DO YOU LOVE ME?

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 3 Sunday after Easter - C - is, “Do You Love Me?”

Perhaps the best way of doing this homily would be for everyone here in the church to come up to the microphone one by one and ask, "Do you love me?"

At first some might yell out to the person who asked the question, "Yes!"  

Then as everyone began hearing everyone ask the question, I can hear the answer getting louder and louder and louder: "Yes! Yes! Yes!"

It would take a bit of time, but I guarantee it would be the one sermon you would remember for the rest of your life - not the following homily, I'm about to preach.

Once more, the title of my homily is, "Do You Love Me?"

Today’s readings have various topics and themes to think about - to pray with - to preach about - to be challenged with - too, too many in fact.

SOME QUESTIONS

What do these readings say to you in your life today?

·        Whom do I obey: God, Self, Others?  [First Reading]

·        Am I scared or hesitant to be labeled a Christian - a follower of Jesus? [First Reading]

·        Am I here at Mass to praise God - to sing praise to the Lord, to give thanks to God? [Psalm Response]

·        When I praise God - when I praise the Lamb - do I say a loud “Amen” and see myself saying that with every creature on earth and under the earth and in the sea, with everything in the universe? [Today’s Second Reading]

·        What have I caught in my life or have I come up empty? [Today’s Gospel]

·        Whom Do I feed? Who has fed me? [Today’s Gospel]

·        Do I hear Jesus - and how he has forgiven me the times I have denied him - like Peter denied Jesus? [Today’s Gospel]

·        Do I hear Jesus’ question: “Do you love me?”

ONE TOPIC - ONE THEME

Today I’d like to think about the “Do You Love Me?” question.

It’s a topic and a theme we all deal with all the time - knowingly and unknowingly - sometimes down deep more than other times.

I sense it’s the number # 1 motive in life: to be loved and to love.

Who loves me? Whom do I love?

Remember that was Kojak’s question: “Who loves ya, baby?”

[LONG, LONG, LONG PAUSE]   Who loves you?

A sermon on this topic can impact us.

I can never forget a scene I saw on a late night talk show when Sammy Davis Jr. was asked, “Why do you always say to people, ‘I love you”? And he said that he had a buddy whom he loved, but he never told him he loved him. The buddy was killed in an accident. So Sammy Davis said he made a life resolution: “If I love someone, I’m going to tell them ‘I love you!’”

My mom and dad loved us four kids big time. It was never an issue with me. However,  I didn’t remember them specifically saying that. I know it was a big issue for some people. I used to call my mom every Sunday - my father had died way back in 1970. So that Sunday night after hearing Sammy Davis Jr’s comment on why he said, “I love you!”, I said that to my mom at the end of my phone call, “I love you”, and she paused and then said, “Love you!”

I did that every Sunday - and every Sunday I got the “Love you!” but never the “I” in the “I love you.” 

On the night before my brother was to have his cancer brain tumor operation from melanoma, I called him in the hospital and said, “I love you!” and he said back, “I love you too!” Those were his last 4 words to me - dying the next day after his brain operation.

Who loves you?

After having been on a lot of high school retreats - and having listened to a lot of today’s kids and people, there are a lot fewer comments from people saying, “My parents never told me they love me?” We have improved on that - as well as the hugs.

BIG DISTINCTION: ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS

When it comes to love, we all know that there is a big distinction between words and actions.

Actions speak louder than words.

In fact, if people say they love us, but rarely show it - or show indifference on lack of caring - the words, “I love you” can become a trigger for anger or frustration.

Moreover, we’ve all heard in many sermons - especially those on today’s gospel - the Fiddler on the Roof commentary about “I love you” - when Tevye asks his wife, Golde,  if she loves him. She can’t say the words. She can only talk about what she does for him. Tevye won’t give up and keeps asking her. At one point in the song - in the play - she sings,

Do I love you?
For twenty-five years I've washed your clothes
Cooked your meals, cleaned your house
Given you children, milked the cow
After twenty-five years, why talk about love right now?

She still won’t say it.

He asks again and she answers, “I’m your wife.”

He answers back, “I know… But do you love me?

She answers - sort of to the audience,

Do I love him?
For twenty-five years I've lived with him
Fought with him, starved with him
Twenty-five years my bed is his
If that's not love, what is?

Tevye says, “Then you love me?”

Golde answers, “I suppose I do.”

Tevye then says, “And I suppose I love you too.”

Then both end the song with these words,

It doesn't change a thing
But even so
After twenty-five years
It's nice to know.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

So Jesus fiddles with his disciple Peter at the lakeside here at the end of John’s gospel and asks him 3 times, “Do you love me?” “Do you love me?”  “Do you love me?”

And three times - Peter answers with growing frustration: “You know I love you!”

And three times Jesus tells Peter to do what Jesus did, “Feed …. Tend …. Feed my sheep.”

CONCLUSION

Obviously the Church, the family, every marriage would work - if everyone loved one another - gave of themselves to one another - totally like Jesus did.

Obviously we who come to Mass to come to communion know this: we come here to be fed, to be loved by Jesus and to then use that energy to love one another. Amen. But it’s also nice to hear it every once and a while.

EARTH

Quote for Today - April 14, 2013

"What is [the earth] most like? ... It is most like a single cell."

Lewis Thomas [1913-] The Lives of a Cell [1974]

THERE'S A WIDENESS 

IN GOD'S MERCY 

Quote for Today - April 13, 2013

"There's a wideness in God's mercy
Like the wideness of the sea;
There is a kindness in His justice
Which is more than liberty."


Father Frederick William Faber [1814 - 1863]

O O O O O O O

Here is the whole piece by Father Faber - a convert from Anglicanism and into the Catholic Priesthood.

Notice verse 6 - where you can see the Redemptorist Motto: Copiosa Apud Eum Redemptio - from Psalm 130

O  O  O  O  O  O  O

THERE'S A WIDENESS IN GOD'S MERCY

1. There's a wideness in God's mercy,

Like the wideness of the sea;

There's a kindness in His justice,

Which is more than liberty.

2. There is no place where earth's sorrows

Are more felt than up in Heaven;

There is no place where earth's failings

Have such kindly judgment given.

3. There is welcome for the sinner,

And more graces for the good;

There is mercy with the Savior;

There is healing in His blood.

4. There is grace enough for thousands

Of new worlds as great as this;

There is room for fresh creations

In that upper home of bliss.

5. For the love of God is broader

Than the measure of our mind;

And the heart of the Eternal

Is most wonderfully kind.

6. There is plentiful redemption

In the blood that has been shed;

There is joy for all the members

In the sorrows of the Head.

7. 'Tis not all we owe to Jesus;

It is something more than all;

Greater good because of evil,

Larger mercy through the fall.

8. If our love were but more simple,

We should take Him at His word;

And our lives would be all sunshine

In the sweetness of our Lord.

9. Souls of men! why will ye scatter

Like a crowd of frightened sheep?

Foolish hearts! why will ye wander

From a love so true and deep?

10. It is God: His love looks mighty,

But is mightier than it seems;

'Tis our Father: and His fondness

Goes far out beyond our dreams.

11. But we make His love too narrow

By false limits of our own;

And we magnify His strictness

With a zeal He will not own.

12. Was there ever kinder shepherd

Half so gentle, half so sweet,

As the Savior who would have us

Come and gather at His feet?

Lyrics: Frederick William Faber
Music: Lizzie Shove Tourjée

DIVINE  MERCY 

Quote for Today - April 12,  2013

"The French scholar and Christian,
Frederick Ozanam, 
once said that if God has,
as of course He Has,
some mysteries 
yet unrevealed to us,
no doubt they are secrets of mercy."

Susan L. Emery, The Inner Life of the Soul, 1903

YOU WON’T FIND A RULER 

OR A MEASURING CUP 

IN GOD’S KITCHEN 
 OR TOP DRAWER

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “You Won’t Find a Ruler or a Measuring Cup in God’s Kitchen or Top Drawer.”

I was intrigued by a sentence - as well as a word - in today’s gospel - - that I don’t remember ever noticing before. That’s the beauty of being able to reflect and read and preach on the daily readings.

The sentence is in John 3: 34b, “He does not ration his gift of the Spirit.”

Using the full text,  John 3:34 says, “He” - namely Jesus - the one God the Father sent “does not ration his gift of the Spirit.”

The word “ration” hit me. I did a little bit of research on the text - and my guess was right:  it’s rare - very rare. Raymond Brown, the Sulpician, who was a world famous authority on the scriptures - and especially The Gospel of John - said this in the only place the thought can be found in Greek literature. That’s quite a statement. But he says that it can be found a bit in the Jewish writings of the prophets - where God is said to portion out his Spirit.  Ray Brown wonders if the author of John is making that contrast. [1]

So that’s a profound message: God does not give just glasses of cold water. God gives waterfalls and oceans of water. God doesn’t just give bits of the Holy Spirit - God gives unlimited gifts of the Spirit - God doesn’t just send gentle breezes, God sends wind that shakes houses and shakes lives.

Any takers?

GREEK WORD

The Greek word in the text is “metron.”  It’s first meaning would be “measure”. The text is saying that in Jesus the Spirit was not rationed. It was just poured out on Jesus and Jesus poured that love out on people - without limit - without measurement - without ration.

Our text is a bit creative - translating “metron” into English by the word “ration”.  Other English translations use the word “measure.”

Now even though the word “ration” or “measure” or “metron” is only found here in John 3:34b, the theme of the overabundance and overflowing - and the beyond measure love of God - is a Bible theme.

I love that the Redemptorist motto is “Copiosa apud eum redemptio” - With him there is fullness, copious, unlimited forgiveness - buy back by God redemption.” We Redemptorists forget this at times - but it’s always there to challenge us - which mottos are supposed to do.

Jesus preached this theme big time in his great parables - like the Prodigal Son and the Lost Sheep - and you can enter the vineyard at the last hour. Jesus preached this from the cross - forgiving those who killed him.

The Risen Lord Jesus broke through locked doors and locked minds to share forgiveness and peace and resurrection to his stuck in what they had done disciples.

St. Paul preached this theme when he talked about the unfathomable, inscrutable riches of Christ. [Cf. Ephesians 3:8.]

CONCLUSION

When you stand under the shower, make it a morning or a night prayer - being washed - and having the Spirit of God baptizing and rebaptizing you each morning or each night. Take a rosary and use the 59 beads to simply say, “More, More, More,” on each bead. It’s a 1 minute rosary or “Thanks, Thanks, Thanks”, on each bead and feel God without measure - without a measuring cup - pouring his love on you. Amen. 

NOTES:

[1] Raymond E. Brown, The Anchor Bible, The Gospel According to John, I-XII, Vol 29, page 158

DIVINE  MERCY 

Quote for Today - April 11, 2013

"We may imitate the Deity
in all his moral attributes,
but mercy is the only one
in which we can pretend
to equal him.  - We cannot,
indeed, give like God,
but surely we may forgive
like him."

Laurence Sterne [1713-1768]

Picture: A synagogue in Budapest

DIVINE  MERCY

Quote for Today - April 10, 2013

"Among the attributes of God,
although they are all equal,
mercy shines with even
more brilliancy than justice."

Miguel de Cervantes [1547-1616]