5  LEADERSHIP SKILLS

[This was a short talk I gave at 2015 COSA - Convocation and Induction of New Officers for the Council of Student Affairs of St. Mary’s High School in Annapolis, Maryland - 8:30 AM September 25, 2015.]

INTRODUCTION

I was asked to speak 5 minutes on leadership.

Someone said, “Leadership is the art of getting others to do something you want done because they want to do it.”

There are 3 types of leaders: elected, appointed, and natural.

Some of you are elected. All of you are called to be leaders in your own way - with your own unique gifts and blessings.

Yesterday, the Pope, told the elected leaders of our country the following: Lead - be humble - work for the common good of all - especially the poor and the powerless - practice the Golden Rule - avoid polarizing.

I have 5 minutes - so I jotted down 13 qualities that a leader needs - and then I picked 5.

So here comes 5 Leadership Skills - in 5 minutes or less - and we have a lifetime to work on them by putting them into practice.

1) LISTENS

A leader listens.

A leader has to believe every person has a voice and a vote - and he or she has to hear those voices. In other words, “Every person matters!” as was the theme last year in our school and St. Mary’s Parish.

Listen and look for future leaders - by listening to all - and bring them on board the ship called, "Leadership."

A leader has to listen and then give back to a speaker what the leader thinks the speaker is saying. He or she gives back the speaker's comments by saying something like this,  “Is that your point?” or “Let me see if I have it correct what you’re saying.”

If you’re not listening expect dissension and complaints and things not working.

What drives me crazy is to go to a meeting and sense that those who have the voting power already have their minds made up.

A few years back at the Anne Arundel County Council there was a hearing about implementing “Work Force Housing.” Someone in the area asked people in various churches to come to the hearing and voice our opinions - when this proposal came up. We had been at a meeting where Workforce or affordable housing was brought up - especially for nurses, police, teachers, etc. We also went on a bus ride to a few sites in other counties where there was Workforce Housing.  The sites looked great to me. 

I went and stood on the line at the A.A. county meeting when this proposal was discussed. When I had my chance I said into the microphone, “I don’t believe you are really listening to us. I think your vote and your minds have already been made up.” Then I sat down.

By the response of the elected members I knew I got a reaction. I don’t know if it got any of the officials seated up front to change their vote, but they heard my comment.

Too many times have I heard leaders say, “We want your input.”

Too many times in life I have experienced leaders who have not listened.

A leader wants the input of the group. 

Better a leader goes to the different members of the group and asks, “What do you want?”  A leader says things like, “Bob or Brenda, you haven’t said anything. What do you want?”

Listening is not just with the ears. It’s also with the eyes. Yogi Berra said, "You can observe a lot by watching."

So # 1: Listen! This would be my longest and most important message. 

2) HAS A PLANNING METHOD

I think a leader needs to have a planning method.

There are many. The one I use is called the Power Cycle.

It has 4 steps: Evaluation, Recommendations, Decision and then Action.

First Step: Evaluation looks backwards up to the present moment. The leader tries to gather information about what is going on - what has been going on - the good, the bad and the ugly. Leaders - elected and natural  have to evaluate what folks are saying and what they want - beefs and hopes.  

Second Step: Recommendations look to the future. The leader listens to not only what has been going on or not going on, but to what the group recommends.

There are tons of them. Listen for the, “Why don’t we’s? Why don’t we? Why don’t we? Recommendations are voiced. Leaders have to spot them.

The next time you see the movie, Remember the Titans, listen to various people making suggestions.

Third Step: Decisions. Notice the word "cision" in decision. Notice - as in scissors, incision. To decide is to cut lots of recommendations that have been suggested because of the evaluation. Pick the best recommendation - either by voting - arguing - deciding.

Fourth and Last Step: Action. Just do it.

Then go through the power cycle over and over again for the good of all on what happened - what worked and what didn't work or what didn't happen.

3) SERVE - GET TO WORK - GET SWEATY - PUT IN THE TIME.

The third step is to serve - to give - to get it done. Ego’s must go. Service and work is what leadership is all about. The first should be last - leaders are the last to leave - making sure things are put away - garbage is put in garbage bags - and maybe even brought out to the dumpster - lights are turned off - and doors are locked.

4) EXPECT DIFFICULTIES

Expect mistakes, difficulties. Expect selfishness and stupidity.  Expect the cross.  Expect conflict. Herbert Bayard Swope once said, “I cannot give you the formula for success but I can give you the formula for failure —which is, 'Try to please everybody.'”

5) SAY THANK YOU

Say “Thank you” and say it a lot and say it to a lot of people - and mean it - feel it - appreciate it.  Remember - as in football - it’s not me, me, me. It’s “We, we, we” all the way to the goal. Touchdown

Thank you.

September 25, 2015

LEADERSHIP

You ask me,
"What do I think about the pope."

My hopes about this pope are these -
that people will say and people will think:

"He's a leader. I could follow this guy."

"I gotta get back to church, synagogue,
temple or mosque!"

"Oh, that's what church is all about."

"Uh oh! I'm a lost sheep on some of this."

"Baa, baa, baa, please find me!"

"Ooops I'm lost I gotta get found."

(c) Andy Costello, Reflections 2015

Check Luke 15

September 24, 2015

SUNRISE - MOONRISE

All alone - early morning - the first to put

my footprints on the brand new canvas - of

this brief edge of ocean - walking along

listening to the lapping of the water -

like the tongue of my chocolate lab -

at his silver bowl - walking along - before

the many more footprints of this day -

the sun to my left - out there rising up

from the ocean sky - before the heat -

before the simmering heat - before

the long of this day - and Lord, you give

me this day - this gift - and I’ll walk along

this same silver beach tonight - in the moon

light - thinking about the all of this day -

the first day - and all is good - and all is,

“Thank You God - in the cool of this evening!”

© Andy Costello, Reflections, 2015

September 23, 2015

POTATO  PEOPLE

Potatoes are a hard dry brown crop - needing

to be dug up out of the dirt brown earth. They

are not pretty or attractive and delicious looking

like a plum or cool yellow green grapes or a rich

red apple. Potatoes are like the necessary people.

And look at the hands of the potato diggers.

They are not the pretty people - the types that

make People Magazine. Nope. But they are

the necessary people - the many of the earth.

Did you know potatoes are the fourth largest

crop on the planet - right after maize. wheat

and rice? Did you know that they too immigrated

from western South America and have been

on the move ever since - planted all over the earth?

And like the poor and the unpretty, potatoes are

placed on dinner plates off to the side - never

the main feature. Yet they are as necessary

as the waiter or waitress bringing us the meal  -

or those who dig the potatoes or those who

help transport them all around our world.

Lord teach me to see the potatoes I eat and

that I see the poor of the earth when I walk

this earth - this rich brown ground beneath me.

© Andy Costello, Reflections, 2015

Painting in middle, The Potato Harvest,
(1855) by Jean-Francois Millet

Painting at bottom, The Potato Eaters
(1855) Vincent van Gogh

GO  REBUILD  MY  CHURCH

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 25^th Tuesday in Ordinary Time is, “Go Rebuild My Church.”

I chose this title and theme for two reasons. 

First of all, today’s first reading from Ezra 6: 7-8, 12b, 14-20 is all about the Jews coming back from exile and are rebuilding the temple. They receive help from Cyrus and Darius and Artaxerxes - Persians -which ironically is present day Iran. The temple had fallen into the need of big time rebuilding.

And in biblical texts - like Ezra -  we find out there was a lot of complaining about how the temple was being repaired.

So for a quick homily for today I’m grabbing that theme of rebuilding.

POPE FRANCIS - VATICAN II

The second reason for this theme is that Pope Francis seems to have rebuilding in mind. In a church this big we certainly need reform - change - upkeep.

Pope Francis would be very aware of Francis of Assisi hearing the voice, "Go rebuild my church" and how Francis first thought it meant rebuilding San Damiano.

In time he learned it was the call to renew the whole church - and Francis and Franciscans certainly did that.

I’ve been reading that Pope Francis -  Jorge Mario Bergoglio - is a pope who experienced Vatican II  - a rebuilding council - like most of us.

His take on this is that  Vatican II was a rebuilding - reforming - renewing Council. That was 50 years ago.  There were major changes in our church - starting with Pope John 23. The windows of the Vatican were opened and fresh air blew in.

As I read about what happened after Vatican II, I could hear many reads on all this. One strain and strand was that there was recentralization during Pope John Paul II’s years.

Decentralization was dropped. Recentralization was in.

Some people want top down management. 

Some people want grass root bottom up management.

Control can be a big issue for some.

I’m hearing and reading that Pope Francis wants to get back to our roots in the Vatican II decisions and documents about aggiornamento - rebirth - renewal in our Church.

In other words to get back to the restructuring fostered at Vatican II - much of what in my judgment was grassroots up.

At Vatican II things changed in our church - on the floor - at the meetings - coffee breaks - and in the chit chat after the formal meetings.

The documents that were presented at the beginning of Vatican II were much different than the documents promulgated after discussions, arguments, meetings during the years of the council that ended in 1965.

ONE CLEAR EXAMPLE

Vatican II decided that the Mass, the Liturgy, should be of the language of the people at the local level.

This happened - but with objection - and foot dragging here and there.

In the English speaking world out came missals that had a translation that worked. However, an even better one - would  be in the works.

The key principal was to come up with a translation that had a “dynamic equivalence with the Latin text.”  

That was 1973 mandate.  In the early 2000's,   other people - in the Holy See changed the principle to have a translation that had a “formal equivalence with the Latin text.” The Holy See said it had to be a translation in the most exact manner.

By 1998 a new English translation of the whole missal - the Sacramentary - was completed. In the meanwhile the official group was replaced. A group of 8 [I’m not sure of the number and the particulars of all this] came up with an alternative translation - that becomes the official translation - the one we now have. It seems to me that the key value was to get it as close to the Latin as possible.

To me - I am stressing me here - this is my opinion -  the reason why we priests stumble and mumble some of the new Mass prayers - is because it’s a clumsy translation.

I didn't mention all this from the pulpit in this sermon - because I don't like the bully pulpit.

And I don't usually go with the blog bully pulpit.

However, I want a church where we are free to give our opinions and to have peers disagree. I believe a blog is a fair place to try to state and then to clarify some of these personal thoughts.

I wait for the day our new Roman Missal will be put on a shelf in the sacristy.

Then, either the old books are brought back, or the new translation is used or an even better translation into English - for our English speaking world is broadcast.

To make a very small point, take the creed.

The Latin word "Credo" means "I believe".  After Vatican II that was switched to “We believe”.

That was a significant change in Church thinking and believing.  We are the Church. It’s not just the Pope or the Bishop or authorities - it’s a WE.

Well, it seems, the Latin purists didn’t like that change in the Creed from I to we - in language and maybe in thought - as well.

I believe - or better I assume - the above - because I believe some of it was done in the back room - from on top - from decree.  I would have wanted the ICEL - the International Commission on English in the Liturgy  - that replaced the ICEL group that was “fired” to have to sit up front at a big table with microphones and be questioned.

My first question - if I could be in this interview session - would be, “What Latin to English dictionary did you use?”

If anyone answered that question, I would say, “Why that dictionary? Are there any other dictionaries you are aware of?”

I would want to know and ask what questions that “Special Secret Committee” on the English language translation from the official Latin text asked.

I would want to know if anyone asked: “Should we bring in writers, language experts, poets, translators, culture experts, etc.?”

I would want to know if anyone on this committee heard of Ernest Hemingway - and his style of writing: short sentences, short words.

This is my beef. This committee stuck on the rest of us this tongue twisting translation. I state once more: "IN MY OPINION."

I want to know if this committee had anyone who said regular mass in an English speaking parish. Did they? Were their test runs? Were there feedback possibilities?

I heard a bishop say that some bishops fought this Second ICEL group. It was no contest. Minds were made up. You couldn’t win. “The boys on top want it this way. Sorry.”

I read Bishop Trautman of Erie, Pennsylvania complain, complain, complain about this “horror” as it was happening.

WHO’S LISTENING?

So for one key way to rebuild our church, I would list as # 1 - that we be a listening church.

I look at the Pope’s ears. They are big and they look like they work.

He’s coming to the United States this week and he’ll give lots of speeches and there will be excerpts in our papers and on our television sets.

We'll hear Catholic social doctrine. We'll hear that  we need to be a welcoming church. We have to be a forgiving church. We have to be an understanding church.  We have to be a church of mercy.

I want us to be a LISTENING CHURCH.

I know this pope listens.

I want him to hear my  complaint about the New Translation of our Mass and various other things. I would want him to hear my questions. We have to say Mass every day and every day when I say Mass I say to myself, “Enough already. We can do better than this. We have done better than this.”

I hope he knows that the German Bishops and the German Church have resisted this nonsense translation from the Latin.

We didn’t. Ugh!

I want a pope who hears beefs - especially my beefs.

Don't we all?

People ask me what I think about the pope coming to the States.

I say out loud, “I hope he listens.”

I know he does. In the conclave, when he was elected pope, a friend of his - Cardinal Claudio Hummes of Brazil - came to him and said, “Congratulations!” Then he added, “Don’t forget the poor.”

Pope Francis said he heard that and that’s one of the key reasons why he chose the name Francis.

CONCLUSION

So in this homily I’m saying: want to rebuild the church, listen to each other.

Husbands, wives, children, families, parish, priests, people, rich, poor, let us listen to each other.

As we heard at the end of today’s gospel, “My mother and my brothers [and sisters] are those who hear the word of God and act on it.”

September 22, 2015

DUNES

Dunes like so many people

silently resting there without

saying anything - mystery -

a rusty red wooden wire fence

blocking others out - simply

saying, “No comments” - yet

the wild grass and wild flowers

sprouting up in the hump of the

dunes keep saying, “I’m here -

hanging on - for dear life.”  

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2015

WANT  TO  KNOW 

WHERE  POPE  FRANCIS 

GETS  HIS  MESSAGES? 

CHECK OUT THIS SCENE AGAIN 

AND THEN WATCH THE WHOLE MOVIE.