Monday, August 27, 2018



FOR  THE  SAKE  OF  TRANSPARENCY


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for you teachers for this new high school year - 2018-2019 - is, “For the Sake of Transparency.”

I don’t know when this principle or mantra or slogan became a value - used at meetings and brought up and into relationships.

I don’t know if teachers and school staffs pause before a new school year and look at what they are thinking - hoping - wondering about for this new year a-coming.

We’ve been here before - but some days are different than other days. We  go through some of the same doors each day - but some entrances are different than other entrances.

Not every day is the same.

There is the last day of school in June and the first day of a new school year in September.

What do teachers think about the day - the weeks after - a school year ends.

How was your day is not the only question in life?

How was this school year that just ended?

What will this new year of school  be like?

When I’m watching some of these pre-season football games and a team has a new coach, how does the coach see this team, this new season. If he was on some other team and he was cut, what did he learn from that experience - and how will he see a new year - a new coaching experience?

In other words what were our learnings.  A new year can trigger that question. 

For the sake of transparency what are your thoughts right now.

FAVORITE QUOTES

“For the sake of transparency” is one of my favorite quotes.

Do you have any favorite quotes?

I don’t know what this day for teachers and high school staff will be like - but if you have some small group sessions - share your favorite quote.

If they have any coffee breaks, share your favorite quote.

For the sake of transparency, this is where I’m coming from.

One of my favorite quotes is: “The power is in the coffee break.”

One of my favorite quotes is from Kojak, “Talk to me.”

One of my favorite quotes is from Kojak, “Who loves you, baby?”

One of my favorite quotes is from Kojak, “Do you want a lollipop.”

If you watch NCIS you know that Sloan, the therapist, offers lollipops as well.  “What color do you want?” For her it’s a psychological test.

One of my favorite quotes is, “Be who you is, because if you be who you ain’t, then you ain’t who you is.”

For the sake of transparency,  let me state that again, “Be who you is, because if you be who you ain’t, the you ain’t who you is.”

For the sake of transparency we can also say, “Be where you is, because if you be where you ain’t, then you ain’t where you is.”

I don’t know where you are right. Sometimes it’s hard getting back into the swing of things.  I went to bed too late last night - I was watching the movie, “The Pelican Brief” so I found it difficult getting a homily for this morning.  

One of my favorite quotes is, “The greatest sin is our inability to accept the otherness of the other person.”

That’s true in a school, office, place of work, and classroom, and our families and our groups.

It’s a new school year, for the sake of transparency, a possible resolution could be, “Let’s see each other in a new way.”

Our theme for this new year is all about seeing.

The blind man or woman in the gospel prays, says, “Lord, that I might see.”

For the sake of transparency, it’s hard to see people. Their weight, color, age, language, clothes can block us from seeing and sensing the other.

For the sake of transparency, it’s easy to judge others - and we can’t see through the other to see their mind - heart - and personality.

We haven’t read their autobiography. They haven’t told it to us - so we make them a biography - our reading of the other - and we don’t listen to their audio autobiography of themselves.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel - Matthew 23: 13-22 - has Jesus seeing through the Pharisees - those who want to appear goody goody and the scribes - those who could read and write and thought that made them better to a degree.

For the sake of transparency religious leaders can be hypocrites - actors - trying to change everyone to their way of thinking and being.

For the sake of transparency, Jesus says guides can be blind guides.

For the sake of transparency - Jesus said we can go for the gold - but we get caught up in the glitter - and miss out on what and who are the real gifts in the room are.

Jesus says, “We swear to ourselves, we have it right - when we are all wrong.”

Jesus says, there is a garbage dump - right there in  Jerusalem - and it’s called Gahanna - translation  “hell” - because it stinks of burning garbage and dumped stuff - and that’s where we can be living.

Get out of hell - and be free.

TODAY’S FIRST READING

Today’s first reading is from 2nd Thessalonians - written and sent some time around 50 to 100 AD - the year of the Lord.

It’s more gospellly than today’s gospel - in that it gives more good news.

It has some good stuff for this new year.

This new year be peaceful with each other.

This new year be thankful for each other..

This new year have faith - may it flourish

This new year - check out how you judge - judge with God’s judments.

This year bring about the kingdom of God here at  St. Mary’s.

This year - we’ll have sufferings of different sorts - help each other with them.

This year, have a good purpose.

One of those can be, to be transparent - open - clear with and to each other.

CLOSING

Today is the feast of St. Monica - mother of Augustine - who really got messed up in his head - but he  was smart.

For the sake of transparency, she stuck with him - prayed for him - and then for the sake of transparency - he gave the world his inner stuff - his confessions - so that all of us can be transparent and give our best to the world. Amen.




I  WISH  SO AND SO 
HEARD THIS 

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 21st Monday in Ordinary Time  is, “I Wish So and So Heard This.”

One of the  experiences every preacher has is the following: someone comes up to a preacher or speaker and says, ‘I wish my daughter-in-law heard what you said today.”

THE PREACHER’S REACTION

For starters, it’s a compliment in a way.  Someone heard something and it has a grab of importance for them.

Sometimes the preacher has a second experience.  They say to themselves. I wasn’t preaching to those absent, but to those present. Maybe this person should apply what was said not to others, but to themselves for starters.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel  - Matthew 23: 13-22 - has the first 3 of Matthew’s 7 Woes of Jesus. Scripture scholars like to point out that in Matthew they are a teaching technique. He does the same thing with the 7 Beatitudes in Matthew 5: 3-12.  Sometimes it’s listed as the 8 Beatitudes.

Tomorrow we’ll have 2 more woes and Wednesday we should have the last 2 woes, but we have a feast day on Wednesday,  August 29th, for John the Baptist - so there is a different gospel for that day.

Question: when we hear these 7 warnings, these 7 blasts, these 7 criticisms, these 7 woes,  of the Pharisees and the Scribes, do we think of others, or do we apply them to others?

If there is anything I learned from the Jesuit Exercises from Saint Ignatius of Loyola, it’s to apply all these readings to self - not others.

I read a Bible text, I put a finger on it, and say, “Now this if for me!”

It’s to see myself in the gospel stories and the scripture texts, not others.

How am I a hypocrite? How am I a Pharisee or a Scribe?

When preachers are preaching and everyone listening is screaming inwardly at the preacher, “Practice what you preach!” it would great if the preacher knew what everyone was thinking about him at that moment.

Ouch!

It’s a good sign - in a way - if the person being corrected - at least said the following, “Do what I say, don’t do what I do?”  If they say that much, they might have half of the problem correct.

The Pharisees and the scribes were always trying to correct others - and they didn’t look into the proverbial mirror - at themselves.

As preacher I know I’m guilty of doing  this at times.

Sometimes after I finish a homily, I go through it and change all the you’s to we’s or I’s.

SPECK OR 2 BY 4

Jesus  knew this and said all this very clearly when he said, “Remove  the 2 by 4’s in your own eye first - instead of spending your energy seeing the tiny specks in your brother’s eye.”

People even did this to Jesus when he challenged him by yelling back at him, “Physician heal yourself.”

People got this message when they dropped their rocks when Jesus said at them, “Those without sin, cast the first stone.”

Jesus told us to stop judging each other.

TODAY’S FIRST READING

In today’s first reading Jesus tells us what to see in the other.

See the good stuff. To live with peace  and in “grace” with each other.

Here in 2 Thessalonians, we are called to be thankful for the others around us.

We’re  called to  have faith - a faith that is growing.

CONCLUSION

I’m not  saying in this homily that we can’t say something to another.

Today we’re celebrating the Feast of St. Monica who challenged her son Augustine to straighten his life out.

She succeeded - her tears and her prayers worked  - and we have the great St. Augustine.


August 27, 2018


JUST FOR A MOMENT

You bad mouthed me 
in public - just a blast 
of words - but I’ll be honest - 
why not - your comments hurt. 

So if you want to talk 
to me in private - just for 
a moment - but I’ll be honest - 
I’ll forgive you - either way. 


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018


August 27, 2018 


Thought for today: 

“You  cannot  make  people  do  things they are  incapable  of  doing.”   


Robert Mueller

Sunday, August 26, 2018


STAYING  OR  LEAVING?

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 21st Sunday in Ordinary Time [B]  is, “Staying or Leaving?”

Question mark.  Notice I have a question mark after that word, “leaving”.

In this homily, I’m asking the question: Staying or leaving?

IT’S  A BASIC LIFE QUESTION

Staying or leaving is a very basic life experience.

We’re at a wedding or a picnic or a family get together. Do we stay or leave? 

We’re at a movie and it’s horrible. Do we get up and leave - or stay till we see those wonderful two words: “The End.”

And sometimes - we don’t want the party or the celebration to end.

We were at a Bowie Baysox baseball game two weeks ago. It was a double header. Bowie was playing the Richmond Flying Squirrels.  It’s the mascots.

The 3 of us during that second game got the thought at some point: “When are we going to get moving?”  Someone finally said it out loud, “Have we had enough?”

Couples know the signals - looking at the door, the watch, the Iphone, seeing others getting up, the yawning, seeing the eyes - seeing if they are saying,  “Let’s get going.”

I learned in listening to people:  when they take their car keys out, it’s close to closing time.

TODAY’S READINGS: STAYING OR LEAVING

I hear that question in today’s readings.

We’ve been listening to  the 6th Chapter of John as our gospel reading for 5 Sundays now. Today is the finale: stay with Jesus or leave Jesus.

And the decision is based on whether a person accepts or walks away from Jesus. Do we accept Jesus as the Son of God -  as the Bread of Life - as the Precious Blood of God.

Jesus says, “This is a hard choice. This is a hard saying.”

Jesus is asking his disciples,  “Where do you stand on me - with me?  Are you going to stay or are you going to leave?”

And the last paragraph in today’s gospel begins, “As a result of this, many of his disciples returned to their former way of life and no longer accompanied him.”

Today’s first reading from the Book of Joshua has Joshua gathering together all the tribes of Israel and asking everyone that day, that moment, “Decide whom you will serve: the gods your fathers served beyond the river or the gods of the Amorites in whose country you are now dwelling.”

And Joshua makes the preemptive choice: “As for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

In today’s second reading from Ephesians the staying or leaving question shows up in marriages - in the hearts and minds of husbands and wives.

I know a lady in Ohio who calls up her local church every time this reading about wives being called to be subordinate to their husbands is the reading for the following Sunday. She calls around Wednesday.  I’m sure the parish secretary has no clue what the priest for the following Sunday is going to do.  I would assume that it doesn’t make any difference to that woman that this letter to the Ephesians  is challenging husbands in this same reading to love their wives - to hand themselves over to their wives - like the church is called to be subordinate to Christ.

I would assume it wouldn’t make any difference if this woman was told that of course that was the attitude in the Mediterranean basin in the 1st century and is today in many places.  If I was asked,  I might comment, “I like to jokingly say, ‘Why don’t we make God female and only females as priests, bishops, popes, for the next 2000 years and I’m sure things would be different.”

I wouldn’t say - but I’d be tempted to say, “The reason we don’t have female priests is because in some places, they want at least one male present.”

Why do we stay or leave?  That is the question.

LETTERS TO THE PASTOR

I’m sure pastors and bishops got a lot of letters in the last week or so about the horrible abuse of children, teenagers, and cover ups in our church.

I said last week from the pulpit that when the Pennsylvania news reports came out, it wasn’t an easy day being a priest.

Father Tizio gave us a letter from a couple leaving the parish and the church because of all this.

I wonder how many other people in our church - in our country - are asking that same question: to stay or to leave.

I’ve been talking to 3 people this year - who are looking to come into the church. Because of their jobs and schedules,  they can’ t make our RCIA program - which we be starting soon in preparation of coming into the church next Easter.  Will they ask and address this question?

THE EDGE OF A RAZOR BLADE

To stay or to leave is sometimes like being placed on the edge of a razor blade.

I am thankful for  whoever it was in my family line in Ireland who started going to church. The answer to that that question is not listed in my DNA - Ancestry Dot Com.

I remember hearing from my mom about her house in Ireland - which was right on the waters of Galway Bay. She said, “In the morning I could stand of this big grey flagstone at our back door and I could stick my big toe into the water.”

When I finally got to Ireland for the first time in 1995 and saw where my mom was from, I found out that my mom’s house was down - but that grey flagstone was right there - with water lapping it.

When I looked around at the rocks - lots and lots and lots of rocks - I remember my mom saying, “Ireland has nothing.”  She was glad she went to Boston around 19 years of age - and began a new life in America - working as a hotel cleaning woman, then a maid at the Adam’s Hotel.

About 3 years ago - by luck - I heard a wonderful story that they carted away the stones from my mom’s house - when they tore it down and used those stones for the foundation of the new church in that area.


Tully Church Inverin

I heard that and said to myself, “I’ll use that for a homily some day.”

Today is my chance. I’m glad my mom and dad - both  from Ballynahown, County Galway Ireland - but got married here in the States - that they stayed in the church and passed that faith down to us 4 kids.

My mom knew of the weaknesses in priests and people.

When I came home from the seminary for the first time, first vacation, when I got off the train, my dad seeing me so thin  said, “You’re not going back, are you?” I said, “Of course I’m going back.”

Like most priests - especially seeing the negative stuff in our church - as well as seeing so many priests leave - [9 out of the 16 ordained in my class left - 2 came back] - at times I’ve asked, what many married people have asked, what many Catholics have asked, “Stay or leave?”

Obviously my answer is the same answer the disciples at the end of today's gospel gave: "Master, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and are convinced that you are the Holy One of God."  

Now that's a creed!

CONCLUSION

I’ve always liked the comment: “An old lady in Jersey City once said, ‘The 5 marks of the Catholic Church are: it’s one, holy, Catholic, apostolic and it survives its clergy.’”

August 26, 2018

WHY  TEARS?

I still haven’t cried at my mother’s death -
a hit and run accident - way back on
April 7, 1987…. Why? Why? Why?

I cry at movies - like The Natural and
It’s a Wonderful Life, Dr. Zhivago and
songs like,  “If I Had a Hammer.”

I cried at my father’s, my brother’s
my nephew’s, my sister’s death,
but I still haven’t cried at my mother’s

Why?
Why?
Why?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2018



August 26, 2018 

Thought for today: 

"It is better to be a has-been than a never-was.” 


C. Northcote Parkinson [1909 - 1993]