WHEN TO SPEAK

Quote for the Day - September 28, 2010


"Don't talk unless you can improve the silence."


Vermont Proverb

STOP TO THINK

Quote for the Day - September 27, 2010

"It's hard to think at the top."

Stringfellow Barr [1888-1974] While teaching at St. John's here in Annapolis he helped develop the Great Books Program and Curriculum. He also taught at University of Virginia and Rutgers.

TWO BROTHERS

[This is a homily story for the 26th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year C. It's an attempt to bring the theme of not noticing Lazarus at our door indoors - into the family. We're all aware, hopefully, of some to the poor at our door - but since I was talking to young people at the Kids Mass and then our Teen Mass, I decided to go this way - to bring the story closer to home. The gospel reading is the story of Lazarus at the door in Luke 16: 19-31. So here's a story entited, "Two Brothers".]
There were two brothers. There were no others. They were an older brother and a younger brother – and okay – a mom and a dad – and grandparents, and neighbors and friends – but this story is mainly about two brothers. Such combinations exist in real life and in story. Like, “Once upon a time there were two sisters ….” but this story is about two brothers.

The older brother never really noticed the younger brother. Now of course, they were together in the same house – and on the same couch at times – and at the same table – and in the same car at times – but the older brother never acknowledged his younger brother. The younger brother was like the battery in the car – never really noticed until it dies.

In this story everyone loved the older brother. He would do anything for you – like you could call him up to pick up something on his way home from school or his job at a restaurant where he worked as a bus boy or “dish picker upper”. He’d do it. Never complained. He emptied the dish washer and took out the garbage without anyone having to ask him to. He was a good kid. Yet, there was one person he never did anything for: his younger brother.

The older brother would pat the dog – talk to his dad or mom – sometimes late at night – sometimes with his mom – sometimes with his dad – just sitting there at the kitchen table – doing nothing but talking and laughing. The older brother would drop in and see his grandparents – but he never noticed that he never noticed his younger brother.

These things happen. We can be blind – without knowing we’re blind – when it comes to certain people – sometimes someone in our own home whom we just don’t notice or interact with in any big way – as was what was happening in this story.

The younger brother was also very friendly – not as extraverted as his brother – but he was always there – doing younger brother stuff – and he kept on trying to reach out to his older brother. He’d say, “Hello” and “Hi” and this and that, but no – there really was no recognition ever. They didn’t fight and wrestle as most brothers do. They just lived there in the same house – an older brother never really noticing a younger brother.

Now this was strange – subtle – and unfortunate. And nobody really noticed it – except the younger brother. It wasn’t a dramatic “dissing” or dismissal or hatred of his younger brother. It was as this story unfolds – a nothing going on between two people – too bad.

Then something really sad and bad happened. The younger brother, Joshua, (did I tell you his name yet?), died at the age of 15. He was on his bike coming home from a baseball game – and this car – filled with teenagers ran a red light – swerved to miss another car – and hit and killed the younger brother. The 18 year old driver had been drinking – along with the 4 other kids in the car as well.

It was only then that the older brother, Jack, really realized he had a younger brother. The funeral was very painful. The next two weeks, two months, two years without their second son – without the younger brother – would prove to be a very tough time – for mom and dad and older brother – as well as grandparents, neighbors, teachers, coaches, classmates and friends.

About two and a half months after the funeral – the older brother was alone – at home – for a weekend. Mom and dad had a college class reunion in Wisconsin. That’s where they met 24 years ago. Now mom and dad were hesitant to leave the older brother home alone – now their only son – but he said, “Mom, Dad, go. I know how much you were looking forward to seeing your old friends. So please go. You two need to get out of the house for a weekend. Josh’s death is still weighing heavy on all of us. It’s been tough, really tough, so take a break. Get away. And relax about me. I’m a senior in high school now – and next year I’ll be in college – and I’ll be okay – and relax, I won’t have any wild parties and this and that.” So with that guarantee, and the trust they had in their son, Jack, mom and dad headed to the airport and a trip back to Wisconsin – for their 20th college class reunion – and a four day weekend.

Saturday morning the older brother went by his younger brother’s room. The door was closed. It had been that way since his death. Jack had gone by that door hundreds of times – but this time something hit him to go in and look around.

When nobody’s around, sometimes some people, look around.

They had always had separate rooms. Dad had a great job and then when they started school mom also got a great job. Money was no problem – so they had a pretty big house – and both boys always had their own rooms.

Nobody had gone into his room till now – except mom and dad when they went in there and into his closet to get his dark blue suit and a light blue shirt and a few other things for the funeral. That was it.

The room had a strange feeling. Obviously ….

Jack stood at the door and scanned the semi-darkness. Then he went over to the window and pulled the curtains open. It was a cold, clear day outside. He looked around the room. Everything was clean and neat. He saw his brother’s football posters. Joshua was a Giants’ fan – so there was Eli Manning - # 10 – in a big poster picture on his bedroom wall. Then surprise – Jack saw a picture of himself on a cork board above his brother’s computer. There he was in his Redskins jersey. Interesting. Both teams were not having a good year. He scratched his head. He couldn’t believe it. His younger brother had a picture of him the older brother right there at his desk above his computer.

“Wow!” he whispered.

Next he sat down and turned on his brother’s computer. Then when he came to the password – he realized this was as far as he could go. He shut off the computer and went downstairs – wondering what he was going to do for the day. He figured he’d probably call a few friends and do something interesting.

As he sat there in the kitchen the word “hacker” hit him. He got up immediately and went back upstairs to his brother’s computer. He figured he could hack his way into his brother’s computer – by figuring out the password.

He tried his brother’s first name first: Joshua. Nope no luck. Then his second name: Dylan. Nope. Then JD. Nope. Then Eli – then Eli Manning. Then Eli Manning 10. Nope. He tried a hundred more possible passwords. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. None worked.

He stayed at it for about an hour. No luck.

He went downstairs for lunch – but quickly went back upstairs with a sandwich. 12 o’clock. 1 o’clock…. No luck.

It became an obsession. Then out of sheer frustration he typed in his own name and surprise the computer opened. He was his brother’s password. Strange. Very strange.

And very nervously – with guilt – the guilt one feels when one is eavesdropping on other people’s conversations – or checking other people’s stuff. It was a basic human “No! No!” that haunted him. He found himself pausing and then asking himself, “Should I be doing this?”

Then he saw it – a file – a document – called, “Two Brothers.”

He opened it up and started reading it. He wondered what it was. An essay – a story – maybe something for school…? He wasn’t sure. He didn’t know.

He was hearing as he read his brother’s words – a voice from the dead – a voice from almost three months ago.

He read:

Two Brothers…. Their names were Jack and Joshua – ages 17 and 15…. They got along with each other all through the years, but neither really knew the other.

Me? I’m the younger brother – in a family of four – mom, dad, Jack and myself.

I’m the younger brother – always have been – always will be.

We were at church two weeks ago and the Sunday gospel story was about two brothers: a younger brother and an older brother. I listened up – because that’s us – and it seems that the two brothers never talked to each other. That’s us.

I wonder if the older brother at the end of Jesus’ story ever came into the house at his father’s insistence – and began talking to his brother and welcoming him home.

I wonder if we brothers will ever really talk to each other – like after Jack comes home from college – after he goes away to college and all that – like I see dad and his brother always talking big time when they see each other.

The priest in his sermon talked about forgiveness – and how it must kill fathers when their sons are separated – and not on speaking terms with each other. I sat there in church wondering what the older brother thought about after his younger brother left home way. In the story Jesus told we find out what the older brother thought the younger brother was doing. I wonder how he knew. This was way before cell phones and all that. I wonder what my older brother Jack thinks about me. So many times it seems like probably nothing. It seems he always behaves as if he’s an only child. I wonder if that is part of being the first child or what have you. I don’t know.
Jack stopped at that – and began crying – crying – all alone in that big house that Saturday afternoon.

He stood up and walked around. He went downstairs. Then he came back upstairs again. He read some more from his brother’s essay or story or whatever these words on his computer were.

He read:

Last Sunday we were at Mass again and the gospel story was about a rich man who walked by a poor guy named Lazarus every day. He never noticed him – and the poor guy was always starving and wished he had food from the rich man’s table – but nobody ever gave him anything. The dogs licked his sores – but there’s something missing in life – if all you can relate to is dogs.

Jesus said that both died. One went to heaven and the other one went to hell.

The rich guy in hell finally noticed Lazarus up there in heaven and asked Abraham to have Lazarus dip the tip of his finger in water – and come down to hell and touch and cool his lips. And Abraham said, “No can do. It doesn’t work that way.”
Jack then read these words in Joshua’s computer essay,

“Well Jack and I have this gulf between us – and it feels like hell at times – but please God – as we get older we’ll spend more time noticing each other. That would be heaven here on earth.”
Tears. Tears. Tears. Sadness. And Jack then typed into his brother’s computer – into his brother’s document, “Joshua. I’m sorry. Sorry. Sorry. Please forgive me. God forgive us. I hope it’s not too late.”
Then Jack stood up and stretched. “Now what,” he thought. “Now what?” He leaned down into the computer again. He hit “Save!” and then turned off his brother’s computer.

He went downstairs and went outside for a walk – a long walk. It was almost Christmas and the weather outside was cold – but good for a walk. He walked and wondered, “Do I tell mom and dad about this?”

And the answer was a resounding – an obvious, “Yes. That’s the very sin and mistake I made about Joshua – this not talking to each other – this not noticing each other enough.”

And when his parents came home from their class reunion in Wisconsin, Jack told his mom and dad about what happened – and they talked and talked – without even mentioning how great the class reunion was – and that moment, that experienced changed their lives as a family for the rest of their lives – for good. Amen.

O O O O O

Painting on top: Dives and Lazarus by Martin de Vos [1532-1603]




Once more I would promote Father Jack Lavin's book, Noticing Lazarus at Our Door, Xlibris Corporation.

ON  BEING  POOR

Quote for the Day - September 26, 2010


"A north wind has no corn and a poor person no friend."


Spanish Proverb

EVERYTHING  FADES

EVERYTHING!

Quote for the Day - September 25, 2010

"Over the greatest beauty hangs the greatest ruin."

Italian proverb

WOO! WOW!

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 25 Saturday in Ordinary Time is, “Woo! Wow!”

That’s what I found myself muttering last night after I read today’s first reading from the book of Ecclesiastes or Qoheleth. [Cf. Ecclesiastes 11:9 to 12:8]

It’s a fascinating reading and I found myself going to the several biblical commentaries that I use for reference. Listen to the introduction to this book from The Anchor Bible, “Ecclesiastes is the strangest book in the Bible, or at any rate the book whose presence in the sacred canons of Judaism and of Christianity is most inexplicable.” (1)

The Collegeville Bible Commentary in its introduction to this book puts it this way: "The Book of Ecclesiastes is the most damnable book in the Bible and yet the most satisfying for those who have learned to live comfortably with doubt. That it is damnable seems clear; it has been denounced many times as cynical and provides great comfort for those who are willing to face life honestly is also a fact." (2)

In other words, “Why is this book in the Bible - a book that says God can’t be known by reason?”

In other words, “Woo! Wow! Why in the world did they put this book in the Bible? And the commentaries give evidence that this question was asked – because it’s so different from all the other books in the Jewish Bible. (3)

The only answer I could come up with is that it answers a need for some people – those who have doubts, those who are reflective, those who are skeptical, and those who are pessimistic.

After all, there are dark days. Sometimes God seems to have disappeared. And things do break down – including our bodies.

TO YOUNG PEOPLE

In today’s reading – from near the end of his book – we notice that he’s talking to young men.

I suggest you read the whole book – or at least today’s first reading – slowly and quietly and off to the side. Picture his images.

He’s telling the young to enjoy your youth – it’s not going to last.

He tells them to notice the sun – it goes down. Notice the rain and the clouds. Things are not always bright sunshine. Notice the old man who is bent over. Notice the mill. There’s not much happening there. The grinders are idle. Look in the windows and see how little is happening inside.The door is shut. The birds are silent. One day you’ll fear heights. People die. Notice the mourners walking in the street. He says that “the caper berry is without effect.” I looked up what that reference to the caper berry – losing it’s effect – meant. Surprise it was the Viagra of the day. (4) He continues. The silver cord that holds up an ornamental light is broken. The water pitcher at the well is shattered. The rope for the pulley at the well breaks and falls into the well. You can hear it going “Caplunk!”

Woo! Wow!

He’s telling the young men of his day that time is ticking. Death will turn us into dust and our life breath will return to God.

Woo! Wow!

Haven’t any of us over 70 had streams of thoughts like this when we’re watching young people playing sports and we’re in the stands or the sidelines? Or we’re at a red light on Main Street or at the bottom of Main Street and we see a dozen young people pass in front of our car – bouncing and laughing?

Woo! Wow!

It’s a universal thought – when old – to notice the young moving in ways we can longer move. Jesus tells his disciples in today’s gospel the day is going to come when I’m going to be handed over to others. However, they don’t pay attention to what he’s saying. I assume they are in the thrill of the moment – young men following and walking with and bouncing with this famous preacher Jesus and they don’t want to look at the future – just be in the immediate.

CONCLUSION

Today’s first reading is geared for young men. Let me close with a poem by John Crowe Ransom [1888-1974] called “Blue Girls” – which could be found in this same book called, “Ecclesiastes” - because it has a similar tone or flavor . It’s one of my favorite poems – especially because I can picture it – and it has a “Woo! Wow!” to it.

BLUE GIRLS

Twirling your blue skirts, traveling the sward (5)
Under the towers of your seminary, (6)
Go listen to your teachers old and contrary
Without believing a word.

Tie the white filets then about your lustrous hair
And think on more of what will come to pass
Than bluebirds that go walking on the grass
And chattering on the air.

Practice your beauty, blue girls before it fail;
And I will cry with loud lips and publish
Beauty which all our power shall never establish,
It is so frail.

For I could tell you a story which is true:

I know a lady with a terrible tongue,
Blear eyes fallen from blue,
All her perfections tarnished – and yet it is not long
Since she was lovelier than any of you.


(1) Proverbs Ecclesiastes, The Anchor Bible, translated with an introduction and notes by R. B. Y. Scott, page 191.

(2) Proverbs Ecclesiastes, The Anchor Bible, translated with an introduction and notes by R. B. Y. Scott, pages 191-208.

(3) The Collegeville Bible Commentary, The Book of Ecclesiastes, p. 64 in # 24, Song of Songs, Ruth, Lamentations, Ecclesiastes, Esther – Commentary by James A. Fischer, C.M. Confer also The New Jerome Biblical Commentary, under Ecclesiastes (Qoheleth) by Addison G. Wright, S.S. pp. 489-491

(4) Proverbs Ecclesiastes, The Anchor Bible, translated with an introduction and notes by R. B. Y. Scott, note 5, page. 255.

(5) "sward" - a grassy patch

(6) "seminary" - their school

THE ABUSE

OF 

POWER

Quote for the Day - September 24, 2010


"The love of power is oppressive in every sphere, but in the religious most of all."

Romano Guardini, The Church and the Catholic, 1953