably his only education was learning how to fish and mend nets  and Paul was a tentmaker - who probably had lots of rabbinical education and learning.

Martha and Mary clearly have very different personalities as well.

Peter and Paul had some serious differences - especially in reaching out to Gentiles. Their struggle was an early church struggle.

LOOKING AT OUR OWN LIFE

Looking at our own life what have been the two by two relationships? life.

Looking at our life who have been the buddies … close friends …. Who was our best man or maid of honor at our wedding and why?

Looking at our family - who were we closest too and is there a brother or a sister we never got close to? These are the family  questions that are more important than just the numbers.

What’s it like to be in a family of two brothers and  two sisters?

I have wonderings about favorites in families. I even ask about that - but often get, “I have no favorites.”

There are all kinds of literature and family therapy dynamics when it comes to who’s who in one’s family.

At our convocation last week in New Jersey, one night there was the option to watch a movie called, “Wonder.”  In this story there was the older teenage girl  - Via - who struggled with not being  noticed or getting any attention from her mom. She saw that once her brother - Augie - was born - a boy with serious facial issues  - that needed  lots of plastic surgery - her mom’s whole life scenario was  caring for their son.

What thoughts do only children have? What’s it like to be the only boy with three of four sisters.

What’s it like to be a twin?  

BACK TO THE BIBLE

The title of my homily is “Two by Two”.

As you know that comes from the Noah’s Ark story.

There are lots of other two by two combos in the Bible: Cain and Abel is certainly a significant story.

Isaac and Rebecca had twins and she felt them fighting in her womb. Great story telling. The twins: Esau and Jacob were very different.

Jacob has twelve sons -  I won’t go there - that’s a whole different story.

Joseph gets to Egypt and time moves on and then there are the 2 brothers Moses and Aaron.

More family dynamics.

Jesus liked to have brothers in his stories.

Everyone knows his story about a man had 2 sons. One becomes prodigal and hits bottom in a far country and comes home. He rehearses his speech that he’s willing to just becoming a servant. I need food. I need a place. The father welcomes him home - but the older brother has no welcome home in his heart or mind and won’t forgive his brother.

Then there is the story about the brother who says to his dad when asked to do a job - “Yes, no problem, I’ll do it” - and then he doesn’t do it. The other brother says, “No way”  and then has second thoughts and does what his father wants.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is, “Two by Two.”

I suggested thinking about our own family dynamics and figure out what you learned in your family setting. Has it been a good learning experience?

Hopefully, brothers and sisters live long enough to  end up seeing each often enough to compare thoughts about one’s family. Sometimes they become the best of friends and help each other figure out what mom and dad were like and what it was like growing up.

Can’t you picture Martha and Mary - and maybe Lazarus - sitting around in their old age - talking about their idiosyncrasies and funny stuff about their mannerisms and how Jesus played his favorites. Can you picture Mary serving Martha and saying jokingly, “You have chosen the best part”?