Tuesday, May 5, 2020

May  5, 2020

LIFE’S   BIGGEST   LESSON?


What’s  life’s  biggest lesson?

That’s one of life’s best questions.

When you’re looking for a question-
to pop – when you’re at a wedding –
and you’re using crutches because
of a knee operation and the person
you’re seated next to is in a wheelchair.

Ask:  What's life's biggest lesson?

It could be, “Ask questions.”


To me at 80, my answer would be
CRUMBLE. For starters, crumble teaches 
us we’re not God. Crumble teaches us
that cookies crumble – so too toys –
and sidewalks and grandparents.

And relationships….  Relationships
crumble. Dad or mom gets a new
job in Dayton or Omaha and kids
have to go to new schools or a
girl dumps a boy. There’s better.

Ask: What’s life’s biggest  lesson?

What’s your best question? 

What's your best answer?


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020





May   5,  2020



Thought   for  Today

 “When people are least sure,  they are often the most dogmatic.”

J. K. Galbraith,
The Great Crash, 1955


Monday, May 4, 2020

May  4,  2020



IT’S  NOT  A  MOVIE

It’s not a movie.
“The End” might not come at The End.
The girl might not get the guy.
The girl might get some other guy.
Some scenes might not work.
Some lines might not work either.
Some parts might be quite boring.
It might be black and white and
we want everything in color.
Sometimes life is a comedy.
Sometimes life is a tragedy.
Sorry! Life does not give Oscars.
But there are lots of unexpected stars. 


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020



May   4, 2020






Thought for Today


“Lloyd  George once remarked that negotiating with De Valera was like picking up mercury with a fork.  De Valera replied, ‘Why doesn’t he try a spoon?’”

Bernard Baruch,
The Public Years

Sunday, May 3, 2020




TELL  US  YOUR  STORY

Tell  us your story....

Tell us what happened so far ....

Tell us your dreams ....

Tell us about your mom and dad and other significant people ....

Tell us your surprises.....

Tell us your jobs ....

Tell us where you lived ....

Tell us what you learned ....

Tell us the hurts that hurt ....

Tell us the hurts and the helps ....

Tell us about your blessings ....


Tell us about how you're using your time in this time of the 
virus.

Watch and listen to this interview of Sidney Poitier.  He was born February 20, 1927 and is still alive. 



May  3,  2020



GO  FIGURE! 
TWO FIGURES FOR GOD AND PRIEST 


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Go Figure!  Two Figures for God and Priest.”

TODAY’S READINGS

In today’s readings I noticed the image and metaphor of sheep and shepherd – in the gospel –in the second reading – and in the Psalm and Psalm response.

In today’s gospel from John I noticed this sentence: “Although Jesus used this figure of speech, the Pharisees did not realize what he was trying to tell them.”

To me - life is about a lot of “Go figuring”. 

To me - life is about transfiguration.

To me - life is about discovering who and what our models are – as we try to figure out life.

To me - life is thinking about what the key models and metaphors of life are – or ones that grab me and make sense to me.

We are made in image and likeness of God.

Now that’s difficult, so we figure that out with metaphors and images.

TOM BARRETT STORY – BECOMING A PRIEST

While working with Tom Barrett he once told the story of why we became a priest. 

He was at the OLPH novena at OLPH, Brooklyn – on a Wednesday – as an altar boy – and while watching one of the Redemptorists preaching and doing the Novena – he said, “I was following the priest and I said to myself, ‘I like what he was doing.’  Next I said, ‘I would like to do that.’  Next I said, ‘I could do that.’  Lastly I said, ‘I am going to do that.’”

His story went something like that.

It triggered in me a series of questions.  I too was an altar boy at OLPH. Where and when and why did the idea of becoming a priest someday hit me?  Why did I join the vocation club?  That meant meeting and studying Latin with Mr. Paul Peters – using Schultz’s grammar. Was it seeing Fathers  Rudy Egan and Phil Cabasino and other Redemptorists?

Were they a model on how to do life?

METAPHORS

Yesterday, when working on this homily,  when it came to the metaphors and images I was thinking of – on figuring out what a priest does – the image of priest as leaving the United States to become a Redemptorist Missionary was significant. Tom had seen Redemptorists preaching in our parish. I had seen Redemptorist priests coming into our classroom and telling us about their life in the jungles of Brazil.  That hit me – especially when I saw a Redemptorist Missionary Vocation brochure.  It showed a Redemptorist on a horse. How about that?   Wouldn’t that impact a lot of kids?

I also liked the metaphor of a priest as missionary from The Field Afar, the Maryknoll magazine.

In the novitiate I read Thunder in the Distance, the life of Pere Lebbe, the Belgian Vincentian 3 times. He worked as a missionary in China.  I read it again in Esopus, in our Major Seminary days. It certainly gave me a model and a metaphor for being a priest.

As I said, “Life is a go figure experience.”

At Esopus – the place of our major seminary - two models for God hit me.

The first was  God as Good Shepherd. Today’s gospel and today’s Psalm triggered that image for me. But at Esopus the image of God and Christ as the Good Shepherd didn’t come as words.  It was  on the tabernacle door: the Good Shepherd. That hit me.  To me it was the most central image in that chapel.  Being there for 14 years of my life – 6 years as a seminarian [1960-1966] and 8 years as a novice master [1985-1993], I saw many contenders for central image in that chapel. 

For many it was the worn step at the OLPH shrine – where thousands of future Redemptorists knelt to say a prayer.

For many it was the big mural painting over the chapel door – which would only be seen on the way out.  It featured Christ standing there and sending his disciples out into the whole world.

For me it was Good Shepherd on the tabernacle door– as model and metaphor for who and what God is.

The second metaphor and model for Christ, for God, was  reservoir. It was not a painting or an image – but more an inner image of a big reservoir. 

It hit me at Esopus that  the priest was not only a shepherd – Luke 15 becoming the central chapter and center of Luke and of Christ  - but also a reservoir – so the need to pray  to get filled.  The chapel, the library, the classroom were filling me – the trickle of thought and figuring coming into me – slowly and steadily – thoughts melting in me – thoughts becoming me.

I became clearer about the image of shepherd  than the reservoir – my first time at Esopus – but the reservoir image became me from 1960-66.

Years later, while at Lima, Ohio for 8 ½ years I saw actual reservoirs. Denis Sweeney introduced me to 3 big reservoirs – but mainly one of them – a mile around.  They were perfect for walking around them – on top of the big dirt walls that cupped the water.  The path on top was 10 yards wide at least.   Denis would run around it – and I would walk it.  He only beat me once – in going around the top – 2 times to my one time.

In those many walks – there were lots of weeks – we were not out on the road – June – Summer – July – August. I drank in the image of the priest and God as a reservoir.

In my life, I had been by a Lake in Oconomowoc, Wisconsin,  hills in Tobyhanna, Pennsylvania,  the Hudson at Esopus, the ocean at West End,  the main two images  were still God and the priest as Shepherd and Reservoir.

One is going out – like the missionary  and one is standing still like the reservoir.

I saw shepherds in Scala, Italy – where I was for a week. They would come through the tiny town every afternoon. They were the ones whom St. Alphonsus, our founder, met when he was down on the Amalfi Coast recovering from an overwork breakdown.  I also saw a shepherd on the road from Jericho up to Jerusalem.

But I got to know shepherds first in my imagination.

That’s also true for reservoir.

TWO  TALKS  THAT DEVELOPED THESE TWO IMAGES A BIT DEEPER.

Looking back into my life, “go figuring my life,”  yesterday, I thought of two talks in which I heard speakers talk about these 2 models, metaphors and figures – not my way – but in a way I tailored for my figuring life out.

One speaker underlined,  yellow marked, highlighted the 3 stories in Luke 15.  The speaker said in the Good Shepherd story and the Woman looking for the Lost coin story, God is on the move – searching and finding.  We do that as priest.  In the 3rd story, that of the prodigal son, God waits.

In the second talk, a nun in the Internovitiate Program at Ossining, New York said there at 2 images in spirituality;  the road and the rocking chair.

She said 90 + percent of spiritualities talk about the road, the way, the path, the ladder, the climb, the steps.  Less than 10 percent – especially in Western Spiritualities, it’s the waiting, the sitting, the rocking chair on the porch.

But there they are:  the priest as shepherd on the road looking for lost sheep and the priest as listener, the wisdom figure, the preacher, the story teller, sitting there as reservoir – giving cold glasses of cool water to the thirsty.

I see a retreat house as a reservoir – I spent many years of my life here at San Alfonso – and St. Alphonsus Retreat house in the Poconos – Tobyhanna, Pennsylvania.

I see the Redemptorist Missionary as the shepherd – hitting the road – in search of stray and lost sheep.

God is both shepherd and reservoir.

A priest is both shepherd and reservoir.

CONCLUSION

Go figure what this priest was talking about today.




May  3,  2020




 WHAT  I  HAVE  WRITTEN  IS  WRITTEN

Have you ever stopped to read a tattoo
on someone’s back at the beach?

Have you ever tried to read
what was on someone’s t-shirt?

How about words on a tombstone? Have
you ever stopped to read them a few times?

Did you ever notice that some people have
words from their dad still screaming at them?

Sorry! Sometimes Pilate has the power of
pen.  Sometimes the other gets to say:

Quod scripsi, scripsi.  “What I want written
on the cross, I want written on the cross.”


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020

May 3, 2020




Thought for Today

 “Folks,  you ain’t heard nothing yet.”


Al Jolson,
The Jazz Singer,
October  1927

Saturday, May 2, 2020

May  2,  2020


THE  RUB

“Ay, there’s the rub …”
Sometimes it takes time
to figure out why the other
rubs us the wrong way.

They do at times and it’s not a dream.

They rub salt in our wounds.
They rub us the wrong thing.
They do the wrong thing - at
various times and in various ways.

They do and it’s a nightmare.

The bottom line is: they are difficult.
And like Hamlet, we don’t want
to be thinking “To be or not to be”,
but solution, solution, solution.

We have a problem here and sleep is not enough. 


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020

May   2,  2020



Freud:  "He has shown us all how awful we really are, for ever nursing grudges we felt in childhood."

Rebecca West, 
Quoted Jill Craigle, 
The Times,  
December 6, 1982

Friday, May 1, 2020

May  1.  2020



JUST A COUPLE OF QUESTIONS 


“What do you do for a living.”

“I work.”

“I mean, what job do you have?”

“Oh, this and that and a couple of other things.”

“Oh …”

“Well, where do you live?”

“Not too far from here.”

“Well, where do you come from?”

“Well, also,  not that far from here.”

“Do you have a family?”

“Yep!”

“Well, how old are you?”

“Getting up there.”

‘”By any chance are you in the
Witness protection program?”

“Why are you asking that question?”



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020


May  1.   2020


Thought for  Today

“People  should  tell your children what life is all about—it’s about work.” 


Lauren  Bacall

Thursday, April 30, 2020

April  30,   2020



A  CRI  DE  COEUR


Does everyone have one:
at least one  cri  de  coeur?

I tried to tell you what I was feeling
but you would not listen.

Maybe you were also crying.

Daddy wouldn’t ….
Mommy was always  somewhere else
as she sat there while he yelled.

I wanted peace in the family,
but nobody else said anything.

I could have been a poster child
for “The Scream!”


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020


April   30,  2020

Thought  for  Today 


“Next  time you feel a bit under the weather,  give the pills and potions a miss and try reading – or writing – some poetry.  That is the advice of doctors who are taking part in a Bristol University study which shows that sometimes a few  lines of Wordsworth, Keats or Browning can overcome a patient’s need for minor tranquillisers." 

Paul Stokes,
The Daily Telegraph,
February 15, 1994

Wednesday, April 29, 2020

April   29,  2020



IRREGULAR  INNER  SOUNDS


Is there a box on a top shelf in an 
inner  closet that contains a raw 
collection of our unique inner sounds? 

I know there are outer ones: “Oooh!”; 
“Hmm!”; “Ouch!”; “No, no, no!”; “Ugh!”; 
“Bummer!”; “Crud!”; “Crap!”; “Christ!” 

I went through that box the other night. 
Sure enough, there are even some prayers 
in there.  I guess Christ is everywhere. 


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020

April 29, 2020




Thought   for  Today


“We read to know we are not alone.”

 C.S. Lewis
Picture of C.S.
Lewis  reading.

Tuesday, April 28, 2020

April  28,   2020


MAIL  

A surprise letter 
since it wasn’t Christmas: 
“Tom passed away March 13th
Please pray for him.” 
It happens from time to time. 
Another widow. 
Another winter is coming 
in the middle of the summer. 
There is a lot of this happening 
lately.  Lord, it looks like 
we need each other. 

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020



April  28,  2020 

Thought  for  Today 



“I like reality.   It tastes of bread.” 


Jean  Anouilh,  
Catch  as  Catchcan, 1960 



THE  MASS: 
DIGESTING  FOOD AND WORDS 


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 3rd Monday after Easter is,  “The Mass: Digesting Food and Words.”

We spend our lives sitting down for breakfast, lunch, supper and snacks and conversations.

We spend our lives taking in food and words.

Then we move away from tables carrying food in our stomachs and conversations in our minds.

We spend our lives digesting both.

The word “digest” – has in it – the word, "gestation" – to carry.

We take in conversations – we take in words – we digest them – we listen to them – we chew on thoughts – they become us – for and against.

READINGS

Today’s first reading - Acts 6: 8-15 -  has people coming to listen to Steven – to try to figure what he’s got – and they get stuff that they don’t get – and they get against him – words and ideas.

Today’s gospel is from John 6. As John McGowan said the other day: "It's the Eucharistic Chapter."

And we were taught by Father Gene McAlee, this chapter 6 of John has several levels - which kept on growing.  A whole earlier level centered in on wisdom – which becomes the bread of life – once the early church digested Jesus – once the wisdom became flesh – once the word became flesh.

We were talking the other day at table and the name John Corbett came up. He told me somethng very unique: the only reason he was becoming a Redemptorist was our rule. He read it and it made sense for his life.

It is a great document – which we need to digest - and feed upon.

The only reason I became  a Redemptorist was I saw and digested the Redemptorists as a  kid at O.L.P.H Brooklyn, New York.

The only thing I stayed as a priest was this: I began to see so clearly in the Mass is that it is a meal.

The only way I get the gospels is that it was put together in the context of meals

The big thing I have digested about the Redemptorists is our meals together.

Taste and see.

We eat together.

We drink together.

We digest each other.

We become each other.

If we don’t eat each other up, we leave.

If we don’t digest each other, we don’t become Redemptorists – that is this community , this province,

Taste and see.

The Mass of time called our day – is a meal, a mass of stuff we digest from table and time together.

Someone said the tongue  is forever moving – because the mind is forever moving – taking words, thoughts, deeds, in through papers, phones, TV, news, talk at table.

Communion with each other - becomes us.

CONCLUSION

Meals and minds together - is how we became who are in our family meals - we digested language - and how to be who were have become.

Life: Becoming us - digesting each other.

Amen.






Monday, April 27, 2020

April  27,  2020





LINGER

Yes, some people linger.
To buy or not to buy the # 4  
or the # 6 meal at the fast food
counter. Wait! Maybe I should 
get two scoops of ice cream,
butter pecan and rum raisin.
Then I can sit outside and watch
the world go by – slowly.  I’ve
been rushing around too fast
lately.  Maybe by just lingering, 
so and so will talk to so and so
and I’ll be more at peace with
both of them. Listening  works
better when we wait for the
other to tell us what’s really
happening. Maybe they know.
Maybe they know why the
other is  lingering – why they
are waiting – and maybe this
virus will bring us some new 
life as it  is really  lingering.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020

April  27,  2020



Thought  for  Today:

"It's important to remember that everyone has something they are dealing with, whether they are sharing it or not.  It helps to be understanding and accommodating."

Marissa Mayer, Lumi Labs Co-Founder,
from comments asked of the Time 
Magazine 100 about the best way
 to lead during times of crisis. 
Page 90, Time, April 27-May 4, 2020

Sunday, April 26, 2020


April 26, 2020


FETCH


He expected his wife
to be an airlines attendant.
It was as simple as that,
but it took her a while –
to figure this out -
to realize "Fetch" was her nickname -
but he didn't know - she knew -
that he didn't know - all this.
Getting him this
and getting him that:
a pillow, a magazine, a snack.
He never gave;
he always got.
She never sat;
she only served.
He: watching her walk
down the aisle.
She: smiling, the last one
to fasten her seat belt -
in any turbulence -
in the flight  of their life -
till one day she said -
on the 44th day of the coronavirus,
“It’s time for me to quit my job
and take another flight.”

© Andy Costello, Reflections 2020

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April 26, 2020


Thought  for  Today

“Traditional  autobiography  has  generally had a poor press.   The novelist Daphne du Maurier condemned all examples of this literary form as self-indulgent.  Others have quipped that autobiography reveals nothing bad about the writer except his memory.  George Orwell thought that an autobiography can be trusted only ‘when it reveals something disgraceful.’  His reasons?  ‘A man who gives  a good account of himself is probably lying.’  Sam  Goldwyn came to this conclusion: ‘I didn’t think anybody should write his autobiography until after he’s dead.’”  

From Autobiography – 
A Life Decoded by 
J. Craig Venter