FAVORITES

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Friday in the Second Week of Lent  is, “Favorites.”

This is one of my favorite themes: favorites.

I love to ask parents who have more than one kid, “Who’s your favorite?”

The first response is usually a blocking hand [Gesture] and then, “I have no favorites.”

The second response is often, “I love them all - but differently.”

The third response is sometimes, “The one I’m with.”

The fourth response is sometimes, “The one who needs me the most.”

The fifth response - but only later on - and usually out of ear shot of all the kids - and often one to one -  and often with a bit of hesitation - and sometimes with lowered voice, “Joey! I always loved Joey. He is my favorite.”

TODAY’S FIRST READING

Today’s first reading from the first book in the Bible, Genesis 37: 3 begins quite bluntly and without hesitation, “Israel loved Joseph best of all his sons” and then the author gives the reason, “for he was the child of his old age.”

So he makes Joseph a long tunic. It’s the famous coat of many colors.  Then the story quickly gives the plot, the conflict, the turn, the twist, “When his brothers saw that their father loved him best of all his sons, they hated him so much more that they would not even greet him.”  Bummer!

Then when they see him coming from a distance - his father had sent him to them when they were sheperding out in the fields -  they plot to kill him.

The Book of Genesis has many key stories. This one ranks up there near the top - because it’s tells us how the Israelites get to Egypt.

And today’s story ends with them not killing him, but selling him for 20 pieces of silver.

We know Jesus is sold out for 30 pieces of silver. The price of betrayal  had gone up.

The Joseph story is great story telling. That’s why it has been preserved in the Writings - the Sacred Scriptures.

The bottom line is that the tellers of the story are not mainly concerned with favorites - but with how God saw Israel as his favorite - and how he rescues them from their slavery in Egypt - the key theme of the second book in the Bible, Exodus.

And I’ve heard Scripture Scholars saying that Creation is not the favorite theme of the Bible. It’s Redemption. The key book is Exodus not Genesis. Genesis just sets the scene.

Where we are from, who are parents are, our childhood, our growing up, that’s all setting the scene stuff. Exodus - Redemption - Starting again after our falls - after finding ourselves addicted to self, money, sex, drugs, youth, or whatever,  that’s when real life begins.

Want to be God’s favorite: mess up. Become a lost sheep - a lost Son - a lost coin with God’s image stamped on us. [Cf. Luke 15]

THE CHANGE - CONVERSION STORIES

I remember visiting a couple once. The kids were grown up and gone. The husband was sitting there in the living room - within ear shot of his wife - who was pulling together the last stuff of a supper salad. He says to me, “I married her because she was beautiful. I married her for sex. Then after two years I had to change. I had to stop being a jerk. I had to turn off the TV and be attentive to her and talk to her.” In that first sentence his wife yelled from the kitchen - her husband’s name - when he said he married her for sex. Translation: shut up. But she lit up at the second part. He came to his Book of Exodus.

Most people who consider the movie, The Natural, as one of their favorite movies,  knows the scene when Roy Hobbs [played by Robert Redford] is in a hospital bed in a maternity ward. Iris Gaines [played by Glenn Close] says to Roy Hobbs - who is feeling horrible for what he did to her in his life and what he had done to ruin his life. As it is worded in the novel by Bernard Malamud from which the movie was based, Iris says to Roy, “We have two lives... the life we learn with and the life we live after that. Suffering is what brings us towards happiness.”

There it is:  the story of how life works.

7 CONCLUSIONS

Here are 7 conclusions on this theme of favorites:

Of course we don’t say to one kid over the other, “You’re not my favorite!” or “So and so is my favorite.”

Sometimes we say to every kid, “You are my favorite” - so that long after we’re gone, they’ll discover at some Thanksgiving Dinner we said that to everyone - and they laugh at it.

If we aren’t the favorite, maybe we didn’t do what is right and there is work and self growth called for.

Of course teachers, neighbors, friends have favorite friends, neighbors, co-workers, teachers. We do. They do. Get over it.

We have our favorite priests etc. etc. etc. I love the saying about priests and others, “One third like you. One third don’t like you. One third don’t care.”

We have all heard the saying: “Be yourself!”  Well, there’s a healthy, “Be yourself” and an “Unhealthy be yourself!” It’s unhealthy if you are insecure and you do things to buy friendship or to try be the favorite or what have you. It’s healthy if you after 25 buy the saying, “Be who you is, because if you be who you ain’t, then you ain’t who you is.” And then you don’t care who’s the favorite. It’s nice to be, but it’s also nice to not have to work at it as a motive.

God has his favorites. The poor. The downtrodden. The dumped. The hurting. The Sinner. So the key thing is to bring to God into our conversations about where we stand in life with ourselves and our God.  Maybe through suffering we need to learn to say to God what Teresa of Avila said to him - when asking him, “Why do you let me suffer?” And God said, “Because that’s how I treat my friends.” And she said back to God, “Well maybe that’s why you have so few friends.” Ouch!

FUTURE

Quote for Today  March 1, 2013


"The future is not what it used to be."   


Paul Valery [1871-1945]

INNER ADULT

Quote for Today - February 28, 2013

"The pursuit of the Inner Child has taken over just as the moment when Americans ought to be figuring out where their Inner Adult is, and how that disregarded oldster got buried under the rubble of pop psychology and specious short-term gratification."

Robert Hughes [1938-2012] Culture of Complaint, Oxford University Press, 223 pages, 1993

COMPLAINING

Quote for Today - February 27,  2013

"I personally think that we developed language because of our deep need to complain."

Lily  Tomlin [1939-  ]

HUMILITY - JOB #1 FOR A POPE!

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Tuesday in the Second Week of Lent  is, “Humility - Job #1 for A Pope!”

There’s all kind of stuff in the papers - this and that - positive and negative - about this upcoming election for a new pope.

The Capital called Day 1 for comments from a priest here at St. Mary’s. I’m glad I wasn’t asked - because a) Down deep I don’t know enough of what is involved in all this and b) I’d probably  make some kind of a cute statement which would be a dumb statement in the long run.

Since then I’ve been thinking.

In one sermon I said, the Number 1 requirement for a new pope is that he proclaim Jesus Christ - not himself. The pope is an important symbol to our world - of our Catholic faith - and from what I read - more for U.S. Catholics than other places. He himself has to see that Jesus is the reason for the whole institution. I see that Pope Benedict in his writings was quite Jesus centered.

I also put on my blog a fun piece - having the Cardinals getting deadlocked - for 100 ballots - so they decided to ask the whole church for what they want and on the 101^st ballot they came up with a total surprise. They don’t pick a cardinal. Nobody noticed my blog piece and I haven’t been called to the Vatican to explain.

If asked to explain, I would simply say that I was just being cute - while at the same time very serious.

What would you consider the top qualification in a pope?

The title of my homily is, “Humility - Job #1 for A Pope!”

HUMILITY

St. Bernard said - I assume with a smile on his face and a twinkle in his eye - that  the 4 Cardinal Virtues are humility, humility, humility , humility.

I’d say humility has many ingredients. Here are 4: being human, having a sense of humor, being honest, and having a sense of horror. Human, humor, honesty, and horror.

Humility comes from the word “humus” earth - from which God formed us from the clay, the mud, the soil of the earth. On Ash Wednesday we heard we’re made from earth and we’ll be going back to earth. And the food we eat - that becomes us - some more than others - comes from this earth to make us who we are.

To be human is to recognize this. We leak. We flake. We crumble. We are humbled by our slow sinking feelings - heading on the long journey to the grave.

Humility then is being down to earth - human.

Pope John XXIII comes to mind for me with this quality. He was born of a peasant sharecropping family in Northern Italy. He had farmer’s hands. You probably heard this story: A soviet diplomat and his wife came to see Pope John XXIII. The pope handed the diplomat’s wife a rosary. When he placed the rosary beads in her hand, she said to her husband in Russian, “Look, he has the hands of a worker, he is one of us!”  Of course she did not expect this peasant-pope to understand Russian.  He did - along with French, Greek, Bulgarian, Turkish, as well as his native Italian. These were skills he needed and picked up in his work as a diplomat himself. He also got his doctorate in Church History and knew the Fathers of the Church well. So he was smart yet quite human - which to me is a key ingredient to being humble.

Next John XXIII  had a good sense of humor. You’ve heard his comment when made pope he looks in the mirror in his new outfit and says, “My God, this pope is going to be a disaster on TV.” Being able to laugh at oneself is key to being humble.

Next honesty is part of humility. If the church needs anything it’s honesty.

Lastly, part of humility is to have a sense of horror. Horror happens in this world -  in this life: suffering - craziness - war - abuse - hunger - the haves having the advantage over the have-nots. We need to be able to cry - not just laugh.

CONCLUSION

Today’s two readings say all this a thousand times better than I just put it.

I wish they were electing the pope today and the boys had to hear today’s readings.

The readings have a call to humility in them.

The first reading - Isaiah 1: 10, 16-20 - talks about the call  to get things right - to put an end to sin - cease doing evil - start doing good. Make justice your goal. Defend the widow and the orphan.

The gospel - Matthew 23:1-12 - calls for humility - enough with the tassels and the titles - front seats - and public show.  Honors are not one of the H’s for humility.

John XXIII called for cutting down the robes and stuff - and Benedict put some of this stuff back - but his red shoes were not Prado’s - in spite of that report.

Humility. Humility. Humility. Humility - a la Jesus.

These boys and all of us ought to be praying the old prayer of the Church to Jesus: “Jesus meek and humble of heart, make my heart like unto thine. Amen.”

HUMILITY AND HUMOR

Quote for Today - February 26,  2013

"You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself."

Ethel  Barrymore [1879-1959]

Questions:

Had your's yet?

Please describe - especially to a spouse or close friend.

Did that cause another good laugh?

ON HEARING THE “BOOS!”

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this Monday in the Second Week of Lent  is, “On Hearing the Boos!”

Do umpires and referees hear the boos?

We’ve all been to a basketball, football or baseball game and the referee or umpire was booed.  Bummer!

We hear phrases like, “Throw the bum out!” “Horrible call ump!”  “You’re blind!” “Get a pair of glasses!” and phrases we can’t repeat.

Nobody likes to be booed.

ARMANDO GALARRAGA - NO HITTER

On June 2, 2010 in Detroit - Armando Galarraga was pitching a perfect game for the Tigers - no runs, no walks, no errors. 26 batters - 26 outs - in a row. One batter to go.  Up comes Cleveland’s Jason Donald who hits a ground ball which would be the final out. The umpire calls him safe at first base. The crowd screams, “No way!” Etc. Etc. Etc.

Shortly afterwards - but too late -  the umpire, Jim Joyce, said he made a mistake and apologized to the pitcher. The baseball commissioner, Bud Selig,  would not reverse the call and say it was a no-hitter. Detroit won the game 3-0 - but Armando Galarraga does not go down in history for pitching a no hitter and a perfect game.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

In today’s gospel from the 6^th chapter of Luke, Jesus speaks about one of his key themes: not judging.  [Luke 6: 36-38]

Jesus tells us to be merciful as his heavenly father is merciful.

Jesus tell us to  “Stop judging and you will not be judged.”

Jesus tell us to  “Stop condemning and you will not be condemned.”

Jesus tells us to “Forgive and you will be forgiven.”

Jesus tells us “For the measure with which you measure will in return be measured out to you.”

Evidently Jesus spotted a lot of judging going on.

BOOS

The title of my homily is, “On Hearing the Boos!”

Life’s a game!

There are plenty of players on the field as we sit here in the stands judging the plays.

We all do a lot of umpiring - refereeing, officiating - on how our brothers and sisters are behaving.

Too bad we didn’t hear God booing us!

Last night was the so called, “Woman’s Super Bowl” the Oscars. I didn’t watch it. However, I read in the papers various articles that voiced complaints about the Oscar voting for last night - before and afterwards.

There was that big call at the end of the Raven’s Super Bowl game.  If the ref called “holding” the Ravens might not have won that game - but then there were those other calls that went against the Ravens.

If our movie or team doesn’t win or get the call, then we boo.

But we don’t hear any boos for our judgments about how we see people behave, how people dress, what people  wear in church or on stage, where people sit in church, or what have you. I know I’ve made lots of bad calls.

CONCLUSION

The title of this short homily is “On hearing the Boos.” I wanted to examine our calls - our judgments - on others.

We haven’t walked in our neighbor’s shoes. And when we make a bad call on someone, maybe we should have the courage to say, “I blew the call! I made a mistake!”

And surprise, the more forgiving we become, the less judgmental we become, the more we become like God. 

Ooops! I would also suspect - how unGodlike of me to be suspicious - that some people would boo me for saying that. Yet I suspect - if we become that forgiving - that God like - others will knock the heck out of us. Hey they judged Jesus and threw him out of the game by crucifying him. Expect as much.