Wednesday, September 7, 2016

September 6, 2016


ROCK  SOLID

The Insurance Man said,
“It’s rock solid. Guaranteed ….”
Then her husband died.

 © Andy Costello, Reflections 2016


WHAT A DIFFERENCE!

How many times in life have we heard someone say, "What a difference!"

How many times in life have we heard someone say to us, "You've changed! You're different. In fact, what a difference!"

And for days afterwards we wondered,  "What were they talking about? What did they mean?"

Was it the new glasses?

Was it the new hairdo?

Every year our parish - along with our schools and our religious education programs - has a theme for the year - coinciding with the school year. 

This year our theme is, "Go Make A Difference!"

Obviously, it's not about looks or glasses - but about attitudes and values, service and loving our brothers and sisters.

Change is slow....

Change is invisible - sort of.... well while changing.

Wrinkles have a slow crawl - so too beards - and so too tires on our cars - wearing out - slowly.

When we get new tires - better - when we get a new car, "What a difference."

A son or a daughter falls in love.... and their face, their way of being with us .... changes. What a difference!

A younger sister is always in her older sister's shadow - then the older sister goes off to college - at a distance - and the younger sister comes out of her hole - out of her room - it's Groundhog's day and she is no longer in her sister's shadow. Grandma says to son - her dad - about her, "Wow, she's changed. What a difference!"

A couple are fighting - fighting - fighting - till their 3 kids one night are all alone - and mom and dad are both out somewhere - but not together - and all 3 talk about their parents. Surprise, both parents come home almost at the same time and the oldest daughter says in a commanding voice, "Mom ... Dad ... sit!"

Then she says, "We were just talking about you. Enough is enough. Either break up or go for counseling. The status quo stinks. The 3 of us are sick and tired of hearing both of you, bickering, bickering, bickering."

Silence. 

And mom and dad are shocked, surprised, stunned, and they go for counseling. 

And a few years later, while at the microphone for their 25th anniversary, they tell their  kids and family and friends, "We wouldn't be here today - except for our kids. What a difference they made in our life! Thank you!"

Tears.

A class bully moved to the west coast - and the following year - the kids in that class on the east coast said in a dozen different ways, "When he was gone. What a difference in our class!"

The shy kid gets in the band.... The lazy kid gets on the football team.... The grandmother in the nursing home discovers BINGO ... The widower discovers bridge .... A woman's group decides to get Fitbits - and besides their reading group - they become a walking group - 2 days a week. 

What a difference.

Jesus heals a blind person - a guy with a withered hand - and saves a woman who was about to be stoned to death.

What a difference.

Someone reads his and changes for the better.... and someone seeing them, experiencing them says, "What a difference!"







Tuesday, September 6, 2016


LAWSUITS


INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 23 Tuesday in Ordinary Time is, “Lawsuits.”

That’s the specific issue that shows up in today’s first reading from 1st Corinthians 6: 1-11.

Last night I read the readings for today to see if I could come up with an interesting and a helpful theme or topic for a short homily.

Lawsuits was a key issue in the beginning of today’s first reading - and then a bunch of sexual issues at the end of the reading. The gospel has the theme of Jesus praying before deciding.  That’s a very smart move.

Wanting to know more about lawsuits in the city of Corinth around the year of 50’s - grabbed me.

So I grabbed a few  commentaries on First Corinthians to see what they say about lawsuits and the first part of today’s first reading. [1]

It was interesting on what William Barclay said. He usually gives details I don’t know about - or have forgotten. I often wonder where he had the time and the energy to pull together all the information he has gathered.

A FEW COMMENTS ON LAWSUITS

So a few comments from commentaries on lawsuits.

Paul has a Jewish background - but he was also from Tarsus - a Greek town in Cilicia  - but it was also a Roman town - which made him a Roman Citizen - so he would have various scenarios in his mindset.

For starters, Paul would know what the Jewish communities did when there was a disagreement about money, property and personal injury.  Often you would try to settle the situation by talking to each other. If that didn’t work, you’d go to the village rabbi - and try to settle it that way.

Well, here in Corinth, Paul found out that the Greeks were really off on lawsuits - a lot more than his Jewish counterparts.

Barclay doesn’t have enough ancient writings about what precisely was going on in Corinth, but he found literature on lawsuits in Athens at the same time, so he bases his commentary on that.

Instead of going to the elders, the Greeks ended up going to court a lot more.

First step with the Greeks when it came to a possible lawsuit. Go to private arbitrators. Each side would get an arbitrator and a third was chosen - whom both sides would accept. Then both sides with their arbitrators would appear before a judge.

If that didn’t work in a Greek lawsuit, you would go to a court called the Forty. Then they referred the matter to a public arbitrator.  These arbitrators would be all local citizens in their 60th year - at least this is what they did in Athens. I’m sure human nature and people being people - some would and could get out of this civic duty. 

If this didn’t work, then big cases had to be settled by juries - that might consist of 1000 to 6000 citizens - all of whom had to be 30 years or over.

That’s what Barclay said was done in Athens. Sounds rare and too complicated for me.

Moreover I began wondering what they would do in small towns - but what  I just mentioned from Barclay was very interesting.

There were no TV’s - and therefore no Judge Judy - so big cases must have been the talk of the town.

We know that Paul took his case to Rome - when he was charged for being a rabble rouser and a Christian.

Reading this stuff was helpful, because now that is one more issue - lawsuits - or how folks settle money or property or physical hurt issues in ancient times - and I’ll wonder about from all times down through the ages.

BACK TO JESUS

Stepping back, I said to myself, “Of course there were court cases in the time of Jesus.”

In the gospel we hear about brothers coming to Jesus to have him settle a money dispute. Jesus said settle your problems yourselves before going to court over something and you cost yourself a fortune. Jesus at times talked about Judges. Jesus was arrested and put on trial and the crowd made the decision, “Crucify him!”

So it struck me: expect this in every human situation. There are always going to be money or property fights.

ST. ALPHONSUS

Of course…. Right before us is a statue of St. Alphonsus who was a lawyer - back in the early 1700’s - who lost a law suit over a property deal. We were taught he made a mistake in reading a key detail. Now some of our historians say that he lost the case because of a well-placed bribe - and not from his side.

What to do, get a good lawyer.What to do, talk to others.

What to do, pray. In today’s gospel Jesus went into the mountains to pray before making his big decision on whom to call by name. 


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NOTES


[1] William Barclay, The Letters to the Corinthians, Revised Edition, pp. 48-51; The Navarre Bible, Corinthians, pp. 77-79;

Monday, September 5, 2016

September 5, 2016

SMOTHERED

Sitting in church after Mass -
watching the altar server
putting out the candles….

No air …. Smothered….
The candle goes out ….

She felt that way in
her marriage at times ….

Then she spotted light
coming through the
stained glass windows.
  
She made the sign of the cross -
got up - walked outside - feeling
free - breathing in the fresh air.


© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016

SOMETHING  BEAUTIFUL
FOR  GOD

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily is, “Something Beautiful for God.”

Today we celebrate Mother Teresa as a Saint - September 5th. She died this day - September 5, 1997.

Pope Francis said yesterday - at her canonization - that she’ll always be known as Mother Teresa. I find myself thinking of her with that name - and not as St. Teresa of Kolkatta.  In fact, I am not sure how to spell Calcutta - with a K and an A.  I also can’t pronounce or spell her original name: AnjezĂ« Gonxhe Bojaxhiu.

Besides that we have those other two great Saint Theresa’s - Avila and Lisieux.

I was asking myself: “When did I first hear about Mother Teresa?”

I think it was when I heard about and watched Malcolm Muggeridge’s in the 1969 TV movie and documentary “Something Beautiful for God.”  It then came out as a book in 1971.

Here was someone doing something beautiful for God.  I assume we all added, “Something beautiful for the many people she helped: the poor, the dying, those with HIV/AIDS, the sick, the hungry,  the children, the homeless, the drug addicts, the alcoholics.”

I assume Malcom Muggeridge was one of the first publicists to put her into the public view - and once that happened - all of us felt urges to do something beautiful for those who were in non-beautiful situations.

WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED SO FAR ABOUT MOTHER TERESA?

What’s your take on Mother Teresa?

The first thing was simply and dramatically to know about her and what she did with her life. The theme for our schools and parish this year is, “Go make a difference.”  Mother Teresa certainly did.

Next she founded the Missionaries of Charity - some 4,500 strong - working in a 133 different countries in the world. Her nuns are in Italy, India and Iceland. How about that? When I heard Iceland - I thought, “Surprise!”

I once heard someone say that religious orders in the Catholic Church make it if the founder of a new order is strong. Better if she or he is a dictator. No meetings - no discussion - just give orders and get going with what you’re being called to do. That’s a theory - that I never checked out - or read much about - but I assume is true -  at least as far as Mother Teresa is mentioned.  You get a lot of things done - and done fast - if everyone follows your orders.

I heard that she wanted every one of her sister’s convents to be the same. I heard that in one of her places - someone put in couches for the sisters and out they went into the street.

Next, the complaints…. and the criticisms.  She was a human being. We heard that her original order - the Sisters of Loreto where she started - some were glad to see the back of her.

If you don’t like someone, you’ll things you don’t like and vice versa.

She was a great fund raiser. Some complained about who gave her money and others complained about where the money went. Some was used to build new convents for her nuns. Of course …. Hello!

Some complained that she could have come up with better ways of keeping people alive - instead of having houses for the dying.

Some complained that they could have had better needles and cleaner places.

She received the Nobel Peace Prize and many, many awards.

One last comment would be the following.  I’ve heard nuns frustrated with priests and others who raved about Mother Teresa and didn’t give enough affirmation to nuns who were working their tails off.  The Catholic Church in the United States would not be what it is today - without all the work nuns did here and around the world. I could hear them saying, “What are we chopped liver - giving our lives in classrooms, hospitals, visiting the sick, etc.?

There was a nun in my sister’s order  of nuns, the IHM’s of Scranton, Sister Adrian Barrett [1929-2015] I never talked to her, but I spotted her a few times. She was short like Mother Teresa. She had a smile that was better than Mother Teresa’s smile. She did lots and lots and lots of service to lots and lots of poor folks and there was a TV Public Television documentary on her entitled, Sister Adrian, the Mother Teresa of Scranton. It was narrated by Martin Sheen.  I don’t know - but I wonder if she  and her sisters would prefer she be simply called, Sister Adrian a Great Servant of the Poor.


CONCLUSION

So that’s a few comments about Mother Teresa on her first feast day as a saint. In time what will be her title: Patron saint of the dying, those with AIDS, India, wrinkles, or what have you. Smile.


Sunday, September 4, 2016

September 4, 2016



RADIANCE

We know the radiance of the sun -
dancing on the tops of the morning
ocean waves - running in towards
the shore - or the blinding light of the
sun glancing off an afternoon window -
or on a full moon - in a cloudless sky -
at midnight. We know that radiance.

But we also see the radiance of an
engagement ring on the girl nobody
expected would ever marry or the
sight of that first born great granddaughter
brought to see great granny at the nursing
home - or a son or a daughter coming back
home to God and church this morning.



© Andy Costello, Reflections 2016

FAMILY ISSUES

INTRODUCTION

The title of my homily for this 23 Sunday in Ordinary Time [C] is, “Family Issues.”

When I read today’s readings - all  3 of them - as well as the psalm - I went, “Oooh!  Where do we go with this stuff?”

Here are the readings if you want to check them out:
              Wisdom 9: 13-18b;
              Psalm 90:3-4, 5-6. 12-13. 14. 17;
              Philemon 9-10, 12-17;
              Luke 14: 25-3e

Hating parents, brothers and sisters, even oneself, and putting Christ first - that does not sound like Christ stuff - especially in the Gospel of Luke - the Gospel of Mercy -  our gospel for this year. What’s that about?

Building towers with insufficient funds, fighting battles with two few soldiers, not letting our possessions possess us - could babble a bit about that - but what to say?

The first reading from the book of Wisdom  - reflecting on the mind of God - not being able to understand the why of God - oh yeah, we all do that one - we all have our questions about how God works - especially in times of storms - personal - regional - the stuff on the coastlines of our lives.

The Psalm for today - Psalm 90 - that God is our refuge - yes - the steadiness of God - yes - yet God as the psalmist or song writer puts it - what are we compared to a thousand years in the mind of God? Our  sense of time is this: old is 70, 80, 90 years - or less. Hey last week in the papers they had a story about fossil bits of ancient bacteria embedded in stones in Western Greenland that go back  3.7 billion years ago. The story said that they are  220 million years older than the oldest stuff from Western Australia - that was estimated to be 3.48 billion years ago. No wonder we describe some folks as old fossils.

The second reading from Philemon - - sounds like PokĂ©mon. It’s a little known - a little used letter - of Paul that is dated around 57. Paul now old, now in prison in Rome or Ephesus - is awaiting his trial. He wants to send his run-a-way slave Onesimus who was helping Paul with his preaching - back to Philomen his owner. Interesting. Intriguing. Could tie that into what Georgetown is doing now with its slave history. By the way, what’s your take on that - if you’ve been following that story in the papers or on line.

So where to go with a homily - and I haven’t really said anything yet.

So let me say and trigger a few things about family issues - because Jesus brings that up in today’s gospel and also because “Don’t we all have have family issues - all the time?”

Relax - next Sunday we have Luke 15 - the best chapter with the 3 great parables on mercy: the Lost Sheep, the Lost Coin and the Lost Son.

So some stuff on family - family issues.

How are you doing with your family issues?  What’s going on in your family lately?

How about 3 quotes and 3 issues - and see if they trigger some car talk on the way home today - or when you’re just sitting there with other family members.

THREE QUOTES

Everyone always quotes this quote from Anna Karenina by Tolstoy when it comes to family, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”  It’s a great quote because it triggers a lot of, “Wait a minute…. Let me hear that again.” “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”  Do you agree with that?

Thomas Fuller [1654-1734] said, “He that has no fools, knaves nor beggars in his family must have been begotten by a flash of lightning.”

Nora Ephron way back in 1986 said, “Your basic extended family today includes your ex-husband or -wife, you ex’s new mate, your new mate, possibly your new mate’s ex and any new mate that your new mate’s ex has acquired.” She added,  “It consists entirely of people who are not related by blood, many of whom can’t stand each other.”

THREE ISSUES

Now let me see if I can come up with 3 issues for homework for everyone this week.

Could I come up with a good sounding slogan? Like Meet, Greet, Seat, Eat.

Or like the old one: “The family that prays together, stays together.” The numbers go up if families pray together - better if they have God in their mix - and more important prayer at home besides church, temple, mosque or what have you? Of course you’d expect to hear that in church - but check out the numbers. The numbers of Catholics who go to church - is down to under 35% and the number of family breakups are going up. Talk about that in your own marriages and families. Here you are in church this morning. Visually I see numbers of church goers going down - and stories about kids not going to church going up.

Pope Francis said to put this on your refrigerator door: “The 3 most important sentences in every family should be: May I, Thank you, and I’m sorry.”

That was on our refrigerator door in our rectory. Someone took it down.

Let me give the following 3 - unless you’ve already gone off on something I’ve already said - or you already in your afternoon.

Here are 3 family issues: meeting, meals and marriage.

ONE - MEETING

Families gotta do things together. Families gotta meet together. I’m very aware from being part of over 30 Kairos retreats with our high school seniors - that family schedules are very tough these days. There are lots and lots and lots of this and that’s and that’s and this-isses. Lots.

Suggestion: have a pow wow - a family meeting once a month - and talk about, “How are we doing as a family?” Everyone has to be present.  Issues have to be brought up: from dishes to doing things together.

Over in the rectory we meet at 9 AM on the second Tuesday of every month. There is an agenda and an agenda list to write in what folks want to talk about. Underneath so much in life for kids from 4 to 40 - 8 to 80 - is the fairness question.

For a format use the power cycle method: Evaluation, Recommendations, Decision, and Do it - do the decisions - besides the dishes.

SECONDLY MEALS

At every high school retreat, the 50 or so young people are divided into small groups of about 7. So I get a small group - for 4 days and I ask the following question every time: what’s it like in your family when it comes to meals together.

I want kids to hear what other families do. Some don’t do meals together. Some do. I want to plant the seed for when they are parents that they eat together.

To me that’s a key family practice and a key family value.

At a meeting here in this church a week or so ago for parents for freshmen coming into our high school, the suggestion was made to eat together at least once a month. I wanted to scream, “More!”

I wrote a whole book on the mass that’s been rejected 3 times already where I talk about the Mass as a meal and family meals. We have a lot of drop outs.

Meet and talk about meeting and eating and talking to each other.

THIRDLY - AND LASTLY

Married couples ought to meet and talk about the state of their union at least once a month.

Couples got to talk about date nights, escapes, mini-honeymoons, “How are we doing hon?”

A few couples have told me they got a good book on marriage - got two copies - and go through it together.

CONCLUSION

Enough already.