Sunday, May 14, 2017


WHAT IS GOD LIKE?


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 5th Sunday After Easter [A]  is, “What Is God Like?”

What is God like to you?  How would you describe God?

Pause! Breathe! Close your eyes! Open your mind! Feel! Open your ears! Hear the musical heartbeat of God in all of creation. The universe - the stars - the oceans - inner and outer space - is an orchestra violining - oboeing - trumpeting an Ode to Joy to and with God.

ASK AND ANSWER THAT QUESTION

What is God like?  

We ask that question from time to time - especially when things go wrong.

We also ask that question when things go right - like when we're seeing a great sunset - like standing on the rim of the Grand Canyon - or the edge of the Atlantic at Ocean City at sunrise - all alone with God -  like realizing how great our mom is and not just on Mother’s Day - or we’re at the graduation of a kid we never figured would  graduate and she graduates with a 3.5 average - and each parent says, “It's my genes.”

The title of my homily is, “What Is God Like?”

OTHERS

When a son or a daughter announces they met someone they really like - someone they are very interested in, parents, brothers - but especially sisters, friends back home, ask, “Well, what is he like?” or “What is she like?”

When we get a new boss, a new neighbor, a new pastor, a new president, a new FBI director, people ask, “Well, what is she like?” - “What are they like?” - “What is he like?”

When I have a funeral and I don’t know anything about the person who died, I go “Uh oh!” 

Then I try to find out something about the person who died.  I look at the pictures in the funeral parlor. I ask those showing up for the wake, “What was so and so like?”

So when I’m at a funeral, I want to know more about the person who died.  I don’t like the impersonal. I want to hear a good eulogy. I want to preach a sermon that brings in the person who died.  I don’t like to preach with a one sermon fits all persons' sermon.

What am I like? That’s what I’m like. That’s what I like to do.

What are you like? What do you want people to think and say about you at your funeral?

So when I’m doing a funeral,  I ask at the funeral parlor or over the phone to a family member: Introvert? Extrovert? Quiet? Orchestra leader or stage hand?  Where did they work? Fun to be with? Favorite pie?  Favorite ice cream flavor? Where were they born? I want obituaries.  Sometimes there is no wake or no obituary. Bummer.

And it’s nice to get a thumbs up - after a funeral - that I captured in words and comments - the person who died.

Since this is Mother’s Day, let me add: I was honored to celebrate my mom’s funeral - and preach the homily. I loved telling the story how we caught her two times cheating in cards - and she was good at cards. I loved telling the story that my sister Peggy suggested to my mother to get a volunteer job - and she said, “Are you crazy? There’s no money in that.” Then I added that she loved making money to give away money - especially to her grand kids.

The title of my homily is, “What Is God Like?”

In the flow of this homily I want to be moving from the “What is another like?”  question to the “What is God like?” question.

TWO  QUICK STORIES

First story. I’m driving home with the funeral director from the cemetery - after a  funeral. 

This happened years before I came to Annapolis - so this was not here. We priests or deacons have to be very careful with that one.  

The funeral director says to me: You know why his wife asked you to do his funeral?  

I said, “No!”  

“Well,” the funeral director said, “his wife knew you didn’t know him and he was a blankety, blank, blank, blank. And she knew you’d say something nice about him.”

In other words - at that funeral - I described someone who wasn’t the someone he really was.

Second story.  I’m in Lima, Ohio, at St. Gerard’s Church - the place I was stationed before I came here. 

My job there was to be on the road most of the weeks of the year preaching - with a guy named Tom. It was a great job. In 8 1/2 years doing that, we got to know Ohio.

Well, this one day, we were home.  A call came in from St. Rose’s Church about 8 blocks away from our church. It was 9:30 AM  and the pastor at St. Rose  got suddenly sick and they needed someone for a 10 AM funeral. Our secretary called and I drove down there fast.

I get into the sacristy. It’s now 10 to 10. I ask a lady in the sacristy. “Who died?  Man or woman?”  

She was a woman.  

"What was her name?” I asked, 

“Did you know her?” 

The sacristan said, “No clue.” 

So I shoot out into the church and ask folks off to the side, “Does anyone here know the lady who died?” 

I didn’t want to go to family waiting in the back with the casket. I would have done that at the funeral parlor.

So someone said, “That lady over there might know something about her.”

So I asked that lady, “What was so and so like?”

She told me that the lady worked in Kresge’s which later became K-Mart.  She worked in the hat department. She was non-descript there. But, when the lady in the candy section retired, this lady got that job. Well, all the kids loved her because she was generous and she really knew kids.”

I ran back to the sacristy, got the Bible story about the man in the marketplace who was super generous to everyone - packing on more and more wheat or flour in every  purchase. [Cf. Luke 6:36-38]

Well, after the funeral mass someone in the family said, “Thank you. Wow! You really knew my mother!”

The luck of the Irish. I kissed the Blarney Stone.

NOW THE QUESTION: WHAT IS GOD LIKE? ATTRIBUTES OF GOD

The title of my homily is, “What is God like?”

The theologians say, “God is perfect. God is all knowing.  God is all powerful. God is the Creator. God is without boundaries - without limits. God is eternal.”

They are  some of the so called, “Attributes of God.”

They don’t grab me. That’s like saying, “My grandmother is perfect.”

I’d add one of life’s most important questions, “For example?”

"For example why do you say your grandmother is perfect?"

QUESTIONS

So when it comes to answering, “What is God or another like like?” I like to ask questions.

For example, “Does the sky ever end?  I like to stand outside at night and look into the sky and ask God, ‘Does this ever end?’ Or, 'How far out does all this go?'”

For example, I like to ask, “God, why did you make mosquitoes and hippos and sharks?”

For example, I asked God at the funeral of a 3 day old baby two Saturday’s ago, “Why did she die when she died - after just 3 days?”  And then I add, “God what’s your take on all these horror stories that are on your evening news from all over the world today?”

I've think of God answering, "Me too, I wonder about all this." Or "I cry!" Or, "I'm powerless over people pulling triggers."

GOSPEL OF JOHN

Today’s gospel is from John 14: 1-12 - and that’s what triggered the why of this homily.

In the gospels - especially John - I love the message, “Want to see the Father, want to know the Father, know me.”

So Jesus is the answer for me what God is like.

When I read the gospels, I listen to the gospel with that in  mind.

So Jesus was an observer. He took the time to see the birds of the air and the flowers of the field. So God takes the time to smell the roses. Does God look at the petals of a red rose and say, “Nice job?” or does he say, “Nice job - Mother Earth.” [Cf. Matthew 6: 26-34.]

I picture Jesus spending his 20’s - not just working in the carpenter shop, but when he was working on fixing up a  house, he was listening to what was going on inside a house. So Jesus knew that in every family there are people who were not talking to people.  And I see that is one reason he told the story of  the Prodigal Son - in which the older brother won't speak to his younger brother.  So God knows about family fights and what have you. [Cf. Luke 15: 11-32.]

Jesus liked to spend time with two sisters, Martha and Mary - and their brother Lazarus. So he knew sisters can sometimes he catty and itchy towards each other. He knew that in every house people complain that they get stuck emptying the dish washer and cooking the meals - while the other loves just sitting there watching the soaps. I assume that’s a why of the Martha Mary Story. [Cf. Luke 10:38-42; John 11: 1-2.]

Jesus knew that sometimes people run out of food and money.  The wine runs short at weddings - so Jesus helps when people are stuck. So too we are inwardly urged as uncles or aunts or older brothers or sisters to slip a $20 to a kid - who is going Six Flags or where have you. [John 2: 1-12; Matthew 14: 13-21.]

Jesus knew losing an only son is horrible, so he reached out to a widow who lost her only son. [Cf. Luke 7:11-17.]

Once more, in today’s gospel, Philip says to Jesus, “Master, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.”

And Jesus said to Philip, “Have I been with for so long a time and you still do not know me?” “Whoever has seen me has seen the Father.”

So too he urges us to do that and when we do that, we’re show people what God is like - because that’s how Jesus is.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is, "What Is God Like?"

First answer: See how Jesus is.

Second answer. See how we are when we are like Jesus. Amen.



May  14, 2017



ASK MOM

What do we do when we
run out of wine?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of marriage?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of baby sittters?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of understanding?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of smiles and laughter?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of faith?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of hope?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of charity?

Ask mom.

What do we do when we
run out of money?

See your dad.


© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017
Cf. The Story of the Wedding Feast 
at Cana of Galilee, John 2: 1-12




Saturday, May 13, 2017

May 13, 2017



UNASSUMING

Impossible….

To be unassuming is
impossible….

Assumptions:
we all have them....

Trees bud ….
Bugs bug ….
Spring arrives ….
Birds return ….
Birds eat bugs….
The phone rings….
People bug us ….
They surprise us....
They want us ....

It's Saturday morning 
and we have to get moving
and they have nothing else to do....

At least these are
some of my assumptions
and they are not
impossible….

© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017


Friday, May 12, 2017


SAINT  PANCRAS 
TRAIN STATION IN LONDON

When I was taking the train from London - through the chunnel - under the English Channel - to France and Belgium, I was intrigued that a train station in London was named, “St Pancras Train Station.”



Today, May 12, is the feast of St. Pancras, so how about a few comments about that train station with the name of a saint in it?

With a little research I found out that the station was built right near St. Pancras Church in London.

Next question: how did a Roman teenage boy saint and martyr get recognition in England.

Answer: Pope Gregory the Great - 567 to 633 - sent a  missionary named Augustine [who became Augustine of Cantebury - c. 534-604 - no,  not the famous Saint Augustine of Carthage] - along with relics of the martyr Saint Pancras. Various churches in England were dedicated to Saint Pancras - one of which is the Old Church St. Pancras in London.

That’s the story in about about 60 words. While waiting for the train for Brussels  at St. Pancras station I noticed the big bronze statues - especially of the poet John Betjeman - who wrote poems on the trains coming to and from that station.



That's John Betjeman - with his brief case - probably looking up at the train schedule.

Wrong hand dummy!

Notice also the couple kissing hello or goodbye in the station. If you ever get there, check out the images at the base of that kissing couple as well.















OH,  SAY WHAT YOU SEE


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this final St. Mary’s high school Mass for this school year is, “Oh, Say What You See.”

If you go to a Baltimore Orioles game - and other many games in Maryland, when they sing the Star Spangled Banner - the crowd likes to yell out that “Oh!”

The title of my homily is, “Oh, Say What You See.”

The title of many of our frustrations is, “Oh say can’t  you see what I’m seeing?”

The title of many of our family arguments and relationship problems is, “Oh!  Can’t you see what I see?  Oh! Can’t you see, get, understand, how I see this?”

COMMUNICATION

Life is saying what we see - what we perceive - what we get.

What do we talk about when we talk about life?

We tell each other what we’re seeing.

So and so is dating so and so.

Teacher X is fabulous. Teacher Y is so so. Teacher Z is interesting.

Did you see who’s pregnant? She looks so beautiful. He looks so happy.

I hope to see St. Michael’s this weekend. We’re sailing down there on Saturday morning. I hope the weather will be okay - but nice and windy.

I hope we see some dolphins.

I hope the weather is clear. On a clear day you can see forever.

We spend our whole life  looking. We spend our whole life go figuring - first telling ourselves what we’re seeing - and then we tell others.  It’s called “thinking”.  It’s called “communication”. “It’s called “life.”

The 3 rules for a good marriage are: communication, communication, communication.

The person who came up with that must have saw people not communicating.

The person who came up with that must have people seeing differently that each other - wearing different glasses, contacts, eye balls.

SCHOOL

School - education - learning is all about learning how to see.

Schools are vision centers.

When we go to the eye doctor or a vision center they show us these letters through these prisms - which is better, this or that, this or that.

We hesitate - but sometimes that is much clearer.

When we are learning - we are learning is this picture better than that picture - that vision.

Our eyes change as we go through life.

Do all of you see better in May than what you saw last September - and that seeing includes your family, your friends, life, the environment, a sport, chemistry, calculus, society, social studies, God, your neighbors, and money?

Every year St. Mary’s, St. John’s, the Naval Academy, and all the schools of Annapolis, have folks coming back for anniversaries.

We all see differently at our 25th anniversary than we saw when we graduated or got married.

A couple of years ago I went with two classmates to go through Montana for two weeks - a drive through vacation - to see the Lewis and Clark spots on the 200th anniversary.  The 3 of us talked about what we saw in the 3 different spots we served: Clem in Brazil, Tom in the Caribbean, and myself in the United States.

“Oh, say what you see.”

It was a great vacation - and we saw a lot more than Montana.

ROOMS

In today’s gospel from John 14: 1-6 Jesus says, “In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places.”

That’s talking about the hereafter - which we imagine - but nobody has ever seen.

At the end of today’s gospel Jesus tells his disciples, his followers, “I am the way, the truth and the life.”

If I hear Jesus saying anything, he’s telling us how to get to heaven.

If I hear Jesus saying anything, he’s also telling us how to see better - how to see ways of doing life better - in the here and now.

If I see the purpose of St. Mary’s Schools - it’s that we all see Jesus’ way of doing life.

Looking back on what I’ve seen in life, I’ve seen young people come to the edge, the threshold of many dwelling places - they stand there and look - to see what they see in that room.  Their faces sendoff signals and messages - that I see with my eyes and my face. Smiles or scowls. Votes: Yes or No.

I see them whisper and head out the door.  They didn’t see anything they liked or what the leader liked.

I remember a mother telling me about taking her son to different high schools to see which one he thought would be a good fit. He didn’t like what he saw in the first school they visited.  He said to his mom, “These are not my people.  The next place was perfect.  He saw what he liked - and said,  “Now these are my kind of people.”

What do you see?

You go to different colleges to see what you see.

Sometimes your parents see differently.

Sometimes you have to, you better see, with your wallet or pocket book.

Young couples get jobs around here. Where to life. They see Annapolis - the water, the streets, the bars, the red bricks, the schools.  As priest I hope they see the churches - of whatever religion they belong to.

What do you see.

If you’re in a room you don’t like, if you’re with a leader, you really don’t like, do you have the courage, to get out of there and find a better room.

I’m a priest, I saw priests and I liked what they were doing, so I entered that room - that dwelling place.

If I didn’t choose being a priest, since I like writing, I think I could see myself as a newspaper and magazine writer reporter. Actually I ended up being able to do both.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is, “Oh Say What You See.”

How do you see yourself now - at the end of another school year.

How do you see your summer.

How do you see next year.

How do you see yourself in 25 years.


How do you see yourself entering heaven - and how do you see God seeing you.
May 12, 2017


COMING INTO THE THEATER

Coming into the theater for a movie, concert
or play, there are those dark maroon
soft - low chairs. If it’s a movie, people
are talking quietly. If it’s a concert or a play,
the talking is a bit louder - but not big loud.
There’s also more lights and a sloping floor.
If it’s a movie,  the theater  has more stairs
or steps. Anticipation and expectation are 
in the air. These feelings - these thoughts - 
are like the semi-dark rugs on the floor.
We know the décor. We know the lights
will start to get lower. We know all this
comes with the knowing - that we’re in for
an evening different than most evenings.
And everything is always better because
we’re in this together with each other.
Open the curtains. Start the music. Begin the 
movie. The lion roars. The show must go on.


© Andy Costello, Reflections  2017

Thursday, May 11, 2017



PRAYER TO MARY

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
since the Lord is with you
teach me how to pray,
teach me how to ponder
God’s inner words to me,
teach me how to say,
“Be it done to me
according to your word,”
teach me how to see others
especially those who are empty
and those who are in need,
teach me how to be present to those 
who feel they are walking
their way of the cross all alone
and to be there for them
now and at the hour
of their death. Amen.

© Andrew Costello
Painting by Moulins