Thursday, November 15, 2012

AUTOBIOGRAPY



Quote for the Day - November 15,  2012

"There is not psychology; there is only biography and autobiography."

Thomas Szasz,  The Second Sin,  1973



Questions:

Have you ever thought of writing your autobiography?

Have you ever written out  25 "I am _________" statements?

Have you ever asked another to write out who they see you are?  

Has any one ever asked you do write out your take on who they are?

If you've ever written a journal or diary - at any point in your life - do such books still exist and can you put your hands on them right now?
THE TRUTH BE TOLD

Quote for the Day - November 15, 2012

"It has long been my belief that in times of great stress. such as a four-day vacation, the thin veneer of family wears off almost at once, and we are revealed in our true personalities."

Shirley Jackson, Raising Demons, 1956



Comment: Thanksgiving is coming. Is this why some love it and some think, "Uh oh!"?


AVERAGE  FAMILY

Quote for the Day  - November 14, 2012

"The average family exists only on paper and its average budget is a fiction, invented by statisticians for the convenience of statisticians."

Sylvia Porter, Sylvia Porter's Money Book, 1975
THE "WHY?" 
OF LIFE

Quote for the Day - November 13, 2012

"There's a time when you have to explain to your children why they're born, and it's a marvelous thing if you know the reason by then."

Hazel Scott, in Margo Jefferson, "Great (Hazel) Scott!", Ms. November 1974

"God! Hmmn?"

Monday, November 12, 2012


SIN HAPPENS! 
FORGIVENESS TAKES 
AN EFFORT

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 32 Monday in Ordinary Time is, “Sin Happens!  Forgiveness Takes An Effort.”

Both readings for today point out that sin happens - mistakes are made - even by those in charge. [Cf. Titus 1:1-9]

Both readings point out the call for not sinning - especially not giving bad example to the little ones. [Cf. Luke 17:1-6]

The gospel points out the call to forgive. Now forgiveness is work. Forgiveness takes effort. It doesn’t just happen.

Sin silently and slowly happens - like water becoming hard ice cubes in the freezer part of our refrigerator. I was going to say, “Forgiveness is like filling up the ice cube trays. That’s one of those things that people seem to avoid. It’s more like a chore. However, the image and or simile limps when compared to the image of ice becoming ice cubes. Maybe comparing forgiveness is more like defrosting a freezer. That calls for effort and moving things around.

Today’s gospel has the number 7 in it - as in forgiving 7 times if 7 times are called for. It’s a number that appears with the theme of  forgiveness in the gospels. It must have been something Jesus said, because we find it in a couple of forms.

FORGIVENESS AND SIN:  SOME GENERALIZATIONS

We know what sin is and what forgiveness is - so I have nothing new to say. Let me toss out a few common thoughts about both - clichés and other wise comments.  Maybe one thought will trigger some thoughts in you - where you need to look at both sin and forgiveness.

Sin is tricky. Sin is at times, an, “It all depends.”

For some people, it’s easier to forgive our sins than to forgive others their sins.

For some people, it’s easier to forgive others their sins - than it is for us to forgive us our sins.  As priest I know that some people can’t let go of some sins from the past. It’s like having an expensive car - but then there’s that scratch. It scratches us every time we see it.  It’s like getting that ticket 27 years ago - and we still keep it on our record.  Bummer. Hint! Hint! The sin of pride might have snuck tagged along with a past sin - just to keep us humble. The sin of pride is a sneaky and becomes part of our repertoire of inner secrets.

So I’m seeing that one of the things I’m saying here is: “For different reasons,  it’s easier to sin that to forgive sin.”

Forgiveness is a choice - usually more of a choice than the choice to sin.

Forgiveness and sin - both are complex.

Then there is the sin of anger. Besides pride, anger is often part of the complexity of sin.

Sometimes the anger is directed at ourselves - for being so stupid.

Sometimes the anger is with others - because of sins against us. We’ve been hurt, accused, bullied, made fun of, been cheated on, by others.

So expect anger. It’s part of our story. To be human is to have anger issues in our life.

Anger can be heavy at times.

So anger and pride and not wanting to communicate are come alongs with sin. They are some of the quirks of being a human being.

FORGIVENESS TAKES TIME

Forgiveness is a choice.

Forgiveness takes work.

Forgiveness takes faith - which starts like a mustard seed - which starts with prayer.

Sometimes sins can be dumped in the sea like a mulberry tree - the one Jesus talked about in today’s gospel. We also heard about a mustard seed - so Jesus uses both these images. To me they are mixed up a bit in today’s gospel. We can forgive him - or whoever is doing the reporting of what Jesus actually said.

Forgiveness - most of the time - is a scar - and scars show us where we’ve been healed - as well as hurt - and we can scratch them in anger - or touch them and say a prayer of praise or sorrow about what happened and we moved on.

CONCLUSION

Today - November 12 - is the feast of St. Josaphat [c.1580-1623] - who is a witness to a long standing cut in Christian Churches - between the East and the West - with those united to Rome and those who aren’t.

Josaphat was axed - bludgeoned to death - by one Christian group with another.

From time to time the Eastern Uniate and Eastern Orthodox parts of our church - along with Rome and other groups - sit down to talk. It seems Jesus call for us to be united gets to folks. Both sides have to give. Both sides need to forgive and forget.

John XXIII had some of that in mind with Vatican II - more is needed. Time.

In the future expect calls for unity and signs of disunity.

However, life is déjà vu.  Expect fits and starts, failures and refusal to listen to each other.

I like the Truth and Reconciliation Model that was used in South Africa - it has worked at times. I like The Forgiveness Project in Cambodia. It too has worked at times. Check those 2 out on Google.

Sin happens. Forgives can happen, but it takes an effort and it takes time.
BOREDOM

Quote for Today - November 12, 2012

"Boredom is a vital problem for the moralist, since at least half the sins of mankind are caused by the fear of it."

Bertrand Russell [1872-1970], Life magazine, February 1970

Sunday, November 11, 2012



JUST SITTING,
JUST WATCHING

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Just Sitting, Just Watching.”

That’s what Jesus does in today’s gospel. Here’s how Mark put it, “Jesus sat down opposite the treasury and observed how the crowd put money into the treasury.”

Jesus just sat there. Jesus just watched there.

If I read the gospels correctly, if I read the life of Christ correctly, he did a lot of just sitting there and watching there.

I think that’s where he got his wisdom. That’s where he got his observations about life. That’s where he got some of his parables. That’s where he got his insights. Just sitting. Just watching.

The tradition is that he didn’t start his public life till he was around 30. So I sense he sat in synagogues and the carpenter shop and watched. I sense he sat in some spot near the marketplace and leaned against a wall and watched. I sense he watched the birds of the air and the flowers of the field - along with grapes and wheat - and how they became bread and wine. I wonder if he saw merchants cheating with the scales - and merchants who loved to give the extra. Did he see a  women dragged to the elders so that she would be  stoned  to death for adultery - and the man gets away with it? Did he see the Romans crucify someone along some road as a warning?

How about you? How good are you at sitting? How good are you at watching? Where is your best classroom? What are your insights so far? Where do you love to sit and watch? Is it the mall? Is it the beach? Is it at church? Is it an art museum. Did you ever just sit there and watch the people watch the paintings?

The title of my homily is, “Just Sitting, Just Watching.”

TODAY’S GOSPEL

In today’s gospel Jesus spots a poor widow coming into the temple and putting two small coins worth a few cents into the poor box or whatever box it was. He noticed the others coming in - and making a big show of what they were putting into the temple treasury. He noticed that they were noticed. He must of watched the self satisfied glow on the faces of the givers - as well as the “wows” of the watchers - and the non-noticing of the poor and the little people.

Jesus calls his disciples over and says, “See that poor widow - she just put in more than all the other contributors to the treasury. She gave from her poverty; they gave from their surplus wealth.”

Did he watch their facial reactions to that comment?

Someone remembered that moment and told that story and Mark got his hands on the story - for all of us down through the centuries to sit there and see it and watch it in our own minds - and see if we can take on Jesus’ take on life.

Jesus also saw the scribes. They are the ones who had education. They could read and write. They are the ones with the long robes - and the ones who got lots of recognition - and places and seats of honor - in public.

I love the humor in the Church making us priests  read this gospel text - we who have the long robes on - and get the comfy fat cat seat up front here in the sanctuary - and get recognition in the mall or Adam’s Rib - “Hi Father!” They make us read this reading out loud. Did anyone see my face as I read it? Did they see a “Gotcha!” in the wrinkles?

You can learn a lot by just sitting and watching. You can learn a lot by sitting and reading the scripture texts and try to figure out the scene and the situation - where Jesus noticed something he would talk about later.

HOW ABOUT US?

How about us? Where do we get our Ph. D’s in how life works?

Sitting here in church is not too bad as a place to watch.

Being priest I have great chances to see - if only I can learn.

Up front - here - I see a lot.

Like at weddings - I notice the moment when the bridegroom is the last man standing. The maid of honor has come down the aisle - the best man has left the bridegroom - and gone down the steps to meet her and  bring her up into the sanctuary. Then there is the pause. It’s a great pause - the moment that a lot of people have been waiting for. Sometimes a bride says she’s be waiting for that moment since she was a little girl. Then there is the music, “Here comes the  bride” or what have you and the bride and her dad come down the aisle. It’s at that moment the bridesmaids standing in the front row - facing the back - along with everyone else  - turn. I’ve noticed that they turn to see the face of the husband to be - when he sees his wife to be -coming down the aisle - dressed in  beauty - usually with her dad. A picture is worth a thousand words. That moment - that scene - is worth 10,000 words.

Is that the most beautiful she’ll ever be in her whole life? Yes and no? Do the bridesmaids want to see the joy in the bridegroom’s face? Of course and 10,000 more things. If the bridesmaids are married, do they remember their day? If they are not married, do they long for that day?

I see the face of the father of the bride - walking down the aisle with his daughter. I have learned that’s one of the 5 top moments in a father’s life. At that moment I always remember what a dad said to me here at a wedding at St. Mary’s. “Five years ago I was diagnosed with cancer and was told it was terminal. I said, ‘No way. I’m going to live to walk my daughter down the aisle for her wedding.’”  Then he added, “In this same church I walked her down the aisle in my arms for her baptism.” He told me this Friday evening at the rehearsal. I watched his face and his glow and his tears and his pride the next day at the wedding.

The title of my homily is, “Just Sitting. Just Watching.”

We have a lot of funerals and weddings here at St. Mary’s. During the eulogy at a funeral - during the readings at a wedding - I look out and look at faces. I figure that there are many here who are not Catholic or have dropped out of church. What are they thinking? What goes through their mind at a funeral, a wedding, a Mass? Are they here? Are they somewhere else?

I see little kids loving the moment of putting a dollar bill or the envelope in the basket. When I was a kid it was 2 cents if that.

What’s going on inside people’s minds when they get back to their bench after communion? I’ve observed lots of folks just sitting back at Baptisms - wondering - wondering  - wondering. When I see them, I wonder about what they are wondering.

CONCLUSION

The title of my homily is, “Just Sitting. Just Watching.”

I love airports and when I come to a red lights in a car - if it’s a busy intersection - with lots of people on the sidewalks. It gives me a chance to look around. I love to watch families - and couples and singles - folks at McDonald’s or Storm Brother’s Ice Cream or where have you.

There’s a learning moment there. A priest told me he was at a restaurant and he looked over and saw a family - a mom and a dad - and two kids. They all had their heads bowed in prayer. And he thought to himself, “Nice. Praise God!” Then he saw all four looked up when the waitress came to their table and all four had cell phones in hand. What’s the learning there?

There’s sight and there is insight.

Homework: what are your 5 biggest insights about life so far. Share them with each other - face to face - eyeball looking into eyeball.


NOTES:

Painting on top: James A. Christensen - 1988 - The Widow's Mites