Monday, April 15, 2019


I HAVE GRASPED YOU 
BY THE HAND

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for Monday in Holy Week is, “I have grasped you by the hand.”

I heard that message in today’s first reading from Isaiah 42:6.

I can picture that image.

HELD BY THE HAND

The little kid is scared. It’s her first day at school.  Her mom or dad or both are holding her hand as she is being led into school.

The old man is dying. He’s in hospice. His family is around the bed - and they are holding his hand.

I had a wedding on Saturday afternoon. The bridegroom  tells me at the  practice, “See that guy over there in the front bench.  When he was 12 and his sister was 9, they were at Disneyland. They weren’t in the car - when his parents were in the car  - and they were both killed.” I’m sure when those two kids went to their parents funeral Mass, when they walked into church - their hands were held by their uncles and aunts - coming down the aisle.

A neighbor dies at the age of 49.  His wife comes down the aisle - this time alone - but her neibghbor and her husband never hold hands walking across the parking lot towards the church - but this Monday morning they do.

GOD HOLDS US BY THE HAND

Isaiah - in today’s first reading - tells us that God holds us by the hand.

Picture ourselves walking into heaven God holding us by the hand.

This God who created the universe - this God who created everything - this God who gave us the gift of breath and life - this God who made all the crops - this God grasps us by the hand.

This God walks us out of the prison of darkness and into the light - walks us out holding our hand.

Kenneth Clark, in his fascinating book and in his TV documentary on Civilisation, talks about Europe in the 1800’s trying to grasp light - in the enlightment - joy in the great works of Bethoven - meaning - reason - hope - in great paintings.

That is true for every age and every person - out hands, our eyes, our ears,  are hoping to grab, grasp, answers, God, meaning.

Picture Christ’s hands nailed to the cross this week - wanting to have God his father to reach down to his son who was feeling forsaken and grasp him.

Picture Christ picturing Mary of Martha and Mary fame - just below him at Calvary - looking her in the eye - knowing she had anointed him with expensive perfume  just a short time earlier for his death.

Picture Mary his mother grasping Jesus’ hands  when they took him down from the cross.

CONCLUSION

During this Mass - take one of your hands and with it grasp your other hand and remember all those who held you by the hand during this life.

During communion at this mass when you receive Christ - hold him tight for a moment by hour hand and then enter into deeper communion with him.






Sunday, April 14, 2019


HOLY WEEK 2019:
WHY IS THIS WEEK DIFFERENT FROM ALL OTHER WEEKS?

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is: Holy Week 2019: Why Is This Week Different     from All Other Weeks?

We don’t have to be Einstein to know about the Relativity of Time.  He put his theory into various verbal boxes.  He told students at Princeton that an hour with your girlfriend can feel like 10 minutes - while 5 minutes visiting with your grandma in the nursing home - can feel like 5 hours. 

The one I like best is: “How long a minute takes depends on what side of the bathroom door you’re on.” Or “How long a sermon takes depends on who’s preaching.”  This goes for waiting for red lights to turn green - depending on how much of a rush you’re in - as well as in a dozen other human experiences.

HOLY WEEK

In Jewish homes where the Passover Meal in celebrated, the youngest member of the family asks the oldest leader of the family, “Why is this night different  than all other nights?”  And the youngest kid is told - with everyone listening, “This is the night we escaped - passed over -  from the slavery of Egypt - as we headed for the Promised Land.”

It took 40 years - but they finally made it. It must have felt much longer, because there was a lot of complaining in the desert.  “Moses! Why did we listen to you and your plans?”

Christians - Catholics are coming to the end of the 40 Days of Lent.

We are  asked today, Palm Sunday, “Why is this week different from all other weeks?

This week  we touch upon and experience some of the key final moments of Christ’s life as well as our lives.

This week we hear about Judas making his final decision to betray Jesus for 30 pieces of silver. It’s called “Spy Wednesday”.   We’ve all experienced being betrayed or sold out because of money. And those moments in our life took longer than other moments.

This week we have Holy Thursday - when Jesus has his last meal with his disciples.  It’s the Passover Meal. We  hear about his washing of their feet.  We hear his last words - powerful words of love - especially in the gospel of John.  We hear about his begging his disciples to pray with him in the garden for at least an hour.  We all have or want to be with our loved ones when they are dying - and we get angry when some members don’t show. We remember last meals with our loved ones.  I was thinking yesterday about the  last meal I had with my brother in February of 1986 at Tio Pepe’s in Baltimore.  He had brain cancer but his taste buds had come back just in time for that meal. Delicious memory. He died that March at the age of 51.

This week we have Good Friday. The arrest. The torture. The bullying in jail. The crowd who praised him on Palm Sunday were screaming for his crucifixion on this Friday. Life. It has it’s joyful and sorrowful mysteries.  Life.  It has its stations of the cross.  Life. It has its deaths.

Next Sunday we arrive at Easter: the glorious mystery - the great faith moment.

CONCLUSION

This week - Holy Week 2019 -  can be different - if we take the time to make it different.

Your move.

Check the bulletin or go on line and plan to be at least one hour with the Lord.  Okay - the Holy Saturday night service is 2 hours and 17 minutes - and the Easter Mass is usually 59 minutes and 27 seconds depending upon who’s up front and how long it feels and what’s going on in your life.


April 14, 2019

INTRIGUING   WORDS


Smorgasbord, keepsake, curmudgeon,
moss, squeaky-clean, mucilage, laminate,
steamfitter, heirloom, G-man, minestrone,
seaweed, ramification, pink, slice, jar, jaw,
trumpet, sycamore, synthesis, nickel,
minimalist, tortoise, incognito, kayak, gill,
flax, elixir, dolly, grease, sesquipedalion ....



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


April    14, 2019 



Thought for today: 

“In the childhood memories of every good cook,  there’s a large kitchen, a warm stove, a simmering pot and a mom.”  

Barbara Costiryan, 
in “Holiday Entertaining” 
New York, 22 October 1984

Saturday, April 13, 2019


April    13, 2019 

Thought for today: 


“This is the grave of Mike O’Day  
Who died maintaining his right of way.  
His right was clear, his will was strong, 
But he’s just as dead as if he’d been wrong.”


 20th century Anonymous

April 13, 2019


ORBIT

We all have various orbits:
family, friends, fellow workers,
church, and then we had those old orbits,
classmates, teams, organizations that
more or less float away from us as well.

Where we crash, spin out of control,
become confused, is when we are
spinning in two different directions
at once - like having dinner with family
and being on a iPhone at the same time.

Then there is God - who somehow
can orbit in and around all of  us -
all at the same time - but that’s
something we can’t do because
we’re not God, but we can try to be.

 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

Friday, April 12, 2019

April 12, 2019



SYMPHONY  ORCHESTRA


“Okay, attention,” someone yells out.

“Choose, your instrument!”

“Today you’re to be a violin or a drum,
a horn or a base fiddle or a glockenspiel,
a cello or a flute or a clarinet or a bell ….

“Choose one and start playing.”

"Don't just take pictures!"

"Don't just walk by."

"Smile. Tap you toes."

"Feel the beat in your heart beat"

"Clap!"

“Make music - while you’re alive.”



 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


April    12, 2019 - 


Thought for today:


“When elephants fight it is the grass that suffers.”  


Kikuyu Proverb

Thursday, April 11, 2019

April 11, 2019


DISTANCE

It’s quite a distance
from the edge of a branch
to the edge of the moon -
as the branch tries to scratch
the moon’s hard rock back
and accept that it has craters.

It’s quite a distance
from the edge of now
to the edge of my body
in my casket box - but
touch my hand and say, “Hi!”
and hear me say, “Thanks!”

 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019


April    11, 2019 


Thought for today: 


“The lie has seven endings.” 

Swahili Proverb

Wednesday, April 10, 2019

April 10, 2019


BEFORE  AND  AFTER


There’s a before,  before us - 
if we take the time to think about it. 

We have parents. They had parents. They had parents. 
And back and back and back and back and back. 

There’s a before,  before us - 
if we take the time to think about it afterwards. 

We’re the after, but we’re also the before of a 
lot more that is to come.

A rose is from a rose is from a rose is from a rose is from a rose and 
back and back to the beginning of roses and oak trees and bonsai trees. 

So too butterflies, spiders, monkeys, hippos, Rottweilers, singers, teachers,  carpenters, lawyers, nurses, speakers of the house and cleaners of the bathroom.

There’s a before,  before us 
if we take the time to think about it. 

So if - who we are, what we say, and what we do lasts, - back and back - till way, way back -  why not do the best we can do - in the here and now - right now.

We pray, we play,  we work,  we think, we talk, with words and structures 
that go back, and back, and back, and back - till before we remember back.

So I guess the message is:  we’re all connected and a lot is going 
to follow us, so best case scenario: let’s leave a great legacy. Amen.



Parvis Prayer
St. Mary's High School
April 10, 2019
36 Scholars were inducted
into the Rose Parvis 
Scholarship Program  
at St. Mary's High School,
Annapolis, Maryland 
- Prayer Reflection 
written for this occasion.
Father Andy Costello


April 10, 2019




MIND  READING?????

Monkey see, monkey do.
See no evil, hear no evil,
do  no evil, only the good.

Seeing, hearing, doing
all come from the mind,
and I can’t read your mind.

So watching, hearing, guessing,
I really don’t know, so please
tell me the why of you?

 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019

April    10, 2019

Thought for today: 

“Wisdom is not bought.” 


Niger  proverb.

Tuesday, April 9, 2019


April 9, 2019

FAILURE  BRINGS
  
Winning wins us so much.
Winning - like a dart board - is very clear.
Failure can bring us so much more.

Only 1 team can win.
Yet 67 other teams can say they made
it to the Final 68 tournament.

Failure can make us that much hungrier.
Failure can take the air out of our heads.
Failure can be a great teacher.

 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019





THIS    IS  WHAT’S  KILLING  ME

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “This Is What’s  Killing  Me.”

That one liner gives me a possible reflection point from both readings for today.

Yet - I find this message mysterious and complicated - and I don’t think I can get my hands on exactly what is going on with these 2 readings.  Sorry!

FIRST READING

In the first reading from the Book of Numbers,  we hear that snakes  are  killing people.  Moses says to the crowd in the desert, “Grab a saraph snake after it bites you, put it up on a pole and then take a good look at it.” [Cf. Numbers 21; 4-9.]

“If you do that, you will live.”  

It’s kind of a mysterious message - but that’s a possible message from what the story here is telling us.

To clarify this message, to broadcast this message, he says to make it a bronze snake - and put it up on the pole.

THE MEDICAL PROFESSION



That bronze symbol of snake on the pole should sound familiar. It’s the symbol of the medical profession.  A doctor sees a patient, examines a patient, and tries to name the sickness.

Tests…. Tests …. Tests …. The stuff of being a doctor today…. The first step is to diagnosis what’s wrong - what’s the  sickness.  Hopefully that can lead to healing that person.

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel from John 8: 21-30 refers to that story from the Book of Numbers. Jesus says he’s going to be lifted up and then you will know who I AM.

I assume that the text is referring to Jesus on the cross - and the horror of what happened to him.

I assume that these two texts - are put here - as we move towards the end of Lent.

I assume that Lent is a time of sitting and standing under the cross - and studying Jesus - where made of bronze, wooden, plaster, marble - getting us in touch with the flesh and blood Good Friday Jesus on the cross.

Jesus, the Healer, allows the same thing to happen to him.  He is nailed to a pole after telling us: “This is what kills you.”

If we read the crucifixion story - we can pick up the anger, the suffering, righteousness, the spitting on others,  crucifying others,  yelling at others….

People have been doing these horrible types of downing others -  down through the years - in all kinds of ways and means.

The Christian enters into all this - into the passion - death - and then the resurrection of Christ.

So once more Lent is a time of sitting and standing under the cross - and studying Jesus - bronze, wooden, plaster, marble

WHAT KILLS YOU?

I think the question: “What kills me?” is an important question to ask.

How do we crucify ourselves?

It could be a $20 dollar bill. Jesus was sold for 30 pieces of silver.

It could be food.

It could be over binging by watching television  or the computer into mesmeration. Is that  killing me?

We need to name our self-destroyers - or family destroyers.

CONCLUSION

This theme - this looking at what kills us - what crucifies us - should be in the mix of what we’re going to be reflecting on as we move to the end of Lent and as we move closer and closer to Holy Week  - which is next week. Amen.



April    9, 2019 




Thought for today: 

“Now I can say loudly and openly what I have been saying to myself  on my knees.”  


Bob Dylan, on being asked 
to compose sacred music - 
recalled on his death May 24, 1974

Monday, April 8, 2019



WEAPONS  OF  CHOICE

 INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 5th Monday in Lent is, “Weapons of Choice.”

Today’s two readings feature two stories of women caught in traps set up by men.  Check them out: Daniel 13: 1- 62 and John 8: 1-11

They feature antagonism and violence - rock throwing and accusations.

MARRIAGE PREPARATION TEST

When I meet with couples who are going to get married at St. Mary’s, we  go through this Pre-Marriage Inventory [PMI].

In the communications section I ask the couple, “What is your weapon of choice?”

Most of the time - couples hearing that question - or one of them - looks at me quite strangely.

Hey they are going to give each other a ring. They are not going into a boxing ring.

But sometimes a couple get the question and they say, “Silence!”

That seems to be the weapon of choice of many people around the world.  I know it’s mine. And it works - at least for me - because when I simply become silent - I don’t fall into a verbal trap I don’t like.

ROCKS

Back when we were cavemen and women, we threw rocks.

The dirty old men in today’s first reading wanted to execute Susanna - but when they are caught in a lie - they are executed.  It doesn’t say how they were killed.  Rocks were very much a standard way of killing folks.
The men in today’s gospel - yesterday’s gospel as well - wanted to throw rocks at the woman.  Was it to silence her - lest she tell their wives where they were.

Rock throwing is still going on around the world.

I remember seeing a bronze statue from the Iron Curtain - Soviet Union days.  It has a guy reaching for a rock and the title of the statue was, “Rocks the Arms of the Common Person - or Proletariat.”

TWO QUESTIONS

Why do people reach for weapons?

What is your weapon of choice?

MOTIVE

As to motive - and the need to reach for a weapon - is it anger or jealousy or fear?  Is it because we didn’t get our way?

CONCLUSION: ROCK, PAPER, SCISSORS

If we use words as rocks to throw at people, behind their back or to their face,   write them down on paper - see what we’re saying - and then cut that paper up.

Or maybe we should sit down with a person whom we want to throw rocks at and say instead,  “Do you want to talk?”  Better: “Do we want to listen to each other?”




YOU  NEVER KNOW

You never know whether the person in the 
picture next to you at your graduation is the 
person next to you at a movie 25 years later. 

Or the nurse who brought you to your mom for 
the first time at the hospital is the person you 
just checked out at the grocery 35 years later. 

Or the person you just let out into traffic ahead 
of you - did the same thing to you - 14 years ago  - different street - different car - same persons. 


  © Andy Costello, Reflections 2019 



April    8, 2019 


Thought for today: 

“If it sounds like writing, I rewrite it.”  


Elmore Leonard, 
Newsweek,
April 22, 1985

Sunday, April 7, 2019


ONE OF YOUR 10


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “One of Your 10!”

When I lived in Pennsylvania I used to go see a Jesuit Priest, Frank Miles, a neat guy, for spiritual direction. I also saw him for a few 8 day directed retreats - which were silent retreats as well.

In a directed retreat, one method is to give the retreatant a single Biblical Text for the day or two days or for a short period of time - and the retreatant would spend a couple of hours of prayer, chewing on and digesting that text.

Well, Frank Miles gave me some wonderful texts - that fit my needs - and what was hitting me on that time of retreat - things I wanted to talk about.

It hit me that he really knew Bible texts in a special way. He owned them. So I asked him, “How many Bible texts do you own?”

He asked what I meant.

I explained.

“Oh,” then he said, “I get what you’re asking.”

Then he said, “I don’t know. Let me think about it.”

The next day he said, “About 75.”

The Bible is this portable library of some 73 different  books or scrolls - and this Jesuit priest said, “75 were his. He owned them.”

TODAY’S GOSPEL

Today’s gospel has a Bible text - that all of us should own.

It should be part of our spiritual  repertoire and value system.  The text is this. You already know it. I’ve heard you say it at various times in your life. Here it is: “Let the one among you who is without sin  be the first to throw a stone at her.”

That’s John 8:7

Use your rosary and say that text on your beads, 59 times.  Think about it. Pray with it. Make it even more your own.

That’s one text you own.

The title of my homily for today is, “One of Your 10.”

I’m not saying to come up with 75.  I’m suggesting 10.

You  have a couple of texts that you already own and you’ve said those words - that text - that saying from time to time in your life.

I like Galatians 6:2. I own it, “Bear one another’s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the Law of Christ.”  Come up with the best translation of the text that you like,   Galatians 6:2  is also  put this way in English,  “Help one another to carry these heavy loads, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

And I like John 10:10.  Actually John 10:10 B. “I have come that you might have life and that you live it to the full.”

If one of your deepest and best texts is an old translation, take that as a possible sign that this text has been in you for a long time.

So  I’m asking in this homily, “Come up with 10.”

NOW BACK TO THIS NOT THROWING STONES TEXT

The men who dragged this woman to Jesus - actually  were hoping to use his response as an excuse to throw stones at Jesus.

We hear in these Lenten texts especially - Pharisees and other groups wanting to kill Jesus.

Once we catch the power, the lightning, the wisdom, the depth of meaning in a text, it’s then that it can become our own.

SUGGESTION: NATHANIEL HAWTHORNE

If you want to get at this text in John about sin and stone throwing, I suggest reading Nathaniel Hawthorne.

He has two main novels and lots of short stories.

He lived in Massachusetts between 1804 to 1864.

However,  he wrote a lot about the mindset of the Puritans in New England from a much earlier time.  The Scarlett Letter takes place between 1642 and 1649.  Students of Hawthorne thought he wrote best about this earlier period of New England life compared to his time: the 1850’s and 1860.

The Puritans came to New England with the hope of purifying the Church of England.

The Puritans were purists. They were sometimes called, “Precisionists.”

They were stern - strict - and very off on sin.

They were not too happy about having fun.  They didn’t think well about young people dancing - for example around the so called “May Pole.”

Maturity meant sadness and sobriety - strictness and sternness.

You can find this type of person in all religious groups.

The key is to catch ourselves when we are being this type of person.

The woman dragged to Jesus in today’s gospel is caught in Adultery.

Hester Prynne - in The Scarlett Letter - has a child out of wedlock. It’s assumed that her husband was dead: Roger Chillingsworth.  She is tried - condemned - made to wear the scarlet letter A - for adultery - on the front of her robe.

Where is Jesus when he is needed?

Hawthorne was a Christian - but didn’t go to church. His house was his church on Sundays.

He sided with the Puritans a bit - but more with the transcendentalists - for a while.

The Puritans saw sin - the transcendentalists saw light and wisdom.

Hawthorne is complex - and he changed in time discovering more darkness and duplicity in people’s insides than when he was younger. 

Every one of us has to ask that question: as I age am seeing more emptiness and sin or more more love and joy in others?  Am I mellowing and laughing more or am I becoming, “The Scream” painting as I cross the bridges of life.


As I just said, “Hawthorne is complex.”  He also saw that Hester didn’t commit the worse sin in life.  Sexual sins are never that.  Food too. The real sins are the deeper sins.  C.S. Lewis also said that loud and clear. Dante too with his levels of hell.

Hawthorne saw that Hester sinned. But the worst sin, the deeper sin - was the sin of pride in the Puritans who didn’t want to see their own sins - but only others sin.

There are 3 main Characters in Hawthorne’s novel:  The Scarlet Letter, Hester, Arthur Dimmesdale, and Hester’s husband Roger Chillingsworth, Hester Prynne is the least sinful.  Dimmsdale is next. He’s the minister who is the father of Hester’s baby, The minister changes - grows - especially in understanding human beings - but Roger Chillingsworth doesn’t and commits the worst sin: revenge and can’t forgive Dimmsdale - and basically destroys himself in his fury.

As I read up on Hawthorne I heard various specialists say that Hawthorne learned a lot in his writing and studying all of this: that the human heart can be depraved - weak.

Hawthorne is trying to figure out how much we suffer from the attitudes and ways of our great grandparents etc.  His great grandparents were Puritans - and one might have been very much a part of the Salem Witch trials.

Hawthorne had very negative understandings of Catholicism and he thought we Catholics were fluff without depth because of confession and how easy we can sense  forgiveness and receive absolution.


The funny story is that his daughter Rose becomes a Catholic and a famous Dominican nun.

CONCLUSION

Enough.....

April    7, 2019

Thought for today: 


“There is an old legend which tells of a powerful genius who  promised  a beautiful maiden a gift of rare value if she would go through a field of corn and select the largest and ripest ear, and in doing so she was not to pause nor go backward nor wander  hither and thither. The value of the gift was to be in proportion  to the  size and perfection of the ear.  The maiden passed by many fine ears, but so anxious was she to get the largest and most perfect that she kept on without plucking any.  Then the ears began to grow smaller, until finally they became so stunted that she was ashamed to pluck any, and not being allowed to go backward, she came out on the other side without any.  For lack of decision she missed the very gift she coveted.”  

Tesa F. Best