SAY OUR FEW WORDS

Quote for Today - July 6,  2013

"I want no more than to speak simply, 
to  be granted that grace ...
and it's time to say our few words
because tomorrow the soul sets sail."

George Seferis [1900-1971] 
An Old Man of the River Bank [1942]

Question:  If you want to say one thing before you die, what is it?

OLD  AGE

Quote for Today - July 5,  2013

"There's no such thing as old age; there is only sorrow."

Edith Wharton [1862-1937], A Backward Glance [1934], A First Word.

MERTON 

ON  A  DEEPER 

FREEDOM 

Quote for the Day -  July 4, 2013

FREEDOM

"A superficial freedom to wander  aimlessly here or there, to taste this or that, to make a choice of distractions (in Pascal's sense) is simply a sham. It claims to be a freedom of 'choice' when it has evaded the basic task of discovering who it is that chooses."

Thomas Merton [1915-1968], Love and Living, 1979

A COMMITTEE

Quote for Today - July 3, 2013

"A committee should consist of three men, two of whom are absent."

Herbert Beerbohm Tree.

Comment: This quote was in the bridge column in the Annapolis Capital - which often has great quotes. So it's from "Win At Bridge," by Philip Alder, Annapolis Capital, Monday, July 1, 2013, page B7. It describes Herbert Beerbohm  Tree this way: "an English actor and theater manager who died in 1917...."

DON’T LOOK BACK

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 13 Tuesday in Ordinary Time  is, “Don’t Look Back!”

When I read today’s first reading, I heard - loud and clear - that simple imperative command: “Don’t Look Back!”

I would guess many  homilies for today’s readings  will stress that theme - because it’s worth thinking about - and we’ve heard it 100 times.

Okay, some preachers will go with the gospel and stress having faith in Jesus - to be able to ride out the storms of life.

LOT’S WIFE

I’m sure every other year when we have this first reading from Genesis, I think about this story of  Lot’s wife - who looked backwards and as a result she was turned into a pillar of salt.

I read somewhere that there are pillars of salt in various desert areas that look like people - and I’m sure this story came out of someone’s imagination - as well as life experience - and like the other great stories in Genesis, this story has one of life’s great messages: Don’t get stuck in the past.

I’ve been in several car situations when a back seat driver started giving orders to the driver - not to worry about the person who is on your back - or on your tail. Don’t look back and let him get you antsy and angry. Pay attention to the traffic in front of you.

We can get stuck in the rear view mirror - in the past - and as a result it effects our present moments as well as our future.

LOTS OF PEOPLE - NOT JUST LOT’S WIFE

Before I came to Annapolis, I spent 8 ½ years preaching parish missions - mostly in Ohio. I’ll never forget the woman a pastor and an associate in some parish - asked me to visit in a nursing home. It wasn’t confession. In fact, I wish it could have been that - and Christ would forgiver her of something she had done I guess in her life.  She was stuck in a tape recording - she was going to hell. She said that 50 times in a 30 minute visit. I tried to tell her God does not have a pitchfork and when we die, he pitchforks lots of folks into hell. That night at supper they asked how I did. I said, “No luck!” They said: Sorry it looks like nothing can help her. Woo. I wished when she got her dementia big time, she got stuck on a forgiving and loving God - instead of an angry God.

So it’s lots of people - not just Lot’s wife - who look back  - and keep looking back - and they get stuck in their past - especially past mistakes.

Today’s gospel has folks in a boat and they are filled with fear - and they don’t trust in Jesus. It takes faith to accept forgiveness and move on to the future.

When we make a mistake - say or do the wrong thing - we can get stuck in our mistake. It  can affect our ability to listen - to be aware of what’s going on in the present moment.

We’ve all heard Satchel Paige’s comment: “Don’t look back. Something may be gaining on you.”  It’s from his book, How to Keep Young  [1953].

Don Baylor, another baseball player - and then a manager, said,  “In baseball you can’t let losing carry over to the next day. You’ve got to flip the page.”

CONCLUSION

At coffee breaks, at cocktail parties, as well as hors d’oeuvres time, people tend to walk away from those who are old story tellers - especially if we’ve heard the stories 1,000 times - or they are exaggerations.

While at the same time, there are of course story tellers who are interesting.

And of course it’s important to be in touch with our past.  After all, these very scriptures are filled with stories - and they give us a common memory. Aren’t we here at Mass - doing all this - in memory of Jesus?

However, the Lot’s wife’s story give us the warning or not getting stuck in our memories - instead of living our lives forwards. 

THE PAST CONTINUES

Quote for Today - July 2, 2013


“The past is not dead. In fact, it’s not even past.” 


William Faulkner  [1897-1962]

LET THE DEAD

BURY THEIR DEAD

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 13^th Monday in Ordinary Time is, “Let The Dead Bury Their Dead.”

In yesterday’s gospel, we had Luke’s version of this same saying and scene we have in today’s gospel from Matthew.

At least 5 people - if not 7 people - made comments to me about this text. That means they heard it. Some thought it was too tough. Some wondered why it was okay in yesterday’s first reading for Elisha to go home and kiss his parents goodbye and then come follow Elijah - and then Jesus seems to be saying the opposite.

On Saturday morning, one of the men of the parish who visits our jail on Jennifer Road read the readings for yesterday with some of the Catholic prisoners and what hit a few of the men was,  “Jesus is too harsh!”

I read several commentators on the text and most say they are not sure just what Jesus was saying, other than saying, “Stop putting excuses in the way of following me. Drop everything and start following me - and start living and proclaiming the kingdom.”

It could also be a local saying - or everyday proverb - that everyone would get. You don’t have to be knitting of sewing - for someone who is putting off going to the doctor - or fixing a leak in their house - to hear, “A stitch in time saves nine.”

It doesn’t have to be raining - for someone to hear the saying when they are having lots of troubles, “It’s raining cats and dogs.”

MARRIAGE AND FAMILY

I noticed in marriage preparation literature - folks talking about not letting one’s family get in the way of one’s marriage.

Couples might mess up their relationship - when one is spending all their time with their parents or sister or brother - to the neglect of one’s own spouse.

Couples with children - better not neglect each other - by not noticing the other - just the kids.

Balance, awareness, communication - along with dedication are called for.

A DEATH IN THE FAMILY

A woman once said to me that she had a choice when her husband died - to jump into the grave with him - and pull the grass over her - or mourn, cry, and get moving again.

Any of you who have had a long sickness in the family - know how draining that can be.

This week - 150 years ago - 11,000 died at Gettysburg. I have to read Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address again with today’s gospel in mind.

Being a priest - I’m aware how much closeness to one’s family - especially when a parent is sick - is a factor. It’s also difficult when one is far from home. It adds to the difficulty factor when one is an only child. Being a priest one hears the stress and the anger at times when one person in the family feels they are doing everything for an aging parent and the other brothers and sisters are doing nothing.

It’s often not simple - but very complex.

Of course it is human to bury one’s parents and mourn one’s dead. Hey Jesus said in the Beatitudes, “Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted.”

So when Jesus says something tough - like “Let the dead bury their dead”  - we need to know there are other sayings of Jesus to look at.

CONCLUSION

When Jesus died - there was Joseph of Arimathea and Nicodemus - asking and showing up to bury him. Most of his disciples were buried - as if dead - in the Upper Room. So Jesus had someone to bury him. Then the women went to the tomb - so the gospels are very aware of the human need to bury the dead - and hang around tombstones. [Cf. John 19: 38 to 20: 29]

We have to balance all that with the need to not get buried by death - but to come to live with Resurrection and hope - for living life to the full now and in the hereafter - not in some tomb.